Anger Management: Workbook for Kids and Teens

by Bohensky, Anita, Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9781893505063
• ISBN10: 1893505065
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2001-04-01
• Publisher: Growth Pub

Table of Contents

Preface
Using the Workbook
Meet Some Kids and Teens
SESSION ONE	1	(6)
Getting Started	1	(1)
Think About What You Can Expect to Change	1	(2)
The Miracle Day Exercise	3	(2)
The Anger Log	5	(2)
SESSION TWO	7	(8)
Review of Last Session	7	(1)
``Feeling Bad About Yourself'' (The Shame Problem)	8	(1)
Healthy and Unhealthy Shame	8	(1)
Some Things About Me	9	(1)
Some Things You Should Know About Kids: Survival Skills	10	(1)
Denial	10	(1)
Withdrawal	11	(1)
Anger is a Two-Part Thing	12	(1)
Just Getting Angry Doesn't Work	12	(1)
Anger is Different From Being Aggressive	12	(1)
There Are Better Ways Than Blaming	13	(2)
SESSION THREE	15	(14)
Review: How Kids Survive Shame	15	(2)
Perfectionism (Trying to Be Perfect)	17	(1)
Rage (Very Strong Feelings of Anger)	17	(2)
Relaxation Type 1	19	(1)
Relaxation Type 2	20	(1)
Imagining Your Special Place	21	(1)
Relaxation By Special Breathing	22	(1)
Word Controlled Relaxation	23	(1)
Combined Relaxation (Putting It All Together)	23	(1)
Thinking and Relaxation Practice	23	(1)
Staying Calm Practice	24	(5)
SESSION FOUR	29	(12)
More Feeling Bad About Yourself	29	(1)
All-The-Time Shame Feels Terrible	29	(1)
I'm The Greatest (Arrogance)	30	(1)
Showing off (Exhibitionism)	31	(1)
More Staying Calm Rehearsal	32	(2)
The ABC Idea - A Good Trick	34	(1)
Trigger Thoughts	35	(1)
Shoulds	35	(1)
It's My Right	36	(1)
It's Got To Be Fair	36	(1)
The Big Picture	37	(1)
Staying Calm Ideas For Trigger Thoughts	38	(1)
General Staying Calm Thoughts and Plans	39	(2)
SESSION FIVE	41	(6)
Important Problems That Have To Do With Shame	41	(1)
Shame and the Self-Centered Universe	42	(1)
Shame and the Fear of Rejection	42	(1)
``I Will Be Whatever You Want Me to Be''	42	(1)
Hurtful Things Kids Do To Themselves (Self Sabotage, Self Abuse, Self Neglect)	43	(1)
Putting Down Others (The Bully)	43	(1)
Compulsive/Addictive Behaviors (Not Feeling Able to Control Behavior)	44	(1)
More Staying Calm Practice---In the Real Situation	44	(3)
SESSION SIX	47	(4)
Current Shaming Relationships	47	(1)
Other People You Choose to be with Now	47	(2)
Still More Staying Calm Practice in the Real Situation	49	(1)
Staying Calm in the Real Situation II	49	(2)
SESSION SEVEN	51	(8)
More Shame Problem---Putting Yourself Down	51	(3)
The Response Choice Rehearsal (RCR): A New Way of Staying Calm	54	(1)
Response Choices	55	(1)
Active Responses	55	(1)
Passive Responses	55	(2)
First RCR Response: Ask for What You Want	57	(1)
Rules	57	(1)
Play-Act	58	(1)
SESSION EIGHT	59	(8)
Healing The Shame (Helping You Feel Better About Yourself)	59	(1)
Stage One: Understanding	59	(1)
Patience-Feeling Better is a Process (It Happens Over Time)	60	(1)
Becoming Very Aware of Your Shame	60	(1)
Notice the Defenses You Use Against Shame (Ways You Hide from Shame)	61	(1)
Notice the Reasons for Your Shame	62	(1)
Accept Your Shame as Part of Just Being Human	62	(1)
Second RCR Response: Make a Bargain	63	(1)
Rules	63	(1)
Play-Acting	63	(1)
Imaging	64	(1)
Third RCR Response: Self-Care	64	(1)
Rules	64	(3)
SESSION NINE	67	(8)
Healing The Shame-Taking Action	67	(1)
Get Help-You Don't Have to Do This Alone	68	(1)
Talk Back To The Shame-Challenge It	69	(1)
Setting Goals Based On Principles (Important Ideas to Learn About)	70	(1)
The Principle of Humanity	70	(1)
The Principle of Humility	70	(1)
The Principle of Autonomy	70	(1)
The Principle of Competence	70	(1)
Example of a Really Good Goal for a Healthy Kid or Teen	71	(1)
Take Mental And Physical Action To Reach These Goals	71	(1)
Fourth RCR Response: Get Information	72	(1)
Fifth RCR Response: Acknowledge	72	(1)
Sixth RCR Response: Getting Away	73	(2)
SESSION TEN	75	(8)
Healing the Shame From Your Family	75	(1)
Don't Get Stuck in the Past	76	(1)
Finding the ``You're No Good'' Messages from Your Family	77	(1)
Let Yourself Feel Sad About What these Messages Stole from You	77	(2)
RCR Switching	79	(1)
Play-Acting	80	(3)
SESSION ELEVEN	83	(6)
More Healing the Shame from Your Family	83	(1)
Challenge Old ``Put-Down'' Messages and Replace with Positive Ones	83	(1)
Challenge Exercise	84	(1)
Challenge Your Behavior So It Supports Self-Worth	85	(1)
More RCR Switching	86	(1)
Express Negative Emotion--Saying ``No''	86	(3)
SESSION TWELVE	89	(7)
More Healing The Shame From Your Family	89	(1)
Return ``Borrowed Shame''	90	(1)
Think About Forgiving So You Can Let Go of Your Shame	91	(1)
Falling Back into Old Angry Habits	92	(2)
A New Beginning	94	(1)
Evaluation	95	(1)
About The Author	96