Don't Get Lucky, Get Smart Why Your Love Life Sucks--and What You Can Do About It

by Cohen, Alan

• ISBN13: 9781600940590
• ISBN10: 1600940595
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-10-26
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

Summary

With the same humor, real-world examples, and charming directness as Why Your Life Sucks, Don't Get Lucky Get Smart spells out why many of us have been unlucky in love and also offers practical ways to increase our relationship intelligence. From a self-help guru who admittedly owned a lot of unreal estate in dating hell for years, Don't Get Lucky distils the common reasons we all have bad or just not great relationships, showing us how to recognize our own patterns, and ultimately how to change for the better. An original voice with highly practical information: Cohen debunks the common myths we bring to dating and offers new insight into the realities of relationships. For example, chances are your love life sucks if you often... -Mistake "hope at first sight" for "love at first sight" -Date out of desperation. People who feel desperate do desperate things and create desperate results -Seek only The Right Person which may be a way of avoiding relationship -Get stuck on The Wrong Person again and again and again

Author Biography

Alan H. Cohen is the author of twenty popular inspirational titles, including Relax into Wealth, The Dragon Doesn't Lives Here Anymore, and Dare to be Yourself. A frequent guest on television and radio, he conducts life mastery seminars in Hawaii and on-line, and is an acclaimed keynote speaker for educational, health, church, and corporate groups. He lives on Maui, Hawaii.

www.alancohen.com

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. xi
Some Notes for the Reader	p. xv
Reason #1. You Start Relationships on the Wrong Foot.
Love at First Sight?	p. 1
Realness Rocks	p. 12
Are You Desperate?	p. 19
Why You Can't Afford a Married Lover	p. 25
Reason #2. You Would Rather Seek Love Than Find It.
Waiting for The One	p. 37
"All the Good Ones Are Taken or Gay"	p. 48
Looking for Wrong in All the Love Places	p. 58
The Attraction of Fantasy Lovers	p. 66
Reason #3. You Let Past Pain Keep You From Present Love.
Healing a Wounded Heart	p. 79
Too Good to Be True?	p. 86
Why-and Why Not-to Contact Your Ex	p. 96
How to Quit Repeating Patterns	p. 105
Reason #4. You Keep Fabulous Partners at a Distance.
Close at a Distance	p. 119
Wanted: Meaningful Overnight Relationship	p. 127
One in the Wings	p. 134
Taming the Green-Eyed Monster	p. 141
Analysis Paralysis	p. 150
Reason #5. You Don't Capitalize on Key Turning Points.
This Can't Be It	p. 159
Shift Happens	p. 166
Dialing in Dates	p. 171
Rejection Is Protection	p. 180
Almost There	p. 188
Reason #6. You Settle for Scraps and Miss the Banquet.
On-Again, Off-Again...Stop!	p. 197
When Sex Gets Real	p. 205
Is Make-Up Sex Worth the Fight?	p. 215
Let the One in Least Fear Lead	p. 221
Reason #7. You Try Too Hard.
Tell Me Today	p. 229
Prove You Love Me	p. 236
The Problem with Perfect Couples	p. 242
A Legend in His Own Mind	p. 249
Reason #8. Commitment Terrifies You.
You Can't Hit a Moving Target	p. 257
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Commitment-phobes (But Couldn't Get Them to Answer)	p. 263
Look Before You Leap-But Then Leap	p. 268
Reason #9. You Miss the Off-Ramp on the Road to the Altar of Doom.
Ten Ouestions to Ask Yourself Before You Say, "I Do"	p. 277
How to Know Who to Marry	p. 290
Reason #10. You Don't End Relationships Cleanly.
You Can't Fire Me-I Quit	p. 297
I Forgot to Tell You We Broke up	p. 301
From Clean Endings to New Beginnings	p. 306
Afterword	p. 312
Acknowledgments	p. 315
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