Connecting With Kids Through Stories

by Lacher, Denise B.; Nichols, Todd; May, Joanne C.

• ISBN13: 9781843107972
• ISBN10: 184310797X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2005-02-28
• Publisher: Jessica Kingsley Pub

Author Biography

Denise B. Lacher is Director of Attachment Programs at the Family Attachment and Counseling Center of Minnesota.

Table of Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS	8	(1)
Legacy of an Adopted Child	9	(2)
Introduction	11	(4)
Note	13	(2)
Chapter 1 The Inner Working Model	15	(18)
...and so it begins...the formation of the inner working model	16	(1)
Attachment relationships	17	(6)
Life events	23	(3)
Development	26	(3)
Meanings (or "peanut butter and a crib")	29	(3)
Summary	32	(1)
Chapter 2 Putting the Pieces Together: Discovering the Child's Model	33	(15)
The search	36	(9)
Discovery	45	(1)
Summary	46	(2)
Chapter 3 Narratives that Bond, Heal, and Teach	48	(17)
Section 1: How Narratives Work	49	(7)
The importance of parental attunement	50	(5)
Summary	55	(1)
Section 2: Constructing and Telling Stories	56	(9)
The setting for Family Attachment Narrative Therapy	56	(2)
Incorporating props in the telling	58	(1)
Creating a story	59	(5)
Summary	64	(1)
Chapter 4 Claiming Narratives	65	(15)
Section 1: The Purpose of Claiming Narratives	66	(5)
When parents find it difficult to bond	66	(1)
When the child finds it difficult to trust	66	(1)
Shifting the child's inner working model	67	(1)
Establishing birth order	68	(1)
Claiming the extended family	68	(1)
Passing on the family traditions, history, and rituals	69	(1)
Other issues	70	(1)
Summary	71	(1)
Section 2: Telling Claiming Narratives	71	(9)
If you would have been...	71	(6)
Problem-solving tips	77	(2)
Summary	79	(1)
Chapter 5 Trauma Narratives	80	(16)
Section 1: The Purpose of Trauma Narratives	80	(3)
Healing the pain of trauma	81	(1)
Shifting the child's inner working model	81	(1)
Creating understanding and empathy	82	(1)
Summary	83	(1)
Section 2: Telling Trauma Narratives	83	(13)
When to seek professional help	90	(3)
Problem-solving tips	93	(2)
Summary	95	(1)
Chapter 6 Developmental Narratives	96	(16)
Section 1: The Purpose of Developmental Narratives	96	(6)
Facilitating cognitive development	97	(1)
Facilitating emotional development	98	(1)
Building relationships	99	(1)
Remedial skill building	100	(1)
Enhancing development	101	(1)
Summary	102	(1)
Section 2: Telling Developmental Narratives	102	(10)
When you were a two-year-old you would have...	103	(7)
Problem-solving tips	110	(1)
Summary	111	(1)
Chapter 7 Successful Child Narratives	112	(17)
Section 1: The Purpose of Successful Child
Narratives	112	(1)
Teaching children values	113	(1)
Reinforcing cause and effect thinking	113	(1)
Presenting alternative behaviors	114	(1)
Explaining the basics of how to do life	114	(1)
Summary	115	(1)
Section 2: Telling Successful Child Narratives	115	(14)
The meaning of behavior	115	(4)
Changing behaviors with narratives	119	(3)
Teaching behavior with narratives	122	(4)
Problem-solving tips	126	(2)
Summary	128	(1)
Conclusion	129	(3)
About resources	130	(1)
A final word	131	(1)
APPENDIX A: EMDR	132	(1)
APPENDIX B: STORY CONSTRUCTION GUIDE	133	(2)
REFERENCES	135	(4)
SUBJECT INDEX	139	(4)
AUTHOR INDEX	143