Don't Bring Home a White Boy And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out

by Langhorne Folan, Karyn; Hunter, Karen

• ISBN13: 9781439154755
• ISBN10: 1439154759
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2010-02-02
• Publisher: Gallery Books/Karen Hunter Publishing

Summary

IN AN AGE WHEN AMERICA HAS EMBRACED a mixed-race president and a strong, independent black woman as first lady...when black women are on the move and more empowered than ever before...there remains one hot-button topic that stirs up cultural resistance and intensity of emotion like no other: interracial relationships -- or, specifically, when black women date or marry white men.What is it about the black female/white male dynamic that sparks such controversy and depth of feeling? What keeps many single black women from exploring relationships outside of their race at a time when the pool of eligible black men is at an all-time low?"Don't bring home a white boy" is the cultural message stamped deep into every black daughter, an enduring twenty-first-century taboo with origins dating back to the Civil War era, the turbulent Civil Rights decades, and beyond. Now at last there is an honest, eye-opening examination of this societal phenomenon that will resonate with women everywhere and give voice to all sides of the debate. Karyn Langhorne Folan, herself a black woman happily married to a white man, brings together historical, statistical, psychological, and personal perspectives in a groundbreaking book that boldly debunks the "notions" that can keep interracial dating off the table for many women, including:After slavery, I could never date a white man...My family would never accept him -- and his would never accept me...White men don't find black women attractive unless they look like Halle...Our biracial children would have no sense of identity...It means I'm a sellout, or fi lled with self-hate...We'd just be too different...Filled with real-life anecdotes from, and interviews with, men and women of both races and informed by Folan's thorough and expansive research,Don't Bring Home a White Boyis both an invaluable contribution to the topic of interracial dating and a timely handbook to help women look beyond skin color in the quest to have all they deserve and desire in a life partner.

Author Biography

Karyn Langhorne Folan is a graduate of Harvard Law School and the author of more than twenty books, including ghostwriting memoirs for celebrities such as Flavor Flav and Toya Carter Wright. She is also the author of Don’t Bring Home a White Boy, the Ashes, Ashes series, and contributed to the Bluford Series. Visit KarynFolan.com to learn more.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 1
After Slavery, I Would Never, Ever Date a White Man	p. 15
I'm Looking for My Good Black Man	p. 38
My Family Would Never Accept Him-and His Would Never Accept Me	p. 57
I Don't Find White Men Attractive	p. 82
White Men Don't Find Black Women Attractive-Unless They Look Like Beyoncé	p. 104
What About the Children?	p. 131
He Must Have Money: Black Women as Gold Diggers	p. 149
You're a Sellout: Perception of Black Women Who Date White Men	p. 160
We'd Be Too Different	p. 176
It's the Same Story Around the World	p. 212
Conclusion	p. 229
Notes	p. 233
Bibliography	p. 243
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