Fall in Love, Stay in Love

by Harley, Willard F., Jr.

• ISBN13: 9780800717933
• ISBN10: 0800717937
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2001-09-01
• Publisher: Revell

Summary

Dr. Harley\u2019s blockbuster book His Needs, Her Needs has helped more than a million couples meet each other\u2019s needs and fall in love all over again. But that\u2019s only part of what makes a spectacular marriage, according to Harley. To stay in love, couples mustprotect each other and the love they\u2019ve created.Harley fans have already been introduced to the Love Bank, emotional needs, Love Busters, and fair negotiation. So how do these key concepts work together to strengthen marriages? Fall in Love, Stay in Love has the answer-a complete, step-by-step overview that will leave fans saying "aha!" and new readers ready for more from this respected author.In his new book, Harley promises that if couples are willing to form habits that create love and control instincts that destroy it, they can have the love-filled marriages they\u2019ve always wanted. Then he sits down with readers to guide them through his tried and proven plan.With profound insights, probing questions, and practical action steps,,the man who has helped save scores of marriages leads readers down the road to a love that lasts a lifetime.

Author Biography

Nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is the author of many books on marriage, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; and Love Busters. His popular web site, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem. Dr. Harley lives in White Bear Lake, Minnesota, with Joyce, his wife of thirty-eight years.

Table of Contents

Part 1 Setting the Stage
How I Learned to Save Marriages	9	(8)
The Love Bank	17	(10)
Instincts and Habits	27	(10)
Part 2 How to Make Love Bank Deposits
Learning to Care for Each Other	37	(8)
His Most Important Emotional Needs	45	(10)
Her Most Important Emotional Needs	55	(12)
Identifying and Meeting Important Emotional Needs	67	(12)
The Policy of Undivided Attention	79	(14)
Part 3 How to Avoid Love Bank Withdrawals
Learning to Protect Each Other	93	(6)
Love Busters: Part 1	99	(12)
Love Busters: Part 2	111	(8)
The Policy of Radical Honesty	119	(12)
Identifying and Overcoming Love Busters	131	(10)
Part 4 How to Negotiate in Marriage
The Giver and the Taker	141	(10)
The Three States of Mind in Marriage	151	(12)
The Policy of Joint Agreement	163	(12)
Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiation	175	(10)
How to Resolve Everyday Problems	185	(14)
Conclusion	199	(51)
Appendixes:
Appendix A Summary of My Basic Concepts to Help You Fall in Love and Stay in Love	201	(10)
Appendix B Emotional Needs Questionnaire	211	(12)
Appendix C Agreement to Meet the Most Important Emotional Needs	223	(1)
Appendix D Time for Undivided Attention Worksheet	224	(1)
Appendix E Time for Undivided Attention Graph	225	(1)
Appendix F Personal History Questionnaire	226	(17)
Appendix G Love Busters Questionnaire	243	(7)
Appendix H Agreement to Overcome Love Busters	250