Expectation Hangover Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life

by Hassler, Christine; Rankin, Lissa

• ISBN13: 9781608682416
• ISBN10: 1608682412
• Additional ISBN(s): 9781608682423
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2014-10-14
• Publisher: New World Library
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Summary

When our expectations are met and things go according to plan, we feel accomplished, in control, and on track. But when life does not live up to our expectations, we end up with an Expectation Hangover.

Expectation Hangovers happen when a desired result is not met, an outcome is achieved but it does not give us the feelings we thought it would, life throws us a curveball, or we simply do not feel we are living up to the expectations placed upon us (by ourselves or others). Expectations are pervasive in our lives; therefore, so is disappointment, which costs us valuable time and energy if not treated effectively.

Whether you are facing a loss, going through a life transition, or want to learn how to stop setting so many expectations, this book gives you a treatment plan for how to process Expectation Hangovers on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels.

Using powerful exercises, guided meditations, and inspiring true stories, Christine teaches you how use Expectation Hangovers as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You’ll understand why your Expectation Hangover happened and a clear course of action to pursue your goals while preventing future disappointment.

Author Biography

Christine Hassler is looked to by readers of her books and blogs as an expert on how to navigate beliefs, eliminate anxiety and self-judgment, and engineer transformation and fulfillment. She lives in Los Angeles, CA.

Lissa Rankin, MD is the author of the New York Times bestseller Mind Over Medicine.

Table of Contents

Contents

Foreword by Lissa Rankin, MD
Introduction
What to Expect

Part One: Expectations

Chapter One: My Expectation Hangovers

Chapter Two: The Whats and Whys of Expectation Hangovers
“Expectation Hangover” Defined
Why Expectation Hangovers Happen

Chapter Three: What Does Not Work
Distraction
Numbing the Pain
Being Strong
Pep Talks
The Next Best Thing
Spiritual Bypass

Chapter Four: Awareness and Acceptance
The First Step out of Disappointment

Part Two: Treatment Plan

Chapter Five: A Holistic Prescription for Treating Your Expectation Hangover
Role-Playing Rx

Chapter Six: The Emotional Level
How We Suppress Emotions
Role-Playing Rx: The Surfer
But I’m Not Angry!
The Power of Vulnerability
Make a Date with Your Feelings
Conclusion

Chapter Seven: The Mental Level
Your Story
Role-Playing Rx: The Horseback Rider
Thought Time Travel
Conclusion

Chapter Eight: The Behavioral Level
Role-Playing Rx: The Scientist
Compensatory Strategies
Your Superpowers
Avoidance Traps
Your Core Values
Conclusion

Chapter Nine: The Spiritual Level
The Goal Line versus the Soul Line
Your Spiritual Curriculum
Role-Playing Rx: The Seeker
Living Inside Out
Surrendering to a Higher Power
Lesson Quest
Your Life Purpose
Conclusion

Part Three: Prevention

Chapter Ten: Managing Your Expectations
The Secret Sauce for Pursuing Goals

Chapter Eleven: Quick Fixes That Work
Quick Fix 1: Stop People-Pleasing
Quick Fix 2: Go Your Own Way
Quick Fix 3: Don’t Go to a Chinese Restaurant for Nachos
Quick Fix 4: Wake Up from Comparison Comas
Quick Fix 5: Be of Service
Quick Fix 6: Be a Kid
Quick Fix 7: Gorge on Gratitude

Conclusion
Acknowledgments
Notes
Index
About the Author