Facing the Shadow : Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery

by Carnes, Patrick J.

• ISBN13: 9781929866014
• ISBN10: 1929866011
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2001-09-01
• Publisher: Hci

Summary

Patrick Carnes is a pioneer in identifying, treating, and studying sexual addiction. His workbook Facing the Shadow is designed as a companion to his groundbreaking books Out of the Shadows, Don't Call It Love, and Sexual Anorexia. Chapter topics include working through denial, understanding the addictive cycle, identifying compulsive behaviors, addressing compulsivity as an intimacy disorder, and more.

Table of Contents

Introduction to the Gentle Path Series	vii
Foreword	ix
Preface	xi
What Is Real? Recognizing Self-Delusion	1	(26)
Problems, Secrets, and Excuses	4	(10)
Consequences Inventory	14	(3)
Denial	17	(8)
Getting the Help You Need	25	(2)
What Is an Addiction? Understanding Addictive Behaviour	27	(22)
The Addiction Cycle	28	(2)
The Addictive System	30	(19)
What Are Your Behaviors: Understanding Compulsive Sex	49	(28)
The Ten Types	51	(15)
Courtship Gone Awry	66	(2)
Courtship and the Ten Types	68	(3)
Courtship Inventory	71	(6)
What Is a First Step? Accepting the Problem	77	(18)
Your Sexual Addiction History	79	(13)
Sharing Your First Step	92	(3)
What Damage Has Been Done? Responding to Change and Crisis	95	(42)
Understanding Change	96	(5)
Damage Control Worksheet	101	(28)
Disclosure Plan	129	(3)
Restoration of Trust	132	(5)
What Is Sobriety? Managing Life without Dysfunctional Sexual Behavior	137	(56)
The Sobriety Challenges	145	(7)
Establishing Sobriety	152	(8)
Fire Drill Planning Sheets	160	(7)
Sexual and Relationship Health Plan	167	(4)
Preventing Relapse	171	(4)
Creating Your Recovery Zone: The Personal Craziness Index	175	(9)
Tools for Staying in the Zone	184	(3)
Resisting Relapse	187	(6)
What Has Happened to Your Body? Managing the Physical Impact of Your Addiction	193	(54)
Having a Physical	193	(7)
Addiction Neuropathways	200	(7)
Sexual Neuropathways and Addiction	207	(4)
The Sexual Addiction Matrix	211	(4)
The Arousal Template	215	(10)
Fantasy Worksheet	225	(22)
Where Is Your Support? Creating Your Support System	247	(20)
Learning about the Twelve Step Process	248	(6)
Early Barriers to Meetings	254	(4)
Important People Inventory	258	(4)
Couples Recovery	262	(5)
What Makes for Long-Term Success? Deepening Recovery for Profound Life Change	267	(12)
The First Seven Tasks	272	(7)
Contact for More Information List	279	(2)
Appendix	281	(2)
Resource Guide	283	(4)
For Further Reading	287