Alternatives to Domestic Violence : A Homework Manual for Battering Intervention Groups

by Fall, Kevin A.; Howard, Shareen

• ISBN13: 9780415949521
• ISBN10: 0415949521
• Edition: 2nd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2004-08-27
• Publisher: Routledge

Summary

Alternatives to Domestic Violenceis a practical, hands-on workbook designed for counselors to help abusers recognize and deal with the issues underlying their behavior. Each technique presented in this manual has been tested in actual groups and refined for inclusion. The authors provide case studies and exercises to stimulate active participation by group members. Topics covered include: defining abuse, creating trusting relationships, giving and receiving respect, taking responsibility for actions and creating effective communication. The second edition ofAlternatives to Domestic Violenceincludes many new features, including two new chapters: an introductory chapter titled "Before Starting Group" and an additional chapter on "Religion and Domestic Violence." The introductory chapter orients group members to the group process as well as the specific workings of a domestic violence group. This workbook is a necessary tool for all psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, andcounselors involved in battering intervention programs. The second edition includes new original stories from group members that serve to illuminate topic concepts as well as updated exercised. The authors have been using this book in different states for the past five years, and have made their revisions to the text based on their interactions with actual domestic violence groups. The result is a text that has been improved through first hand, clinical usage: ineffective exercises have been weeded out and replaced with exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in groupwork. Patterned after recognized approaches including the Duluth Model and AMEND (Abusive Men Exploring New Directions), it is easily integrated into existing curricula.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	vii
Preface to the Second Edition	ix
Introduction for Group Leaders	xi
Introduction for Group Members	xv
What You Need to Know Before Starting Group	1	(10)
Expectations vs. the Reality of Groupwork	2	(3)
Why Isn't She in This Group? and Other Beginner's Questions	5	(2)
The Art of Self-Discipline and the Role of Chaos	7	(2)
Brian's Story and the Wall of Wisdom	9	(2)
Defining Abuse and Battering	11	(8)
Defining Abuse and Battering	12	(7)
Achieving Nonviolence	19	(18)
The Continuum of Controlling Behaviors	20	(4)
Personal Continuum of Violence	24	(4)
Common Bonds of the Experience of Violence	28	(5)
Article Homework Assignment	33	(2)
William's Story	35	(2)
Exploring and Defeating Intimidation	37	(16)
Adam's Story	38	(2)
Supper Time!	40	(3)
David's Story	43	(3)
Time-Out vs. Walking Away	46	(7)
Creating a Trusting Relationship	53	(12)
Sam's Story	54	(2)
Wall of Obstacles	56	(3)
Trust Tube	59	(4)
Exploring Group Trust	63	(2)
Giving and Receiving Respect	65	(12)
Emotional Bank Account	66	(3)
Fear and Respect	69	(3)
Respect Letter	72	(2)
Guillermo's Story	74	(3)
Accountability: Taking Responsibility For Yourself	77	(24)
Defining Accountability	78	(3)
Your Excuses/Your Behavior	81	(4)
External and Internal Accountability	85	(3)
Defenses Against Accountability	88	(6)
Accountability Editor	94	(3)
Jim's Story	97	(4)
Maintaining Positive Sexual Relationships	101	(26)
Sexually Respectful Behavior Checklist (Pre and Post)	102	(3)
Sexual Expectations	105	(2)
Sexual Mythology	107	(5)
Jason's Story	112	(2)
Rape and Male Activism	114	(7)
Exploring Intimacy	121	(3)
Lonnie's Position on Pornography	124	(3)
Negotiating a Partnership	127	(22)
Partnership Issues	128	(3)
What Makes a Good Partnership?	131	(3)
Money, Money, Money	134	(2)
How I Feel about Money	136	(3)
Negotiating Time	139	(3)
Working on a Budget	142	(4)
Frankie's Story	146	(3)
Cooperating Through Good Communication	149	(26)
Rules of Communication	150	(2)
Reflective Listening	152	(10)
Assertiveness	162	(7)
Editing Rick's Dialogue	169	(3)
Allen's Story	172	(3)
Parenting: How to Relate to Your Children	175	(24)
Impact of Domestic Violence on Children	176	(6)
Reggie's Story	182	(2)
Exploring Your Parenting Style	184	(5)
Encouragement vs. Discouragement	189	(3)
Punishment vs. Discipline	192	(4)
Zack's Story: Balancing Work and Family	196	(3)
Religion and Domestic Violence	199	(14)
Exploring Your Spiritual Beliefs	200	(2)
What the Bible Has to Say	202	(3)
God Speaks Out Against Abuse	205	(2)
Jonas's Story	207	(2)
Parenthood and the Bible	209	(2)
Reference Material for Spirituality and Abuse	211	(2)
Conclusion	213	(6)
References	219	(2)
Index	221