Conversations With a Pedophile: In the Interest of Our Children

by Hammel-zabin, Amy

• ISBN13: 9781569802472
• ISBN10: 1569802475
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2003-04-01
• Publisher: NATIONAL BOOK NETWORK

Summary

In an effort to show parents how to protect their children from sexual predators Conversations with a Pedophile, through direct correspondence with a convicted pedophile, describes how victims are selected and preyed upon. Dr. Hammel-Zabin details ways to spot early warning signs of abuse and proves that the danger of pedophilia does not come from the stranger in the street offering gifts of candy. It's the nice boy next door, the distant relative, the sweet baby-sitter. It is also shown that our churches aren't safe havens. Nor are our schools or our Scout troops.

Table of Contents

Preface: A Personal Note	ix
Acknowledgements	xiii
Introduction	1	(234)
1. Amy: The Beginnings	9	(8)
2. Amy: Treating the "Monster"	17	(3)
3. Amy: Feeling Different	20	(9)
4. Introducing Alan	29	(5)
5. Alan: My Parents	34	(4)
6. Amy: Childhood Sexual Dysfunction	38	(7)
7. Alan: My Childhood	45	(8)
8. Amy: Warning Signs	53	(5)
9. Amy: Fantasy	58	(6)
10. Alan: My Disturbing Fantasy World	64	(10)
11. Amy: Fantasy as a Vehicle for Denial	74	(4)
12. Amy: Secrets	78	(10)
13. Alan: Using Secrets to Entice and Ensnare	88	(8)
14. Alan: Secrecy as a Means of Avoiding Punishment	96	(8)
15. Amy: Obsession with Control	104	(5)
16. Alan: Control	109	(12)
17. Alan: Life as an Adult Offender	121	(21)
18. Alan: Escalation	142	(14)
19. Alan: The Ritual	156	(10)
20. Amy: Alan Gets Caught	166	(7)
21. Alan: Life in Prison	173	(14)
22. Alan: Pedophilia After Incarceration	187	(4)
23. Amy: The Public and Pedophilia	191	(7)
24. Alan: Punishment for Pedophiles	198	(4)
25. Amy: Handling Sex Offenders	202	(5)
26. Amy: Advice for Protecting Your Children	207	(5)
27. Amy: Strategies for Better Communication	212	(13)
28. Alan: Advice for Parents	225	(7)
29. Amy: Conclusion	232	(3)
Appendix: Suggested Readings	235