It Ends with You : Grow up and Out of Dysfunction

by Tessina, Tina B.

• ISBN13: 9781564146496
• ISBN10: 1564146499
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2003-01-01
• Publisher: Career Pr Inc

Summary

Many parents, today and in years past, do not possess the tools to teach their children how to live a satisfying life. Because such parents have little knowledge of how to provide a good example, family dysfunction often runs through succeeding generations like a snowball rolling down a hill, gathering speed and power as it goes. Growing up and learning to be responsible for yourself is often like standing at the bottom of that hill and stopping that huge snowball. The legacy of dysfunction ends with you. In 25 years of counseling people in recovery, licensed psychotherapist Tina Tessina, Ph.D. has worked with many clients struggling with similar problems-anxiety, depression, feeling out of control, relationship disasters, and a pervasive feeling that they don't know what "normal" is. No matter how old they are, they don't feel really grown up. They never gained the confidence, self-motivation, and emotional management tools they need to live healthy, happy lives because their families didn't provide good role models, structure, and information. The exercises and guidelines in this book will help you finally understand what a functional family is, how its members are still affected by early experience, and how to develop the skills necessary for successful living and loving. Book jacket.

Author Biography

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., has 25 years' experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has authored 10 books. She has appeared extensively on radio and TV, including Larry King Live, Oprah, To Tell the Truth and ABC-TV News, and is regularly quoted in numerous national publications, including Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and Redbook

Table of Contents

Introduction	9	(6)
Dysfunctional Families and How They Grow	15	(16)
What You Might Have Learned in Childhood	31	(20)
Grown-Up Problems From Family Patterns	51	(34)
Why Do I Do That? The Child Running the Adult	85	(22)
The Inner Detective: Demystifying the Past	107	(24)
Changing Old Patterns: Re-Creating Yourself	131	(22)
Removing Roadblocks to Creating Your Future	153	(22)
The Successful Life	175	(34)
Bibliography	209	(2)
Other Books by the Author	211	(2)
Chapter Heading Quote Sources	213	(2)
Index	215	(8)
About the Author	223