Is It a Big Problem or a Little Problem? When to Worry, When Not to Worry, and What to Do

by Egan, Amy; Freedman, Amy; Greenberg, Judi; Anderson, Sharon

• ISBN13: 9780312354121
• ISBN10: 0312354126
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-10-16
• Publisher: Griffin

Summary

Your road map through the ups and downs of early childhood Almost every child, at some point during their early years won't listen, will throw a tantrum, will be mean or aggressive, shy or withdrawn, be a picky eater, and more. As a parent, you know that differences in children's learning styles and temperaments are a given. However, when any of these problem behaviors become the 'norm' for a child, a red flag should go up. If they affect a child's ability to be happy, relate to others, and go about his daily life, there may be a real problem. Is it a Big Problem, or a Little Problem? will help you to determine:-The size of the problem-How to manage problems on your own with practical tips and strategies-When, if at all, to seek a professional evaluation and what to do in the meantime Learn when to worry, when not to worry, and what to do.This book will be your essential guide to decoding your child's behavior and navigating the early years of childhood. SHARON ANDERSON, OTR/L, AMY WUSTERBARTH EGAN, MA, AMY FREEDMAN, MA, CCC-SLP, and JUDI GREENBERG, MS, OTR/L are based in Rockville, Maryland at the Ivymount School's Center for Outreach and Education (CORE).Their mission is to help teachers and families identify needs and implement strategies for helping young children be more successful at home and at school.This unique developmental team of four: a speech pathologist, two occupational therapists and a special educator/behavior specialist, hold lectures and workshops throughout the Washington DC area for parents and professionals.Library Journal review: * * *Anderson, Sharon & others (text) & Jessica Glickman (illus.). Is It a Big Problem or a Little Problem?: When To Worry, When Not To Worry, and What To Do. Griffin: St. Martin's. Dec. 2007. c.352p. illus. bibliog. index. ISBN 978-0-312-35412-1. pap. $14.95. CHILD REARINGMany exasperated parents have wondered whether their three year old needs to have his or her hearing checked. Developmental concerns are common, but it can be difficult to tell what behavior is a "stage" and what is cause for genuine concern. The authors, Anderson, Amy Egan, Amy Freedman, and Judi Greenberg-all speech, language, behavior, and occupational therapists at the Ivymount School's Center for Outreach and Education in Rockville, MD-divide the book into three sections, "The Basics," "Understanding Development," and "Where Children Struggle." Within these, they illustrate specific concerns (e.g., "She can hear, why doesn't she understand?"), explore the range of normal, and examine signals that indicate a need for professional intervention. For "little problems," the authors teach how to rework an environment, routine, or communication strategy to alleviate triggers and encourage mastery. Their strategies for reteaching crucial developmental milestones range from the simple (e.g., no more sippy cups; straws not only improve speech skills but have a calming effect) to the progressive. Disclaimers aside, this book is the equivalent of a valuable appointment with a specialist. Never using an alarmist tone, the authors strike a perfect balance between advocating for early intervention and appreciating the ups and downs of typical childhood behavior. Highly recommended for all libraries.-Julianne J. Smith, Ypsilanti Dist. Lib., MI

Author Biography

Amy Egan, Amy Freedman, Judi Greenberg, and Sharon Anderson are members of a developmental team consisting of a speech pathologist, occupational therapists, and a special educator/behavior specialists. Based at Ivymount's Center for Outreach in Education (CORE) in Rockville, Maryland, this developmental team consults with schools, childcare centers, teachers and parents in the Washington, DC metro area about children who are experiencing difficulty at school and/or at home. They have served as speakers and facilitators of parent groups and have presented numerous workshops to parents and professionals.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. xi
The Basics
Prologue: Starting on the Right Foot	p. 3
A Child in His Environment	p. 13
Play	p. 28
Understanding Development
Social Emotional Development and Managing Behavior	p. 45
Speech and Language Development	p. 75
Motor Development	p. 106
Sensory Processing	p. 131
Where Children Struggle
Life at Home	p. 165
Life Away from Home	p. 201
Siblings and Playmates	p. 215
Parks and Playgrounds	p. 224
Holidays, Celebrations, and Birthday Parties	p. 232
Out and About	p. 247
Epilogue: Falling Down, Reaching for the Stars, and Coping with Feelings	p. 267
Appendices
Quick Reference Guide of Tips and Strategies	p. 273
Early Warning Signs of Big Problems	p. 275
Is My Child Ready for Preschool?	p. 277
Is My Child Ready for Kindergarten?	p. 281
Using Visuals to Support Children and Enhance Learning	p. 284
How to Make and Use Behavior Plans and Star Charts	p. 291
Working with Other Professionals	p. 297
Resource Guide	p. 303
End Notes	p. 313
Bibliography	p. 317
Selected Reading	p. 323
Index	p. 325
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Excerpts

Excerpt 
It’s a nagging feeling. It’s a worry that keeps pushing its way into your brain at night as you lay exhausted in bed, simply wanting sleep. It’s a concern that your thoughts keep turning to during the chitchat of neighborhood moms at your weekly playgroup. It’s something that you hem and haw about bringing up with your pediatrician. You find yourself asking, again and again: Is this a big problem or a little problem? In other words, Should you worry, or should you not?
Problem behaviors come in all shapes and sizes, and at all ages and stages of development. Some are bigger than others, but all cause parents and professionals (and children) some degree of angst and stress. As members of a team of child developmental specialists, and as mothers and a grandmother, we are very familiar with these issues, and have worked with thousands of parents and professionals to help them sort out the challenges faced by young children. Our team is based in Rockville, Maryland, at the Ivymount School’s Center for Outreach and Education (CORE). Our mission is to help teachers and families identify needs and implement strategies for helping young children be more successful at home and at school. The team consists of two occupational therapists, a speech and language therapist, and a behavioral specialist. We provide individualized support, resources, and strategies to help families, teachers, and, most important, children who face big and little problems. This book will do the same for you.
Differences in children’s learning styles, temperaments, and personalities are a given, but when should those differences raise a red flag? What strategies might parents try on their own before getting anyone else involved in the problem-solving process? How much frustration or anxiety should a parent (or child) endure before calling in a specialist? When should a parent seek a professional opinion? And what can a frazzled parent do in the meantime, while waiting for that professional evaluation?
Let’s begin with a list that sums up the most common complaints we hear from parents (and professionals) about young children. These behaviors may represent a “little” problem, easily manageable with a few specific strategies, or they may be the tip of the iceberg of a bigger problem.
10 Common Concerns of Parents About Their Children  1. He doesn’t listen. 2. She’s stubborn and always needs to have things go her way. 3. He’s constantly on the go, in perpetual motion. 4. She has so many tantrums! She’s so emotional! 5. He has a really hard time with changes in routine. 6. Sometimes she gets so wound up! 7. He’s so clumsy and always getting hurt. 8. She can be so mean and aggressive toward other kids. 9. He’s really shy and withdrawn.10. She’s such a picky eater.
These ten statements could describe almost every child, on one day or another, at some point during their early years. However, when one or more of these complaints become the norm for a child, a red flag goes up. If these glitches are pervasive and affect a child’s ability to be happy, relate to others, and go about his daily life, there may be a real problem. Only further investigation will tell us whether it is a “big” problem or a “little” problem.
Most children have little problems. This book is full of strategies to help parents and other caregivers manage the little problems of early childhood. When we use these strategies to adjust the environment, modify behaviors, and give a child time to mature a bit more, little problems can resolve themselves without outside intervention. For the purposes of this book, “little” problems are those that are manageable without outside intervention. “Big” problems, on the other hand, may require the support of professionals. If our strategies and suggestions do not solve the problem, if the problem seems to be bigger than parents and teachers alone can fix, we’ll point you in the right direction for further evaluation and support. Big problems will often seem much more manageable once the proper professionals are involved. A little intervention can go a long way toward keeping a big problem not-so-big!
“There’s nothing out there that describes my child’s issues,” complained an exhausted mother recently. It is a complaint we hear frequently in our work with families of young children as well as from their teachers and child-care providers. Nice neat labels don’t always describe the children we work with. They are regular children in regular schools, preschools, and child-care centers who, for a variety of reasons, are having difficulty being successful at school and/or home. Most teachers don’t know what to do with these kids: they have tried everything in their bag of tricks and come up empty handed, or have come up with a plan that only works part of the time. Some of these children are even on the verge of being kicked out of preschool or child care because of their behavior.
These children may be enigmatic—happy and affectionate one minute, aggressive or stubborn as nails the next; cooperative and eager to please in one setting, but aloof or bossy in another. They appear in virtually every classroom in the country. Aggressive, aimless, class clown, impulsive, rigid, controlling, explosive, anxious, and disorganized are a few of the terms used by parents and teachers to describe such individuals.
These children don’t necessarily have ADD or ADHD but may have language processing problems, or sensory processing differences. They may have difficulty understanding or remembering multistep directions. They may be extremely touch-sensitive and lash out impulsively when others come uninvited, albeit innocently, into their personal space. They may have trouble getting their body to do what their brain is directing, such as with motor-planning problems that interfere with all sorts of activities in a typical child’s day. Children with any of these conditions experience constant frustration and/or assaults on their sense of self-worth. Not surprisingly, frustration and low self-esteem often leads to behavior problems.
Hitting, biting, yelling, or a thirty-minute tantrum over a Popsicle color certainly gets parents’ attention, and they need to know what to do. Having a speech and language evaluation followed by speech and language therapy may address the underlying issues of auditory comprehension, but in the meantime parents need a “Band-Aid”—practical ideas and strategies to help them get through the days, or ideas to give the teacher that might prevent another biting incident this week.
Dealing with the immediate behavior problem is only half of the solution. The underlying cause (if there is one) needs to be identified and treated as well, so that it no longer triggers the problem behavior. This book addresses both of these needs. It takes a long-term and short-term approach to helping children become more successful in their interactions with others and in their classroom and home environment.
The chapters of part 2 delve into specific areas of development, what different or delayed development might look like, underlying causes of behaviors, strategies to support children, and explanations of why these strategies work. Sometimes, however, parents do not know what the underlying problem is—or if one exists—but where a child has trouble is obvious. Certain scenarios, be they birthday parties, playdates with certain friends, or trips to the store, are sure to end in tears or tantrums. For this reason, the chapters of part 3 are organized into typical parts of a child’s life. Unique factors present in different environments trigger behavior problems or stress in a child. By understanding the potential stressors in different parts of a child’s life, we can better prepare him for the challenge and support him throughout the experience with situation-specific strategies. Finally, the appendices provide nitty-gritty reference tools to aid in using the strategies described throughout the book.
One goal of this book is to empower parents: to remind them of their strength and influence in their young child’s development. Using the resources and strategies in this book, parents can help a child experience more success and less frustration as he goes through his day, before ever stepping foot into a clinician’s office.  Copyright © 2007 by Sharon Anderson, Amy Wusterbarth Egan, Amy Freedman, and Judi Greenberg. All rights reserved.

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