Defining Moments

by McArthur, Dorothea S., Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9780984773510
• ISBN10: 0984773517
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2012-06-10
• Publisher: Cove Pr

Summary

For readers knocked down by loss from natural disasters and the recession, and who cannot afford psychotherapy. Dr. McArthur, a Diplomate Clinical Psychologist with 33 years in private practice, sensitively shares defining moments from her productive form of psychotherapy and her own life. The book allows readers to acquire understanding, clarity, and coping mechanisms needed to get up again with confidence.& ; & ; Examples and solutions are provided about taking care of oneself, relating to others, and parenting children. Dr. McArthur emphasizes integrity, honesty and ethical behaviors for building depth-of-character, self-esteem and making a difference within a successful life.& ;

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. ix
Introduction	p. 1
Defining Moments From Nature
If You Are Hit, You Don't Have to Fall	p. 7
Two Dirty Ducks	p. 10
Brown Leaves and Cactus Bulbs	p. 16
Defining Moments in Taking Care of Your Self
"To Be or Not to Be … That is the Question," or "To Thine Own Self Be True"	p. 21
Who Do We Need to Please Anyway?	p. 26
Building an Introject	p. 28
Oh, Please Let Me Sleep	p. 32
Don't Put Your Best Friends to Sleep	p. 36
I Hate My Feelings … They Make Me Lose It	p. 43
An Anxiety Attack Is Not an Attack	p. 47
Integrating Lost Parts of Self	p. 50
Fighting Depression the Natural Way	p. 55
I Didn't Know I Was an Adult Child of an Alcoholic (ACA)	p. 59
The More You Help Yourself, the More Help You Will Get	p. 62
Try to Decipher a White Snow TV Screen … or Decide for Yourself	p. 66
So Many Ways to Communicate	p. 70
Four Kinds of Workers Interact; Which Are You?	p. 74
Life's Two Most Important and Privileged Questions	p. 78
Three Most Important Questions for Your Significant Others	p. 83
Our Most Powerful Elixir	p. 86
In Memoriam	p. 89
A New Way for the Elderly to Grieve	p. 94
Warning … Suicide Is First-Degree Murder	p. 99
Finding the Right Psychotherapist	p. 101
Don't Be Afraid to Ask for a Reduced Fee	p. 104
Defining Moments with Furry Associates
How Dogs and Cats Assisted Me in the Psychotherapy Process Within a Home Private Practice	p. 109
Enter Dogs	p. 117
New Cats Become Associates	p. 121
New Dogs Sign On	p. 124
Defining Moments with Handling Life
When Greed Takes Away Your Job	p. 133
On Birth and War	p. 139
When Someone Hurts You … Finding Your Way to Forgiveness	p. 142
A Crisis is Always an Opportunity	p. 146
The Backside of an Affair	p. 149
It Ain't Changed Since the Cave Man Days	p. 155
Protecting Sexual Abuse Victims … From Further Trauma by Extended Family	p. 160
To Punish or Help, That Is the Question	p. 166
Three Kinds of Romantic Attraction	p. 171
What Makes Romantic Love Last Anyway?	p. 174
What Good Friends Can Do but Often Don't	p. 177
Artists and Society	p. 181
There is a Quiet Way to Be of Service to Others	p. 188
Whatever Happened to Right and Wrong?	p. 190
WhatÆs Happening on My Street?	p. 194
Dear CEO/CFO	p. 197
A Middleperson Between Low Income and the Wealthy	p. 200
It Is Time to Give Artists a Chance to Change the World	p. 204
A Plan to Return a Sense of Community, Purpose and Meaning for Sixteen Million Unemployed	p. 210
.I Wonder What Would Happen If…	p. 214
As a Psychotherapist, I Wish That…	p. 216
Defining Moments for Children
Anxiety Helps	p. 221
Overloaded Report Card Children	p. 224
Defeating Bullies Without Getting into Trouble	p. 227
How to Help More Difficult Children	p. 232
Understanding Adoptee's Loss of Family	p. 237
When "I Love You" Means "Please Go Away"	p. 239
Adoptee Contradiction	p. 243
A Letter of Tribute to Parents of Special Needs Children	p. 248
More Defining Moments with Nature
Resolve and Staying Power	p. 257
Becoming Well	p. 260
Depletion Blooms	p. 262
Clients Speak Out
Thirteen Wishes to Rebuild a Nation From the Clients of a Psychotherapy Practice	p. 269
Conclusion
Japan on March 11, 2011	p. 299
When Pain From the Past Becomes a Strength	p. 303
So How Do All These Thoughts Add Up Anyway?	p. 305
My Personal "Making a Difference"	p. 309
Bibliography	p. 311
Index	p. 314
Acknowledgments	p. 322
About The Author	p. 323
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