The Bully Solution: A Parent's Guide Effective and Practical Ways to Empower Your Child and Stop Bullying in Its Tracks

by McMullen, Carol

• ISBN13: 9780439024228
• ISBN10: 0439024226
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-03-01
• Publisher: Scholastic Teaching Resources (Teaching

Summary

Bullying shouldn't prevent your child from leading a happy and healthy life at school, online, or in any situation where you're not there to supervise. This guide-written just for parents-gives you and your child a strategic approach to solving all kinds of bullying problems, both in and out of school. You'll find dozens of practical resources, including:

Author Biography

Carol McMullen, a master teacher who champions students' social growth and success, developed a powerful anti-bullying curriculum during her twenty-year career as a primary-grade teacher in Calgary public schools. Her first book on bullying, Creating a Bully-Free Classroom was published by Scholastic in 2005. McMullen currently works as an education consultant and writer.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 6
A Bullying Primer	p. 11
The Facts About Bullying	p. 12
Characteristics of a Bully	p. 17
Characteristics of Bullied Children	p. 20
Characteristics of Bystanders	p. 22
Conflict Versus Bullying	p. 22
The Role of the Adult	p. 24
A Road Map to Bullying	p. 24
What Can I Do to Help?	p. 25
Is My Child a Target?	p. 25
Examining Your Personal Beliefs	p. 29
Recognizing Your Parenting Style	p. 30
What Do You Do Now, and Does It Work?	p. 36
Making Use of Available Resources	p. 36
Creating a Parental Plan of Action	p. 36
Putting Your Plan Into Action	p. 40
Keeping Useful Records	p. 45
Involving Your Child's School	p. 45
Bully-Proofing	p. 47
Self-Esteem and Confidence	p. 47
Praise Versus Encouragement	p. 49
Talking About Bullying	p. 50
Using Books	p. 53
Conflict or Bullying: What's the Difference?	p. 56
The Inclinations of Bullies	p. 58
Dealing With a Bully	p. 58
Top Ten Strategies for Handling Bullies	p. 61
Creating Your Child's Personal Bully-Proofing Plan	p. 70
Rallying School Support	p. 73
What If the Bully Is My Child?	p. 74
Some Reasons Children Bully	p. 75
Getting Your Child Back on Track	p. 81
Finding a Positive Groove	p. 84
The Role of Empathy	p. 86
The Right Kind of Power	p. 87
Tackling Setbacks	p. 88
Working With Your Child's School	p. 88
Real-Life Consequences	p. 89
How Mentors Can Help	p. 91
We All Need Friends	p. 93
Social Skills 101	p. 95
Moving From Theory to Practice	p. 97
What Does It Take to Be a Good Listener?	p. 97
Supporting Meaningful Conversations	p. 98
Decoding Body Language	p. 99
Putting It All Together: How to Make a Friend	p. 100
Identifying Different Kinds of Friends	p. 103
Walking in Someone Else's Shoes	p. 104
Conflict Resolution	p. 107
Benefits on All Sides	p. 108
Defining Conflict Resolution	p. 109
Taking Responsibility for Solving Problems	p. 111
Using the Anger Escalator Strategy	p. 112
Four Steps to Resolving a Problem	p. 115
Body Language and Behavioral Expectations	p. 116
Guiding Children Through Discussion	p. 117
Supporting the Process Step by Step	p. 119
Cyber Bullying	p. 124
Risks and Realities	p. 125
Spotting Cyber Bullying	p. 126
Concerns About Chat Rooms and Web Cams	p. 130
Navigating the Internet Safely	p. 131
Securing an Active Defense in Cyberspace	p. 136
Developing a Cyber-Bullying Plan	p. 137
What If My Child Is the Cyber Bully?	p. 139
Appendices	p. 142
Family Contract for Online Safety, Internet Use Contract, Parents' Pledge	p. 142
Chat Room Lingo	p. 145
A List of Online Resources	p. 146
Web Site Log	p. 149
References	p. 150
Index	p. 155
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