Five-Minute Relationship Repair Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love

by Campbell, Susan; Grey, John

• ISBN13: 9781932073713
• ISBN10: 193207371X
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2015-02-17
• Publisher: HJ Kramer/New World Library

Summary

The Tool Kit No Relationship Should Be Without

Long-term happiness in love depends on a couple’s ability to repair the inevitable rifts and differences, large and small, that occur in any relationship. Neuroscience suggests that relationship upsets are best mended quickly, or they accumulate in long-term memory, increase reactive communication, and become harder to repair successfully. And good repair takes five minutes or less! This book offers practical tools and suggested scripts for resolving problems and having your needs met. Following its guidance, you can turn difficulties into opportunities to foster love, trust, and thriving intimacy.

Author Biography

Susan Campbell, PhD, has worked for many years as a relationship coach and a teamwork consultant to Fortune 500 companies. She has appeared on numerous television shows, including Good Morning Amercia, and been featured in numerous magazines, including Shape, Cosmo, and Good Housekeeping. She is the author of six previous books, including The Couples' Journey, Beyond the Power Struggle, Getting Real, Saying What's Real, and Truth In Dating. She offers workshops on dating and relationship throughout the United States. She lives in Sonoma County, CA.

John Grey, PhD, is a therapist and relationship expert. He has worked with private clients and offered workshops on relationship repair for many years, and contributes blogs to popular websites, including Psychology Today. He lives in Sonoma County, CA.

Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: The Alarm That Hijacks Your Love
Chapter 2: Install a Pause Button
Chapter 3: Calm Your Overactivated Nervous System
Chapter 4: The Power of Frequent Coregulation
Chapter 5: Your Brain Makes Up Stories That Trigger You
Chapter 6: Secure vs. Insecure Relating: From Infancy to Adulthood
Chapter 7: Take Stock of How You Communicate
Chapter 8: What’s Ringing Your Alarm
Chapter 9: Agree to Stop Scaring Each Other
Chapter 10: Quickly Repair Any Relationship Rupture
Chapter 11: Clear the Air on a Regular Basis
Chapter 12: The Power of Vulnerability: Relating Instead of Controlling
Chapter 13: Real Intimacy in the Bedroom
Chapter 14: Sense, Feel, and Deeply Heal
Chapter 15: Compassionate Self-Inquiry for Inner Healing
Chapter 16: Make a Plan for a Secure Partnership

Appendix A: The Five-Minute Repair Process
Appendix B: Reference Lists of Reactive Cycle Elements
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Authors