Becoming a Slave : The Theory and Practice of Voluntary Servitude

by RINELLA JACK

• ISBN13: 9780940267206
• ISBN10: 0940267209
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-10-31
• Publisher: Rinella Editorial Services
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Summary

Becoming a Slave is an authoritative, and well-documented book on the process of finding and submitting to a dominant. Beginning with a description of terms and the characteristics to be found in a master and in a slave, the book continues with how one realizes and understands their own desire to submit and serve, proceeds to the process of advertising, searching, meeting, and interviewing prospective masters, and ends with a great deal of practical advice on submitting, serving, and satisfying a dominant in a healthy and practical way.

Author Biography

The acclaimed author of the best-selling book, The Master's Manual, as well as The Compleat Slave and Partners in Power, Jack Rinella is a free-lance writer, college instructor, and sought-after lecturer. He has been active in the Leather scene since 1983, is a founding member of MAsT-Chicago, an associate member of the Chicago Hellfire Club, and has written extensively about our lifestyle as a weekly columnist.

Table of Contents

Introduction	1	(14)
A Quick Note About My Writing Style	3	(2)
Wannabes	5	(1)
Trainees	5	(1)
Applicants	5	(1)
Slaves	5	(1)
The Approach I Take	6	(3)
About Patrick's Reflections	9	(1)
Acknowledgements	9	(1)
Patrick Reflects: First Thoughts	10	(3)
After Reading Activities	13	(2)
A Complementary Relationship	15	(18)
Authority and Obedience	18	(1)
Dominance and Submission	19	(2)
Responsibility	21	(3)
Trustworthiness	24	(3)
Security	27	(1)
Satisfaction	27	(1)
Empowerment	28	(1)
Complementary Qualities	29	(1)
Patrick Reflects: A Yin-Yang Sort of Thing	29	(2)
After Reading Activities	31	(2)
The Call To Serve	33	(16)
The Purpose of Slavery	35	(2)
The Role of Will in a D/s Relationship	37	(3)
Surrender	40	(3)
Obedience	43	(1)
Bonding	44	(1)
Service	45	(1)
The Call Itself	45	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Answering the "Call"	46	(1)
After Reading Activities	47	(2)
Finding a Partner	49	(28)
Your Unique Expression	50	(2)
Expectations	52	(3)
Early Protocols	55	(1)
The Search	56	(1)
The Ad	57	(3)
The Interview	60	(2)
The First Meeting	62	(1)
Clicking	63	(2)
The Experiment	65	(1)
Evaluation	66	(3)
References	69	(1)
Upping the Ante	70	(1)
Patrick Reflects: How to Find a Master	71	(4)
After Reading Activities	75	(2)
Negotiating the Relationship	77	(20)
The Nature of Negotiations	80	(1)
Petitions	81	(2)
The Slave Petition	83	(1)
What You Want	84	(1)
Why You Want it	85	(1)
What You Will Do to Get It	85	(1)
The Contract	85	(2)
Timely Considerations	87	(1)
The Value of Half a Loaf	88	(2)
Patrick Reflects: Negotiation Pitfalls	90	(5)
After Reading Activities	95	(2)
Committing Yourself	97	(24)
The Myth of the Plunge	97	(4)
Fear of Failure	101	(1)
Getting Ready	101	(2)
Priorities	103	(1)
Experience	104	(1)
Degrees of Commitment	105	(1)
Understanding the Deal	106	(1)
Legal Considerations	107	(1)
No Escape	107	(2)
Rights	109	(1)
Having a Scene	110	(1)
An important Note About Failure	111	(1)
Part-time	112	(1)
Phone and Cyber	112	(1)
Other Kinds of Slaves	113	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Making it Work	114	(5)
After Reading Activities	119	(2)
The Training Process	121	(16)
Defining Goals	124	(1)
Introduction	125	(1)
Direction	125	(1)
Explanation	126	(1)
Performance	126	(1)
Evaluation	126	(1)
Correction	126	(1)
Repetition	127	(1)
Encouragement and Inspiration	128	(1)
Removing Blocks and Unloading Baggage	128	(3)
Panic and Prevention	131	(1)
The Bottom's Responsibility	132	(1)
For the Top	133	(1)
In Summary	133	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Real Training Isn't What You Think It Is	134	(2)
After Reading Activities	136	(1)
The Slave's Training	137	(14)
Understanding the Request	138	(1)
Admitting Your Limits	138	(2)
Formal Training	140	(1)
Protocols	140	(3)
Slave as Reflection	143	(1)
The Hidden Value of Protocols	144	(1)
Demeanor	144	(3)
Patrick Reflects: Slave Skills	147	(2)
After Reading Activities	149	(2)
The Role of Punishment	151	(10)
A Contrary Opinion	154	(1)
Proper Punishment	155	(3)
Deprivation	158	(1)
Patrick Reflects: When it REALLY Hurts!	158	(2)
After Reading Activities	160	(1)
The Small and Not-So-Small Stuff	161	(30)
Fear	161	(4)
Safer Sex	165	(2)
The Next Problem	167	(3)
The 24/7 Dilemma	170	(2)
Everyday Living	172	(3)
Rituals	175	(1)
Dress and Markings	175	(2)
The Mutual Need for Expression	177	(1)
Considering Reality	177	(1)
Domestic Violence	178	(3)
Financial Considerations	181	(2)
The End	183	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Stuff, Tips, and Tricks for Success	184	(5)
After Reading Activities	189	(2)
The Real Slave	191	(14)
Will and Ego	191	(1)
Ego and Slavery	192	(1)
The Basis for Surrender	193	(1)
Setting Priorities	194	(1)
The Gift of Self	195	(1)
The Proud Slave	195	(1)
Devotion	195	(1)
The Last Word About Real Slavery	196	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Being Real	196	(6)
After Reading Activities	202	(3)
Sexual Service	205	(20)
Fear of Intimacy	205	(2)
Duty to Arouse the Master	207	(1)
Knowing One Another	208	(1)
Owning Our Bodies and Giving Them Away	208	(1)
Physical Intimacy	209	(4)
Affection	213	(2)
The Conundrum of Reversal	215	(1)
Chastity	216	(1)
When Sex Is a Duty and Other Considerations	217	(1)
Another Conclusion	218	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Sex, Chastity and Orgasms	218	(4)
After Reading Activities	222	(3)
The Place of Kink	225	(16)
Expressing Control	226	(2)
Bondage	228	(1)
Sadism	228	(1)
Discipline As Fetish	229	(1)
Intensity and Edge Play	230	(2)
Humiliation	232	(2)
Worship	234	(1)
Care and Safety in All of This	235	(3)
The Last Word on Kink	238	(1)
Patrick Reflects: It's Not All Whips and Chains	238	(1)
After Reading Activities	239	(2)
Polyamorous M/s	241	(14)
Monogamy	242	(1)
Polyamory	243	(1)
Promiscuity	244	(1)
Infidelity	245	(1)
The Need for Knowledge of Self	245	(1)
Three Ways and More	246	(1)
Jealousy	247	(1)
Families and Stables	248	(1)
Alpha and Beta Slaves	249	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Who Is the Possession?	250	(3)
After Reading Activities	253	(2)
The Healthy D/s Relationship	255	(14)
The Periodic Review	256	(1)
Separate Spaces	257	(1)
Suggestions for Long-Term Relationships	258	(2)
The Unspoken Reality	260	(2)
In Summary	262	(1)
Patrick Reflects: Relationship Survival	262	(4)
After Reading Activities	266	(3)
A Necessary Last Word	269	(2)
APPENDICES
Glossary	271	(4)
Guidelines for a Questionnair	275	(2)
Expectations and Regulations Concerning Voluntary Servitude	277	(6)
An Interview with Patrick	283	(8)
Resources	291	(4)
About the Author	295