Family Re-Union Reconnecting Parents and Children in Adulthood

by Kuttner, Robert; Trotter, Sharland

• ISBN13: 9781416567783
• ISBN10: 141656778X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-06-25
• Publisher: Free Press

Summary

All our lives, we seek affirmation and love from the people closest to us -- our parents and, later, our grown children. But too few of us get it. As adults, many of us feel that our aging parents still treat us like kids. As parents, many of us are sad that our adult children seem to have little use for us.When Robert Kuttner and Sharland Trotter were writingFamily Re-Union,many new empty-nesters told them, "I hope I have a better relationship with my kids than I did with my parents."Family Re-Unionoffers insights on how adults and their parents can cultivate new adult- to-adult lifelong connections and become deeper friends. It is the first book to explore this challenge over the entire life course -- from a teenager's departure for college to the impending death of an aging parent.Kuttner, a well-known journalist, and Trotter, a clinical psychologist, conceived the book when their son had just gone off to college and their daughter was a junior in high school. The message ofFamily Re-Unionis deepened by the unusual circumstances of its writing: a year into the work, Sharland Trotter learned she had cancer.As Sharland deals with her illness and invites her family into her journey, the book takes on additional relevance for all those facing their own mortality -- whether prematurely or at the natural end of a long life span -- and seeking to repair family relationships. ButFamily Re-Unionwill prove indispensable for all adults, from the twenty-five-year-old who finds her parents overbearing, through the forty-year-old hoping to have a better relationship with his son than he had with his father, to the seventy-year-old trying to reconnect with a middle-aged daughter, and all steps in between. These are life stages we all encounter, andFamily Re-Unionoffers hope that, no matter what our personal circumstances, it is never too late to create loving, respectful family ties.

Author Biography

Sharland Trotter, Ed.D., until her death in 1997 was a practicing clinical psychologist and research fellow at Radcliffe College as well as former editor in chief of the American Psychological Association Monitor.

Table of Contents

Regret and Reunion Children as Adults, Parents as People

The Psychology of Families Parents Growing Up

The New Extended Family

Fractured Families, Whole People Family Complications

Revisiting Our Families From Parents to Grandparents Life Reflection and Reunion

Epilogue:Terminal Candor

Acknowledgments

Notes

Sources and Resources

Index

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