Dead-End Lovers: How to Avoid Them and Find True Intimacy

by Brown, Nina W.

• ISBN13: 9780313355967
• ISBN10: 0313355967
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2008-07-30
• Publisher: Greenwood Pub Group

Summary

Establishing and maintaining a meaningful, satisfying, and enduring intimate relationship can be elusive for many people. Time and again, they are drawn to lovers with whom the relationship is futile, ending with hurt feelings and regrets. In this work, Nina Brown shares her longtime experience as a professional counselor to help those who ask: "Why do I keep picking unsuitable lovers?" Brown calls them "dead-end lovers," and in this work she shows us, not only how to spot them early and avoid them, but also what it is--what psychological needs we have --that attract us to them.

Table of Contents

Preface	p. ix
Acknowledgments	p. xi
What Is a Meaningful Relationship, and How Do I Get One?	p. 1
Unproductive Relationships and Dead-End Lovers	p. 16
Clear Signs of Unsuitability	p. 29
The Helper and the Hurting and Needy Lover	p. 45
The Saver and the Risk-Taking and Rebellious Unsuitable Lover	p. 60
The Believer, and the Charming and Manipulative Unsuitable Lover	p. 74
The Mirror and the Self-Absorbed Unsuitable Lover	p. 90
The Curious Rebel and the Exotic, Different, Unsuitable Lover	p. 105
Reduce Susceptibility and Build Resistance	p. 119
Increase Your Interpersonal Effectiveness	p. 135
Become a Winner and Choose Winners	p. 152
Bibliography	p. 167
Index	p. 169
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