Breaking Hearts The Two Sides of Unrequited Love

by Baumeister, Roy F.; Wotman, Sara R.

• ISBN13: 9780898625431
• ISBN10: 0898625432
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 1992-10-16
• Publisher: The Guilford Press

Summary

Throughout history, unrequited love has inspired ballads, arias, poetry, drama, and literature. Almost always, however, the tale of the "star-crossed lovers" has been told from the point of view of the heartbroken pursuer. This illuminating new work explores unrequited love from both sides--that of the aspiring and eventually brokenhearted lover, and more unusually, that of the beloved, unwilling rejector. Based on systematically collected first-person accounts, BREAKING HEARTS shows how radically different and often contradictory the two experiences actually are.

Author Biography

Baumeister received his PhD in experimental social psychology from Princeton University in 1978. Since then, his research career has taken him to the University of California at Berkeley, to the University of Texas at Austin, to the Max-Planck-Institute in Munich, Germany, and to Case Western Reserve University, where in 1992 he was awarded the Elsie B. Smith Professorship in Liberal Arts. The recipient of an American Psychological Association award for his first book, he has authored over 100 publications and numerous articles in professional journals and scholarly volumes.

Table of Contents

The Psychology of Heartbreak	1	(18)
Perspectives on Unrequited Love	19	(32)
The Emotional Crossfire	51	(30)
The Ups and Downs of Self-Esteem	81	(24)
Guilt, Justification, Morality: Struggling with Right and Wrong	105	(34)
What Actually Happened?	139	(32)
Lessons Learned and Mysteries Glimpsed	171	(24)
Conclusion: The Two Sides of Heartbreak	195	(22)
Appendix	217	(8)
References	225	(8)
Index	233