Finding Your Leading Man : How to Create Male-to-Male Intimacy and Make Your Relationship a Blockbuster

by Bloch, Jon P.

• ISBN13: 9780312267360
• ISBN10: 0312267363
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-12-08
• Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin

Summary

For all the gay men who have spent years fruitlessly looking for Mr. Wonderful, who have kissed every toad in the pond without even one turning into Prince Charming, finally there is a roadmap to guide them to a lasting, more fulfilling relationship. Even now, when an ever increasing number of gay men are looking to establish a lasting relationship, studies show that male/male relationships end sooner than either straight or lesbian relationships. But it doesn't have to be that way. Finding Your Leading Man is a guide to help the gay man seeking intimacy and wishing to improve the quality of his relationships. Dr. Jon Bloch first explores the twelve basic personality types that gay men employ to hide their fears and desires, provides practical tips for getting past the intimacy blockers of each type, and details which personality types are most - and least - compatible with each other. Finally, he then explains how to use this knowledge to build a successful long-term intimate relationship. Fun, practical, and easy to use, How to Find Your Leading Man is a clear, enjoyable, and simple guide for the gay man on the hunt for his one and only.

Author Biography

Jon P. Bloch has a Ph.D. from Indiana University. He is a college professor, private consultant, longtime gay activist and adventurer.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	vii
Introduction	1	(10)
PART 1: FINDING YOUR INNER MALE
The Blue Collar Guy	11	(7)
The Creature of Habit	18	(7)
The Discriminating Shopper	25	(7)
The Hyper-Romantic	32	(7)
The Misfit	39	(7)
The Nice Boy	46	(7)
The Pal	53	(7)
The Party Boy	60	(7)
The Perennial Closet Case	67	(7)
The Sexpot	74	(7)
The Shy Snob	81	(7)
The Therapy Junkie	88	(12)
PART 2: MALE MATCHMAKING
Blue Collar Guy and...	100	(22)
Creature of Habit and...	122	(22)
Discriminating Shopper and...	144	(19)
Hyper-Romantic and...	163	(17)
Misfit and...	180	(14)
Nice Boy and...	194	(13)
Pal and...	207	(11)
Party Boy and...	218	(9)
Perennial Closet Case and...	227	(6)
Sexpot and...	233	(6)
Shy Snob and...	239	(4)
Therapy Junkie and...	243	(6)
PART 3: MALE BONDING
OWTAs at a Glance	249	(13)
The OWTA Limits: Your Second Coming Out	262	(13)
Letting Him Be Him: Your Third Coming Out	275	(10)
How to Become a Couple	285	(8)
How to Be a Couple	293	(6)
How to Stay a Couple	299	(6)
How to Break Up	305	(6)
Final Thoughts	311