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Steven J. Stein, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and CEO of Multi-Health Systems (MHS), a leading international test publishing company. A leading expert on psychological assessment and emotional intelligence, he has consulted to military and government agencies, including the U.S. Air Force, Army, and Navy; special units of the Pentagon; and the FBI Academy; as well as corporate organizations, including American Express, Canyon Ranch, and professional sports teams.
Foreword | p. xix |
Introduction | p. 1 |
About Emotional Intelligence For Dummies | p. 2 |
Foolish Assumptions | p. 3 |
Conventions Used in This Book | p. 3 |
What You Don't Have to Read | p. 3 |
How This Book Is Organized | p. 4 |
There's a New Kind of Intelligence in Town | p. 4 |
The Essentials of Emotional Intelligence | p. 4 |
Taking Emotional Intelligence to Work | p. 5 |
Using Emotional Intelligence at Home | p. 6 |
The Part of Tens | p. 6 |
Icons Used in This Book | p. 7 |
Where to Go from Here | p. 7 |
There's a New Kind of Intelligence in Town | p. 9 |
Feeling Smart | p. 11 |
Defining Emotional Intelligence | p. 11 |
Getting a Handle on Your Emotions | p. 13 |
Understanding the Emotions of Others | p. 15 |
Influencing a person's emotions | p. 17 |
Following the Golden Rule | p. 18 |
Applying Emotional Intelligence at Work | p. 19 |
The benefits of emotional intelligence at work | p. 19 |
The advantages of an emotionally intelligent workplace | p. 20 |
Pursuing Successful Family Interactions | p. 22 |
Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence | p. 23 |
Measuring Emotional Intelligence | p. 23 |
Feeling, Thinking, and Behaving Like an Emotionally Intelligent Person | p. 26 |
Feeling like an emotionally intelligent person | p. 26 |
Thinking like an emotionally intelligent person | p. 27 |
Behaving like an emotionally intelligent person | p. 29 |
Recognizing an Emotionally Unintelligent Person | p. 30 |
Finding Happiness | p. 33 |
Defining Happiness | p. 33 |
Understanding the benefits of being happy | p. 35 |
Changing your emotions | p. 36 |
Addressing problems with optimism | p. 37 |
Knowing your strengths and weaknesses | p. 38 |
Finding Authentic Happiness | p. 39 |
The Essentials of Emotional Intelligence | p. 41 |
Investigating the Science Behind Emotional Intelligence | p. 43 |
Understanding the Difference between Emotional Intelligence and IQ | p. 44 |
Knowing How Your Emotions Affect You | p. 45 |
Making the Case for Emotional Intelligence | p. 47 |
Understanding how EQ tests work | p. 49 |
Understanding how EQ tests work compared to personality tests | p. 54 |
Differentiating Personality from Emotional Skills | p. 55 |
Tracking personality across the life span | p. 56 |
Changing your emotional intelligence | p. 57 |
Becoming More Aware of Your Emotions | p. 61 |
Defining Feelings | p. 62 |
Identifying Your Emotions | p. 64 |
Digging Deeper into Your Emotions | p. 66 |
Interpreting behaviors | p. 67 |
Examining self-destructive behaviors | p. 68 |
Understanding body language | p. 71 |
Reading your emotions through other people | p. 74 |
Changing Negative Emotions | p. 75 |
Recognizing negative emotions | p. 76 |
Using the ABCDE theory of emotions | p. 77 |
Managing Your Emotions | p. 79 |
Okay, I Feel Sad, Mad, or Bad-Now What? | p. 79 |
Using cognitive restructuring | p. 80 |
Methods of distraction | p. 83 |
Relaxation, meditation, and similar activities | p. 84 |
How mindfulness works | p. 88 |
Working Your Way Out of a Bad Situation | p. 89 |
Short-term approaches | p. 89 |
Long-term solutions | p. 91 |
Changing Your Emotions for the Better | p. 91 |
Recognizing the importance of practice | p. 92 |
Developing a positive psychology | p. 93 |
Understanding Empathy | p. 95 |
Knowing the Difference between Empathy and Sympathy | p. 96 |
Beginning with you, not I | p. 96 |
Knowing why the difference is important | p. 96 |
Reading Other People's Emotions | p. 99 |
Walking in the other person's moccasins | p. 101 |
Starting with what they say | p. 102 |
Understanding what their faces tell you | p. 102 |
Decoding body language | p. 104 |
Showing People You Understand Their Feelings | p. 104 |
Checking in | p. 105 |
Getting confirmation | p. 105 |
Exploring Situations in Which Empathy Can Really Help You | p. 106 |
Strengthening intimate relationships | p. 107 |
Understanding friends and relatives | p. 108 |
Dealing with tense situations that involve strangers | p. 109 |
Managing Other People's Emotions | p. 111 |
Changing How You React to Others | p. 112 |
Being aware of your gut reaction | p. 112 |
Working through alternative responses | p. 113 |
Managing Other People's Emotions | p. 114 |
Identifying where other people are coming from | p. 116 |
Establishing a realistic alternative behavior | p. 117 |
Getting a person to want to change | p. 118 |
Encountering Obnoxious People | p. 119 |
Determining your best outcome with a difficult person | p. 120 |
Developing techniques for dealing with difficult people | p. 121 |
Dealing with Difficult Friends and Relatives | p. 123 |
Start with the endgame | p. 123 |
Getting to the relationship you want | p. 125 |
Taking Emotional Intelligence to Work | p. 127 |
Dealing with Difficult Workplace Situations | p. 129 |
Having Feelings at Work? | p. 130 |
Getting in touch with your feelings at work | p. 130 |
Getting control of your emotions | p. 131 |
Exploring Situations That Bring Out Your Worst at Work | p. 133 |
Tackling hassles | p. 134 |
Coping with fears | p. 136 |
Exploring Situations That Bring Out Your Best at Work | p. 137 |
Managing the Emotions of Others at Work | p. 140 |
Succeeding Through Emotional Intelligence | p. 143 |
Finding the Right Job | p. 144 |
Testing interests, personality, and intelligence | p. 144 |
What EQ can add to the job equation | p. 147 |
Assessing Your Work Life | p. 150 |
Understanding that you are what you feel | p. 150 |
Knowing whether your job feels right | p. 151 |
Getting a feel for what you do best | p. 152 |
Improving Your Performance When Working with People | p. 154 |
Knowing whether you're a people person | p. 154 |
Dealing effectively with people at work | p. 156 |
Improving Your Performance When Working Alone | p. 157 |
Knowing whether you prefer to work alone | p. 157 |
Getting better at working alone | p. 158 |
Influencing People at Work | p. 159 |
Using empathy to make your sale | p. 160 |
Understanding assertiveness | p. 161 |
Becoming a Better Team Player | p. 162 |
Understanding work teams | p. 163 |
Fitting in on a team | p. 163 |
Helping your teammates | p. 164 |
Becoming an Emotionally Intelligent Leader | p. 167 |
Getting Others to Do Things at Work | p. 168 |
Deciding whether you want to be a manager | p. 168 |
Getting someone to listen to you | p. 169 |
Eliciting cooperative behavior from others | p. 170 |
Leading Other People | p. 172 |
Defining an effective workplace leader | p. 174 |
Knowing your leadership skills | p. 177 |
Knowing your leadership weaknesses | p. 178 |
Knowing whether you're fit to be a workplace leader | p. 179 |
Rising to the occasion of good leadership | p. 180 |
Creating an Emotionally Intelligent Workplace | p. 183 |
Defining the Emotionally Intelligent Workplace | p. 184 |
Looking at the typical workplace | p. 185 |
Looking at an emotionally intelligent workplace | p. 187 |
Determining Whether Your Workplace Is Emotionally Intelligent | p. 189 |
Documenting your workplace strengths | p. 190 |
Cataloging areas for improvement | p. 191 |
Knowing whether your workplace is emotionally intelligent | p. 192 |
Managing the Work-Life Balancing Act | p. 193 |
Knowing your values | p. 194 |
Looking at your work time | p. 195 |
Looking at your life time | p. 197 |
How you can balance work and life | p. 198 |
Creating Emotionally Intelligent Teams | p. 198 |
Defining a work team | p. 199 |
Understanding what makes teams work | p. 200 |
Increasing the emotional intelligence of your teams | p. 201 |
Making Your Workplace More Emotionally Intelligent | p. 202 |
Starting with you | p. 202 |
Influencing your co-workers | p. 203 |
Managing your manager | p. 204 |
Taking it to the top | p. 205 |
Getting Through College with Emotional Intelligence | p. 207 |
Why So Many Students Don't Make It Through the First Year of College | p. 208 |
Looking at school grades and SATs | p. 208 |
We're not in Kansas anymore: Welcome to college | p. 209 |
Problems that first-year students encounter | p. 210 |
Preparing to deal with emotional and social issues | p. 211 |
Warning Signs of College Derailment | p. 212 |
Adjusting to the first year of college | p. 213 |
How to know when your first year isn't going well | p. 214 |
Suggestions to Get Back On Track | p. 214 |
Identifying possible problems | p. 215 |
Taking stock of your resources | p. 216 |
Getting into action mode | p. 217 |
Knowing Your Long-Term Objectives | p. 218 |
Cataloging strengths | p. 219 |
Identifying your strengths and weaknesses | p. 220 |
Setting long-term goals | p. 221 |
Achieving long-term goals | p. 222 |
Using Emotional Intelligence at Home | p. 223 |
Creating Emotionally Intelligent Relationships | p. 225 |
Assessing Your Intimate Relationship | p. 226 |
Understanding why emotional intelligence matters in a relationship | p. 226 |
Rating your relationship | p. 227 |
Understanding How Your Emotions Affect the Relationship | p. 230 |
Emotions: The glue of relationships | p. 231 |
How emotions help you grow together | p. 232 |
Why emotions sometimes grow apart | p. 233 |
Understanding and Managing Your Partner's Emotions | p. 234 |
Taking your partner's emotional temperature | p. 235 |
Knowing where to start managing your partner's emotions | p. 235 |
Pushing the limit of managing your partner's emotions | p. 237 |
Using Your Emotional Skills in Your Relationship | p. 238 |
Taking your own emotional temperature | p. 238 |
Knowing what battles are worth fighting | p. 239 |
Knowing when to hold your tongue | p. 240 |
Using empathy to enhance your relationship | p. 241 |
Building Emotionally Healthy Social Relationships | p. 242 |
Using your emotional skills in social relationships | p. 242 |
Finding the right balance of emotional and social skills | p. 243 |
Parenting with Emotional Intelligence | p. 245 |
How Intelligent People Become Emotionally Unintelligent Parents | p. 245 |
What they didn't teach you about kids | p. 247 |
Managing your own emotions | p. 247 |
Understanding Where Your Partner Is Coming From | p. 249 |
Working as a team | p. 250 |
Managing each other's emotions | p. 251 |
Keeping Your Cool with Your Child | p. 252 |
Using Your Emotional Skills to Manage Your Child | p. 254 |
Managing your impulse control | p. 254 |
Using empathy as a guide | p. 255 |
Problem-solving your way through crises | p. 256 |
Getting a Grip When Dealing with Your Teenager | p. 257 |
What you should know about flexibility | p. 257 |
Where stress management comes in handy | p. 258 |
Managing the Rollercoaster Teenage Years | p. 259 |
Keeping self-regard on an even keel | p. 260 |
Gauging your teenager's interpersonal skills | p. 261 |
Showing your teenager social responsibility | p. 261 |
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child | p. 263 |
Understanding Your Child | p. 264 |
Modeling empathy early | p. 264 |
Reading your child's moods | p. 265 |
Helping Your Child Become More Aware of His Emotions | p. 266 |
Using exercises in self-awareness | p. 267 |
Connecting emotions and consequences | p. 268 |
Managing Your Child's Withdrawn Behaviors | p. 270 |
Why some children are shy | p. 270 |
Bringing your child out of her shell | p. 271 |
Managing Your Child's Overactive or Aggressive Behaviors | p. 272 |
The ADHD epidemic | p. 272 |
Knowing whether your child has ADHD | p. 273 |
Why so many children behave aggressively | p. 274 |
How to tell whether your child is too aggressive | p. 276 |
The importance of callous and unemotional characteristics | p. 277 |
Getting your child to be less oppositional and defiant | p. 278 |
Making Your Teenager More Aware of Emotional Intelligence | p. 279 |
Talking to your teen about emotions | p. 280 |
Getting your teenager to read books such as this one | p. 281 |
Helping Your Teenager Become More Emotionally Intelligent | p. 282 |
Putting theory into practice | p. 283 |
Letting them discover their own emotional intelligence | p. 283 |
The Part of Tens | p. 285 |
Ten Ways to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence | p. 287 |
Become More Self-Aware | p. 287 |
Express Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Beliefs | p. 288 |
Discover Your Inner Passions | p. 289 |
Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses | p. 289 |
Walk in the Other Person's Moccasins | p. 290 |
Manage Another Person's Emotions | p. 291 |
Be Socially Responsible | p. 292 |
Manage Your Own Impulses | p. 293 |
Be More Flexible | p. 294 |
Be Happy | p. 295 |
Ten Ways to Help Difficult People with Their Emotional Intelligence | p. 297 |
Taking the Indirect Approach | p. 298 |
Having a Talk | p. 299 |
Knowing Whether You've Been Heard | p. 299 |
Gauging the Intention to Change | p. 300 |
Giving Feedback | p. 300 |
Providing Strategies | p. 301 |
Checking Progress | p. 301 |
Exploring the Effect of Poor Behavior | p. 302 |
Explaining in Different Ways | p. 303 |
Selling on Benefits | p. 303 |
Ten Ways to Make the World a More Emotionally Intelligent Place | p. 305 |
Caring for Others | p. 305 |
Focusing on Other People | p. 306 |
Working on Yourself | p. 307 |
Helping Your Family | p. 307 |
Giving Back to Your Community | p. 308 |
Improving Your Workplace | p. 308 |
Bringing Back Civility | p. 309 |
Reducing Hate | p. 309 |
Taking Up a Cause for Your Country | p. 310 |
Changing Your World | p. 310 |
Appendix: Resources for Emotional and Social Intelligence | p. 313 |
Books | p. 313 |
Web Sites and Other Resources | p. 314 |
Index | p. 317 |
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