The Brat Stops Here! 5 Weeks (or Less) to No More Tantrums, Arguing, or Bad Behavior

by Jacobsen, Mary-Elaine, Psy.P.

• ISBN13: 9780312342791
• ISBN10: 0312342799
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-01-24
• Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin

Summary

Mary-Elaine Jacobsen has helped families transform their childrens behavior using a unique approach that centers on the concept of Privileges On/Privileges Off. If a child misbehaves, they can no longer enjoy any of their favorite activities until they make amends. Dr. Jacobson comprehensively explains each part of the program, with age-appropriate tips, and guides parents through: Identifying desired behavior Conveying expectations and consequences to children Revoking all privileges when the child crosses the line Having the child earn back privileges by apologizing for or correcting behavior. Parents dont need a nanny, they need an experienced licensed professional who can give them a system they can use to put an end to tantrums, arguing, and defiance.

Author Biography

Dr. Mary-Elaine Jacobsen is the Chief Psychologist for the Amherst Wilder Foundation, a highly-regarded organization with programs for behavior-disordered children, therapeutic foster care, home and school counseling, and child psychiatry. A recognized leader in child guidance and developmental psychology, Dr. Jacobsen is the author of The Gifted Adult (Ballantine, 1999) and she has been published in and interviewed for many professional journals and periodicals.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction: Real-Life Horror Stories for Parents	p. 1
Week 1: Understanding Temperament and Bad Behavior
What's Wrong? Why Won't My Child Behave?	p. 13
Jack the Brat and Jill the Pill in Real Life	p. 25
Week 2: How Children Manipulate Situations and Dodge Responsibility
The Coercion Trap: How Parents Get Lured into Arguing, Justifying, Negotiating, Nagging, Bribing, Threatening, Exploding, and Giving In	p. 51
Week 3: Good Behavior Required Here
What You Can and Should Expect from Your Child	p. 73
Set Your Expectations and Select Your Target Behaviors	p. 85
Week 4: The Dr. J Way: Privileges "On"/Privileges "Off"
Privileges vs. Inalienable Rights	p. 97
How to Apply the Dr. J Way Step-by-Step and Avoid Five Common Parenting Mistakes	p. 104
Week 5: Argue No More! Setting the Plan in Motion
Presenting the Plan to Your Child	p. 121
Selective Attention and Reinforcement	p. 132
Consistency Is Key: Don't Get Creative	p. 152
Troubleshooting	p. 163
Tips for Managing Difficult-Temperament Types	p. 181
Four Steps to Get Out of Time-out and Earn Back Privileges	p. 187
Sample Behavior Plan	p. 189
Resources	p. 193
Index	p. 197
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