Active Parenting of Teens

by Popkin, Michael H.

• ISBN13: 9781597232319
• ISBN10: 1597232319
• Edition: 3rd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-10-16
• Publisher: Active Parenting

Summary

The challenge of successfully ushering children through their teen years has always been among parents' hardest-won achievements. But in today's society, where children seem to become adults overnight, and where they often make decisions about drugs, sexuality, and violence before they understand the consequences, a parent's job is more important than ever. So how can you ensure that your teens develop the skills and character they need to not only survive but to thrive as they gain independence?

Author Biography

Michael H. Popkin, Phd, is the author of over twenty books and videos on parenting, including Taming the Spirited Child and Active Parenting Now. A frequent media guest, he has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Montel, PBS, CNN, and many others. He lives with his wife and teenage son in Atlanta and misses his daughter, who is in college.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgements	p. vii
Introduction	p. ix
The Active Parent	p. 1
Another Tough Century for Teenagers	p. 1
The Tasks of Adolescence	p. 5
The Purpose of Parenting	p. 9
What Qualities of Character Are Important for Teens to Develop?	p. 11
What Skills Will Teens Need for the 21st-century Workplace?	p. 14
Styles of Parenting	p. 15
Why Reward and Punishment often Backfire	p. 20
Control versus Influence	p. 22
Your Parent-Teen Relationship: Build It and They Will Come	p. 23
Mutual Respect	p. 24
The Method of Choice	p. 25
Ethnic Identity Development	p. 27
Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence: Storms at Sea	p. 29
Family Enrichment Activity: Taking Time for Fun	p. 31
Family Meeting: Choosing a Fun Family Activity	p. 32
Home Activities	p. 33
Chapter 1 Guide Sheets	p. 34
Winning Communication	p. 39
The Gift of Problems	p. 41
Who Owns the Problem?	p. 42
Communication: The Road to Cooperation	p. 45
Mixed Messages	p. 46
Avoiding Communication Blocks	p. 47
The Heartbreak of Discouragement	p. 50
Active Communication	p. 51
The ôPalms Upö Technique	p. 55
Self-Disclosure	p. 56
Putting Active Communication to Work	p. 58
Family Meeting: Getting to Know Your Teen Better	p. 59
Family Enrichment Activity: Letter of Encouragement	p. 60
Home Activities	p. 63
Chapter 2 Guide Sheets	p. 64
Responsibility and Discipline	p. 72
What Is Responsibility?	p. 73
Effective Discipline and the Problem-Handling Model	p. 77
Basic Discipline Methods	p. 80
Advanced Discipline Methods	p. 85
The FLAC Method	p. 94
Family Meeting: Problem Solving Using the FLAC Method	p. 96
Parenting and Anger	p. 99
Family Enrichment Activity: Positive öIö Messages	p. 103
Home Activities	p. 105
Chapter 3 Guide Sheets106
Building Courage, Redirecting Misbehavior	p. 110
Courage: One from the Heart	p. 111
Self-Esteem: One from the Mind	p. 112
The Thinlc-Feel-Do Cycle	p. 114
Four Ways We Sometimes Discourage	p. 119
Turning Discouragement into Encouragement	p. 122
Self-Esteem, Courage, and Body Image	p. 131
Understanding Teen Behavior: Purpose, not Cause	p. 132
Five Goals of Teen Behavior	p. 133
Positive and Negative Approaches to the Five Goals	p. 136
How to Determine a Teen's Goal	p. 137
Redirecting Your Teen's Behavior	p. 138
Family Meeting: Problem-Prevention Talks	p. 150
Family Enrichment Activity: Teaching Skills	p. 153
Home Activities	p. 155
Chapter 4 Guide Sheets	p. 156
Drugs, Sexuality and Violence: Reducing the Risks, Part 1	p. 162
Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence: The Think-Feel-Do Cycle	p. 164
Ten Strategies to Prevent High-Risk Behavior	p. 169
Model and teach positive values and choices	p. 170
Educate teens about the risks	p. 175
Filter OUT negative influences and IN positive ones	p. 180
Establish clear guidelines for behavior	p. 186
Establishing a No-Use Rule	p. 188
Family Meeting: Preventing High-Risk Behavior	p. 189
Family Enrichment Activity: Expressing Love	p. 190
Home Activities	p. 191
Chapter 5 Guide Sheets	p. 192
Drugs, Sexuality and Violence: Reducing the Risks, Part 2	p. 197
Drugs, Sexuality, and Violence: More Prevention Strategies	p. 199
Monitor and supervise teen behavior	p. 199
Work with other parents	p. 201
Provide healthy opportunities for challenge	p. 202
Consult about how to resist peer pressure	p. 203
Identify and confront high-risk behavior	p. 210
Stages of Drug Use	p. 211
Confronting Your Teen	p. 214
Calmly manage a crisis	p. 219
Family Council Meetings	p. 221
Family Enrichment Activity: In Our Family	p. 224
Letting Go	p. 225
Home Activities	p. 227
Active Communication Activity Answer Key	p. 228
The Active Parenting of Teens Video-Based Program	p. 230
Resource Guide	p. 231
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