Becoming Aware: A Text/Workbook for Human Relations and Personal Adjustment

by Walker, Velma

• ISBN13: 9780757507861
• ISBN10: 0757507867
• Additional ISBN(s): 9780787293284
• Edition: 9
• Format: Nonspecific Binding
• Copyright: 2004-01-08
• Publisher: Kendall-Hunt

Table of Contents

Preface	ix
Acknowledgments	xv
Introduction	xvii
Getting Acquainted with Ourselves and Others	1	(58)
Self-Discovery	2	(1)
Self-Disclosure	3	(4)
The Johari Window	7	(3)
Loneliness	10	(2)
What Should a Relationship Provide?	12	(3)
The Fear of Getting Acquainted---Shyness	15	(4)
Perceptual Awareness	19	(1)
People Perception	20	(10)
Can I Change My Image?	30	(3)
Developing New Relationships	33	(4)
Chapter Review	37	(4)
Activities	41	(18)
Self-Awareness	59	(62)
``Self-Image'' Development	60	(1)
Significant Others	61	(3)
Personality Development	64	(1)
Adler's Individual Psychology Theory	65	(1)
Erikson's Eight Stages of Psychosocial Development	66	(2)
Stages of Adult Development	68	(5)
Trait Theory	73	(3)
Carl Rogers: Self-Theory	76	(1)
Viktor Frankl: Search for Meaning	76	(1)
Virginia Satir: Self-Worth	77	(1)
How Do Our Thoughts and Our Environment Relate to the Development of Our Personality?	78	(1)
How Did I Get to Be the Person I Am Today?	79	(2)
Cognitive and Social-Learning Theories	81	(2)
The Self	83	(2)
Find Your Real Self	85	(1)
How We Get Our Self-Image from Others	86	(1)
Self-Esteem	87	(1)
Individualism vs. Collectivism	88	(6)
The Real Journey	94	(2)
Chapter Review	96	(5)
Activities	101	(20)
Who's in Control?	121	(50)
Self-Control or External Control	122	(1)
Are You an Internal or External?	123	(1)
Perceived Control or Lack of Control	124	(1)
Outcome	124	(1)
Who's in Control?	125	(4)
Two Explanatory Styles	129	(3)
Social Learning Theory	132	(1)
How Does Learning Theory Influence Your Life?	133	(1)
What Gets Your Attention?	134	(2)
Learning Theory	136	(1)
Classical Conditioning	137	(1)
Why Do I Hate Peas?---Student Story	137	(3)
We Learn from Our Experience	140	(1)
What Are the Consequences?	140	(4)
What Kind of Reinforcement Do You Use?	144	(1)
Self-Control in Everyday Living	144	(1)
A Self-Change Program	145	(4)
Just Do It!	149	(1)
Chapter Review	150	(3)
Activities	153	(18)
Dealing with Emotions	171	(50)
What Are Emotions?	172	(1)
Characteristics of Emotions	173	(2)
Types of Emotions	175	(3)
Living with Problem Emotions	178	(12)
Development of Emotions	190	(1)
Emotional Intelligence	190	(2)
The Costs of Denying Emotions	192	(1)
Getting Out of Emotional Debt	193	(1)
Guidelines for Dealing with Your Emotions	194	(2)
Understanding Culture and Emotion	196	(1)
Benefits of Expressing Your Feelings	197	(1)
Forgiveness---The Healing Process	198	(4)
Chapter Review	202	(3)
Activities	205	(16)
Interpersonal Communication	221	(50)
Why Do We Need to Communicate?	222	(1)
Why Is Communication Difficult?	223	(1)
What Is Involved in the Communication Process?	223	(2)
One- and Two-Way Communication	225	(2)
Nonverbal Communication	227	(6)
Verbal Communication	233	(3)
Gender and Communication	236	(1)
Listening (What Did You Say?)	237	(2)
Barriers to Listening	239	(2)
Styles of Responding	241	(5)
Active Listening---Empathetic Listening	246	(3)
Which Style of Responding Do You Use?	249	(1)
Person-to-Person Communication	249	(3)
Chapter Review	252	(3)
Activities	255	(16)
Developing Close Relationships	271	(60)
The Development of a Relationship	272	(1)
Becoming Friends	273	(6)
Dating and Mating	279	(3)
Becoming Lovers	282	(8)
Becoming Committed	290	(4)
Marital Adjustment	294	(4)
Marital Conflict	298	(2)
Communication Problems	300	(1)
Family Violence	300	(2)
Codependence	302	(1)
What's the Green-Eyed Monster?	303	(2)
Growing Apart	305	(6)
Chapter Review	311	(4)
Activities	315	(16)
Resolving Interpersonal Conflict	331	(50)
What Is Conflict?	332	(1)
What Causes Conflict?	332	(1)
The Realities of Conflict	333	(1)
Positive Effects of Conflict	333	(1)
Negative Effects of Conflict	334	(1)
What Is Involved in a Conflict Situation?	335	(1)
The Dimensions of Conflict	336	(1)
The Emotions (Feelings) Have Priority	337	(1)
Dealing with the Emotional Dimension	337	(1)
What Is Your Style of Conflict Management?	338	(1)
Behavior Styles	339	(4)
The Styles in Action	343	(1)
Learning to Be Assertive	344	(3)
Suggestions for Delivering an Assertive ``I'' Message	347	(1)
How to Say No without Feeling Guilty	347	(1)
Gender and Conflict Management	348	(2)
Culture and Conflict Management	350	(1)
Methods of Conflict Resolution	351	(3)
Steps for Win-Win Conflict Resolution	354	(3)
When Conflicts Cannot Be Resolved	357	(3)
Chapter Review	360	(3)
Activities	363	(18)
Managing Stress and Wellness	381	(52)
What Is Stress?	382	(1)
Types of Stress	383	(1)
Causes of Stress	384	(3)
The Effects of Stress	387	(1)
Physical Effects of Stress	388	(1)
Behavioral Effects of Stress	389	(1)
Personality Types	389	(2)
Negative and Defensive Coping	391	(3)
Gender, Culture, and Stress	394	(1)
What Affects the Way Individuals Cope with Stress?	395	(3)
Dealing with Stressful Thoughts and Feelings	398	(1)
The Power of Self-Talk	398	(2)
What Is the Difference in Irrational and Rational Beliefs---Self-Talk?	400	(1)
Characteristics of Irrational and Rational Self-Talk	400	(2)
Disputing Irrational Beliefs	402	(2)
20 Tips for Managing Stress	404	(3)
The Relaxation Response	407	(2)
Chapter Review	409	(4)
Activities	413	(20)
Meaning and Values	433	(44)
What Are Values?	434	(2)
Types of Values	436	(1)
How Do Values Develop?	437	(1)
The Influence of Other Factors	438	(3)
What Are My Values?	441	(2)
Classifying Your Personal Values	443	(1)
Clarifying Your Personal Values	444	(3)
Value Indicators	447	(1)
Values Testing through Goal Setting	448	(1)
We Learn to Value what We Suffer for	449	(1)
Living with Your Values	450	(2)
The Importance of Meaning and Purpose	452	(2)
Chapter Review	454	(3)
Activities	457	(20)
Where Do I Want to Go with My Life?	477	(44)
Learning to Take Risks	478	(1)
What Motivates You?	479	(2)
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs	481	(2)
Plan Your Life Like You Would a Vacation	483	(2)
Setting Your Goals: What Do You Want?	485	(1)
Contributors to Success	486	(3)
The Time in Your Life	489	(3)
Culture and the Organization of Time	492	(1)
Creating Harmony in Your Life	493	(2)
Effective Life Planning: It's All Up to You!	495	(1)
Happiness and Well-Being	496	(1)
Myths and Truths about Happiness	497	(2)
Who Is Happiest?	499	(1)
Ways to Be Happy	499	(3)
Chapter Review	502	(3)
Activities	505	(16)
References	521	(12)
Glossary	533	(12)
Index	545