Preface | p. xi |
Acknowledgments | p. xiii |
Introduction | p. xv |
You Are Not Alone | p. 1 |
Meet the Women of the Lodge | p. 4 |
Therese | p. 4 |
Vanessa | p. 7 |
Jacque | p. 10 |
Sara | p. 15 |
Maite | p. 19 |
Jenny | p. 24 |
Moving On to Your Journey | p. 27 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 29 |
In the Face of Truth | p. 31 |
Denial: Protecting the Illusion | p. 33 |
Fear and Manipulation | p. 37 |
Denying, Minimizing, and Rationalizing | p. 39 |
Preoccupation | p. 42 |
Control | p. 43 |
Image Management | p. 45 |
Distorted Anger | p. 48 |
Rage | p. 48 |
Sideways Anger | p. 50 |
Anger Avoidance | p. 52 |
Chronic Grief and Loss | p. 53 |
The Body Knows | p. 56 |
The Impact of Stress | p. 57 |
Stress and Serious Illness | p. 59 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 62 |
His Behavior Is Not About You | p. 63 |
The Addiction | p. 64 |
The Behaviors | p. 66 |
The Science of Addiction | p. 68 |
The Addictive Cycle | p. 69 |
Why Am I Not Enough? | p. 73 |
Multiple Addictions | p. 74 |
Depression and Anxiety | p. 79 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 82 |
You Didn't Get Here by Accident | p. 83 |
Abandonment | p. 84 |
The Coaddict: Trauma Repetition | p. 85 |
Sexual Messages | p. 94 |
The Addict: Reenacting the Wound | p. 98 |
Shared Codependency | p. 102 |
Compartmentalizing | p. 106 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 109 |
Learning the News | p. 111 |
Disclosure | p. 114 |
The Dribbling Effect | p. 118 |
After Disclosure | p. 120 |
Getting Tested for STDs | p. 121 |
Being Sexual After Disclosure | p. 123 |
Should I Stay or Should I Leave? | p. 124 |
Making the Decision | p. 126 |
Therapeutic Separation | p. 128 |
Am I Crazy to Love Him? | p. 131 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 132 |
What Do You Tell Your Children? | p. 133 |
Children's Reactions | p. 134 |
Rationale for Disclosure to Children | p. 137 |
Appropriate Age | p. 138 |
Healthy Disclosure | p. 139 |
A Soft Approach to Disclosure | p. 142 |
A Direct Approach to Disclosure | p. 144 |
Recognizing the Complexity | p. 145 |
Answering Their Questions | p. 146 |
Ongoing Healing | p. 148 |
Beyond Disclosure | p. 149 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 152 |
Your Time to Heal | p. 153 |
Overcoming the Fear of Feelings | p. 154 |
Recognizing Yourself in the Grief Process | p. 157 |
How Long Will It Hurt? | p. 160 |
Accepting Powerlessness and Recognizing Unmanageability | p. 162 |
Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries | p. 166 |
Saying No, Saying Yes | p. 169 |
Early Recovery Boundaries | p. 170 |
Freeing Yourself from the Mental Frenzy | p. 172 |
Building Trust | p. 174 |
Your Sexual Relationship | p. 176 |
Facing Relapse | p. 179 |
Asking for Help | p. 181 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 186 |
Finding Your Serenity | p. 187 |
Forgiveness | p. 187 |
False Forgiveness | p. 188 |
Forgiveness and Recovery | p. 189 |
Self-forgiveness | p. 195 |
Spirituality: Where Is Your God? | p. 197 |
The Spiritual Path | p. 202 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 206 |
The Women of the Lodge | p. 207 |
Therese | p. 208 |
Vanessa | p. 210 |
Maite | p. 215 |
Jacque | p. 218 |
Jenny | p. 222 |
Sara | p. 226 |
The Invitation | p. 229 |
Reflective Thoughts and Questions | p. 232 |
Recommended Readings | p. 233 |
Helpful Resources | p. 237 |
Notes | p. 241 |
About the Author | p. 245 |
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