Boundaries with Teens : When to Say Yes, How to Say No

by Dr. John Townsend, Coauthor of the Bestselling Boundaries

• ISBN13: 9780310270454
• ISBN10: 0310270456
• Edition: Revised
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-02-01
• Publisher: Harpercollins Christian Pub

Summary

The teen years-relationships, peer pressure, school, dating, character. To help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to teach them how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives. The coauthor of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries and a parent of a preteen and a teenage boy brings his biblically-based principles to bear on the challenging task of the teen years, showing parents: How to bring control to an out-of-control family life How to set limits and still be loving parents How to define legitimate boundaries for the family How to instill in teens a godly character In this exciting new book, Dr. Townsend gives important keys for establishing healthy boundaries-the bedrock of good relationships, maturity, safety, and growth for teens and the adults in their lives. The book offers help in raising your teens to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	7	(2)
Introduction: Who Threw the Switch?	9	(12)
PART ONE Be a Parent with Boundaries
Revisit Your Own Adolescence	21	(8)
Be a Boundary	29	(4)
Get Connected	33	(6)
Face Your Guilt and Fear	39	(6)
Be United in Your Parenting	45	(4)
Be an Integrated Parent	49	(6)
For Single Parents	55	(6)
For Stepparents	61	(8)
PART TWO Understand the Teenage World
Adolescence: The Last Step before Adulthood	69	(6)
A Period of Tremendous Change	75	(4)
Teens Think Differently	79	(4)
Separating from Parents	83	(8)
From Earthly to Eternal Parent	91	(4)
Understanding the Differences between Boys and Girls	95	(4)
The Influence of Culture	99	(8)
PART THREE Set Boundaries with Your Teen
Dig beneath Your Teen's Problem	107	(6)
Use the Four Anchors of Boundary Setting	113	(8)
Don't Get Derailed	121	(10)
Consequences 101	131	(12)
PART FOUR Address Common Problems
Academic Problems	143	(6)
Aggressive Behavior	149	(6)
Alcohol, Drugs, and Dependencies	155	(6)
Argumentativeness	161	(6)
Breaking Agreements	167	(4)
Chores	171	(4)
Clothing	175	(4)
Curfew Violations	179	(4)
Cutting and Self-Mutilation	183	(4)
Deception and Lying	187	(4)
Defiance	191	(4)
Detaching from the Family in Unhealthy Ways	195	(4)
Disrespect	199	(6)
Driving and Cars	205	(4)
God and Spirituality	209	(4)
Ignoring Parents	213	(4)
Impulsive Behaviors	217	(6)
Internet	223	(4)
Money	227	(4)
Moodiness	231	(6)
Parties	237	(6)
Peers	243	(6)
Phone	249	(4)
Runaways	253	(6)
Sexual Involvement	259	(6)
Silence	265	(4)
Epilogue	269	(4)
Appendix A: Seeking the Help of a Professional	273	(2)
Appendix B: Tips for When You Don't Know What to Do	275	(2)
Notes	277	(2)
Index	279