Can Your Relationship Be Saved? : How to Know Whether to Stay or Go

by Broder, Michael S.

• ISBN13: 9781886230415
• ISBN10: 1886230412
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2002-04-01
• Publisher: Impact Publishers

Table of Contents

Introduction: How to Get the Most Out of this Book	1	(4)
Part 1: your Relationship	5	(34)
Why Did You Buy This Book?	7	(12)
The Two Main Pillars of Relationships that Work	8	(1)
Troubled Relationships	9	(1)
What Are Your Problem Areas?	10	(1)
Potentially Threatening Problem Areas	10	(2)
Then and Now	12	(2)
Continuing Your Relationship Assessment	14	(2)
What Are Your Expectations?	16	(1)
What Are Your Partner's Expectations?	16	(1)
Looking at Your Expectations	17	(1)
... And a Few Final Questions for this Chapter	17	(2)
Can Your Relationship Be Saved? - An Inventory	19	(20)
Can Your Relationship Be Saved? - A Self Assessment Inventory	20	(4)
Evaluation of Inventory	24	(13)
How to Make the Most of this Inventory	37	(2)
Part 2: Working Through the Curse of Ambivalence	39	(48)
The Pain of Staying Versus the Pain of Leaving	41	(18)
What Is Ambivalence?	41	(2)
If You Are Questioning Whether to Stay or Go	43	(4)
The Crunch Point	47	(5)
Some Bottom Lines to Consider	52	(2)
Additional Strategies to Work Through Your Ambivalence	54	(1)
Trial Separations	55	(1)
Getting Professional Help	56	(3)
``What If I Leave?'' - ``Will I Be Sorry?'' - And All Those Other Questions You May Be Asking	59	(16)
Imagine It	60	(2)
``If I Leave, Will I Be Sorry?''	62	(5)
``I've Decided to Leave, Now What?''	67	(2)
But ``Breaking Up Is Hard to Do'' (or at Least Can Be!)	69	(3)
Some Additional Considerations for Leaving	72	(3)
``What If I Stay? Could I Be Missing a Better Life?''	75	(12)
``If I Stay, Could I Be Missing a Better Life?''	77	(3)
Working It Out Together	80	(1)
How Have Other Couples Worked It Out?	81	(2)
Changing Your Expectations	83	(2)
Here's to the End of Your Ambivalence	85	(2)
Part 3: The Aftermath of Ambivalence	87	(38)
Yes, It Can Be Saved! Making Your Life Together Really Work this Time	89	(18)
What Could Make It Work for You this Time?	89	(1)
Creating a New Vision	90	(1)
Setting Relationship Goals	91	(2)
Learning How to Support Each Other	93	(2)
Honoring Your Differences	95	(2)
Getting Past Your Issues	97	(7)
Some Additional Perspectives on Keeping Your Relationship Together	104	(1)
This Could Be an Ongoing Process	105	(2)
No, It Can't Be Saved	107	(18)
Maximizing Your New Single-Again Life Single Phobia	107	(2)
Your New Single Life	109	(1)
Your Custom Survival Guide	110	(1)
Making the Transition	111	(5)
Overcoming Loneliness	116	(2)
Maximizing Your Freedom, Aloneness and Solitude	118	(2)
Your Support System	120	(1)
Your Next Relationship	121	(2)
Additional Strategies for Maximizing Your New Single-Again Life	123	(2)
Epilogue	125	(2)
Appendix... Additional Sources of Help	127	(2)
National Hotlines, Web Sites and Referral Sources	127	(1)
Tips on Professional Consultations	128	(1)
Legal Consultation	128	(1)
Bibliography	129	(6)
Index	135