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| Acknowledgments | p. ix |
| About the Authors | p. xi |
| Introduction | p. 1 |
| How We Got the Input | |
| Whose Side Are We On, Anyway? | |
| Humanly Impossible? | |
| The Wrong Question | |
| Preparing for Divorce | p. 7 |
| The Miserably Undecided | |
| Overt Hostility | |
| The "Stuff-It" Style | |
| The Gift of Balance | |
| Honesty as Love; Honesty as Weapon | |
| Calling in Reinforcements | |
| Stay Together for the Kids? | |
| Summary | |
| Setting Up the Rhythm of the New Life | p. 29 |
| Forget "Custody" | |
| Parental Contact | |
| Residential Arrangements | |
| Calming the Storm | |
| A Word of Caution | |
| Decoupling Money From Relationship | |
| Splitting Siblings? | |
| Parenting Across the Miles | |
| When It's Down to One | |
| Life in Two Lanes (Co-Parented Children) | |
| Summary | |
| Dealing With the Other Parent | p. 53 |
| For the Kids' Sake, Get Along | |
| Kindness as Damage Control | |
| The Spirit of the Law Versus the Letter of the Law | |
| Big Events: How to Ruin or Save Them | |
| The Everyday Stuff | |
| Don't Work It Out Through the Kids | |
| The Wider Circle of Others | |
| Summary | |
| The New and Improved Parent | p. 71 |
| No Displacement | |
| No Use of Children as Buddies or Counselors | |
| No Use of Children as Substitute Parents | |
| Protect That Oldest Child | |
| It's Okay to Have Rules and Values | |
| A Scorned or Favored Parent | |
| Special Issues of Gay and Lesbian Parents | |
| Forgive Yourself (and the Other) and Move On | |
| Help the Children Learn | |
| The Best That You Can Be | |
| Summary | |
| Dating, Romance, and Recommitment | p. 87 |
| Kids as Bait | |
| Kids as Turn-Offs | |
| Kids as Date Spies | |
| Getting Serious (or Who's the Boss? Part I) | |
| Remarriage | |
| Summary | |
| Stepparenting | p. 95 |
| Forget the Rescue Fantasies | |
| Who's the Boss? Part II | |
| Relationship--First, Last, and Always | |
| Slow, Steady, Gradual | |
| Dangers of Disciplining | |
| Stepsiblings: Be Fair, Be Watchful | |
| Another Time Around | |
| And Now for Some Good News | |
| Summary | |
| Exceptional Cases, Exceptional Needs | p. 107 |
| The Tomb of the Unknown Parent | |
| Partial Abandonment | |
| Serious Pathology and Endangerment | |
| Don't "Fake Good" for the Other Parent | |
| Summary | |
| Resources for Divorcing Families | p. 121 |
| Use This Book! | |
| Getting the Goods | |
| Selecting Professional Resources | |
| Divorce Resources for Kids | |
| Divorce Resources for Parents | |
| Stress Management Ideas for Parents | |
| Summary | |
| Helping Your Children Cope With Divorce: Age-Based Guidelines | p. 139 |
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