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Author Biography

Stephen Arterburn is the founder and chairman of New Life Ministries and is the host of the nationally syndicated “New Life Live!” daily radio program. He is the founder of the Women of Faith conferences, a nationally known public speaker and best-selling author of over 60 books. He has degrees from Baylor University and The University of North Texas. He resides with his family in Laguna Beach, California.

Kenny Luck is president and founder of Every Man Ministries and coauthor of the best-selling Every Man, God’s Man. He is the Men’s Pastor at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, California.

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. 1
The Man Zone	p. 5
Getting the Pose Just Right	p. 16
Do the Hard Thing	p. 28
Mind Games	p. 44
You Know Better	p. 58
Battle, Don't Blend	p. 71
The Dark Side	p. 86
Hot Gates	p. 99
Are You Picking and Choosing?	p. 110
Are You Gumby or Superman?	p. 123
Baptizing Your Brain	p. 136
Do You Need Sharpening?	p. 150
Breaking the Silence	p. 162
Never Lost	p. 175
Enthusiasm Versus Power	p. 187
Pressure Means Progress	p. 199
Planning Victory	p. 209
Honoring the Sacrifice	p. 220
Workbook
Questions You May Have About This Workbook	p. 231
In the Man Zone or Just a Poser?	p. 233
Hard to Do: No Mind Games!	p. 240
Knowing Better than to Blend	p. 252
Out of the Dark into Defense	p. 259
Hey Gumby: Baptize That Brain!	p. 266
Stay Sharp and Speak Up	p. 278
Power, Pressure, and Progress	p. 289
Plan the Victory; Honor the Sacrifice	p. 299
Don't Keep It to Yourself	p. 306
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the man zone
The summer before my freshman year at UCLA, I came home one time after midnight to a dark house and sleeping parents. While my home was very quiet, my soul churned in chaos. I needed the safety and comfort of my bedroom to relax me. I sat on my bed and ran my right hand through my shoulder-length hair. While I had dismissed many things I didn’t like about my life–going to church topped my list–I had one habit too ingrained to let go of: praying before I fell asleep. I guess this was my way to connect with God on my terms. After all, I was the “spiritual” party guy.
Most of the time, however, I would recite the same old prayers I had known my whole life. My lips would be moving, and I could hear myself speaking the words, but my heart and my soul were definitely checked out. I found these midnight prayers easy, comfortable, and safe. I’m sure to God I sounded more like a robot than a human being, but in my twisted thinking, I figured God wouldn’t call my lack of sincerity on the carpet. Man, was I ever wrong.
That summer evening it was time for my nightly ritual. I got down on my knees at the foot of my bed and looked out at the star-filled Northern California sky. I started with the Lord’s Prayer(“Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name…”).Suddenly, I heard a voice inside telling me to stop. I thought,What’s up with this?I started over, but I couldn’t get out the memorized words that I had repeated thousands of times before. I didn’t know what was happening, but I did know that my skin felt like it was crawling, which humbled and scared me. Instead of “Our Father, who art in heaven” coming out of my mouth, I heard myself whispering, “I want to see You… I want to see You.”
Each time I said this, I felt a deeper and deeper presence filling the air around me. My body shook in response, and tears rolled down my cheeks like rivers. My emotion had been touched by the strong and fragrant presence of God.
For the first time in my life, I expressed to God what I really wanted more than anything–a real encounter with Him…just the two of us. I voiced a simple prayer–“I want to see You”–not to please my parents, not to impress friends, not to maintain some image, and certainly not to win His approval. What I said that evening was the true confession of a guy on his knees to a God who had been patiently waiting for me to get honest.
Once you settle for less than God’s best,
you start spinning your wheels.
He didn’t have to be patient since I had been acting like a hypocrite–an immature one at that. He knew I had been deliberately fooling myself, but He also saw someone who was experiencing turmoil regarding who Christ was. When I expressed a longing from deep within my heart–as simple as it was–He seized that measly effort to invade my room and bring me closer to Him as never before.
That night was a turning point. God reached out and touched me, and I felt closer to Him as never before. I couldn’t rationalize this experience away, I couldn’t blame someone else for not living out what I believed, and I couldn’t divorce myself from His will at my convenience any longer. Instead of judging me or punishing me, He threw His arms around me and said, “I forgive you. Now go and sin no more.” God “unstuck” me spiritually as a young man, for which I’m grateful. What happened to me sounds a lot like what happened to David, who wrote this in the book of Psalms:

He turned to me and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand. (Psalm 40:1-2

Excerpted from Every Young Man, God's Man: Confident, Courageous, and Completely His by Kenny Luck, Stephen Arterburn
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