Updated in a new 5thedition, GenderSpeakexamines attitudes, gender identities, and stereotypes that characterize communication in relationships. Focused on communication aboutas well as betweenmen and women, this practical and readable text connects material to the reader's everyday life. GenderSpeakprovides a balanced approach to the study of gender communication, presenting current research and a variety of perspectives and sources, while minimizing slant or bias.

CONTENTS

Preface

PROLOGUE

The Impact of Social Movements on Gender Communication:

You Must Know Where You’ve Been to Know Where You’re Going

Learning “Herstory”

Men, Education, and Women—in That Order

The First Wave of Feminism

Enter “Rosie the Riveter”

The Civil Rights Movement

The Sexual Revolution

The Second Wave of Feminism

No Such Thing as “THE” Feminists

The Third Wave of Feminism

What About “His Story”?

Early Male Supporters of Women’s Rights

Effects of the Sexual Revolution on Men

Men Raised Consciousness Too

Fathers’ Movements

There Are Some “Wild Men” Out There

The Million Man March

Keeping Those Promises

Gender Communication: Looking Forward

References

PART I: COMMUNICATION, GENDER, AND EFFECTIVENESS

CHAPTER 1

Talking the Talk and Walking the Walk: Becoming a Better

Gender Communicator

Hot Topics

What Is Gender Communication?

Why Study Gender Communication?

Gender Jargon

Is It Sex or Is It Gender?

Gender Identity, Androgyny, and Sexual Orientation

Feminism (“The “F-Word”) and Se ism

Communication: A Complex Human Process

Becoming Receiver Oriented in Your Communication

The Personal Effectiveness Approach to Gender Communication

Personal Effectiveness: Your Own Perception

Personal Effectiveness: Others’ Perceptions

Values to Guide Your Choices

Value 1: Equalizing Power

Value 2: Talking to Make It Better

Value 3: Believing in Freedom of Choice

Value 4: Being Open-Minded and Willing to Change

Value 5: Treating Another Person as an Individual

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

PART II: INFLUENCES ON OUR CHOICES

CHAPTER 2

Becoming a Woman, Becoming a Man, and Becoming a Person:

Biological, Social, and Cultural Influences on Gender Identity

Development

Hot Topics

Case Study: Am I Masculine? Am I Feminine? What’s That

Mean, Anyway?

How You Develop Your Identity

Fundamentals of Identity

Identity Development and Communication

Masculine and Feminine Identity Revisited

The Effects of Social Interpretations of Biological Sex on Identity

“Innies” and “Outies”: Anatomical Differences and Social

Interpretations

Social Interpretations of “Raging” Hormones

Mind over Matter: Are Men’s and Women’s Brains Really

Different?

The Effects of Social Influences on Psychological Gender Identity

Learning to Be Girls and Boys

Socialization and Gender Identity Development

The Family as a Primary Socializing Agent

Secondary Agents of Socialization

Gender and Culture

Culture Considered

Is One Culture Better Than Another?

When Aspects of Identity Intersect

Intercultural Gender Communication

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 3

Pictures, Porn, and Pop: Gender and Media

Hot Topics

Case Study: A Day in Two Lives: Rey and His Dad

The Power of Mediated Communication: Effects on Our Lives

A Bombardment of Media

Approaches to Studying the Effects of Media Consumption

Advertising: Selling a Product or Selling Se ism?

Babes in Bras: Female Depiction in Advertising

Studs in Suits: Male Depiction in Advertising

Lessons from the Small Screen: Television and Gender

Television: Mirroring Reality or Creating It?

Men in Prime-time Television

Women in Prime-time Television

TV and GLBT

Lessons from the Big Screen: Film and Gender

Gender in the Movies

The Communicative Power of Pornography

Multiple Definitions of Pornography: The Beginnings of

Controversy

Types of Readily Accessible Pornography

Multiple Camps for a Complex Issue

The Cru of the Matter: Pornography is Personal

We Could Make Beautiful Music Together...

From Pop to Rock to Rap to Hip-Hop to Country: The Women

and Men of Song Lyrics

Sex Kittens and He-Men in Music Videos

Sex, Gender, and New Media

Online Identity and Gender

Gendered Gaming

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

PART III: LET’S TALK: INITIATING AND DEVELOPING

RELATIONSHIPS

CHAPTER 4

Choosing and Using Gendered Language

Hot Topics

Case Study: Go Team!

Choosing Your Language

Language: A Powerful Human Tool

What Is Language? What Is Sexist Language?

Why Use Nonsexist Language?

Reason 1: Nonsexist Language Demonstrates Sensitivity

Reason 2: Nonsexist Language Reflects Nonsexist Attitudes

Reason 3: Nonsexist Language Is Basic to the Receiver

Orientation to Communication

Reason 4: Nonsexist Language Is Contemporary

Reason 5: Nonsexist Language Strengthens Expression

Sexist Language: Forms, Practices, and Alternatives

Forms of Sexist Language

Sexist Linguistic Practices

Using Language: Once You Choose It, How Do You Use It?

An Axiom of Communication

Women, Men, and the Relational versus Content Approach to

Communication

What’s Preferable—Relational or Content Communication?

Language Usage Between Women and Men

Vocal Properties and Linguistic Constructions

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 5

Gender and Relationships: Developing Potential into Reality

Hot Topics

Case Study: Choosing and Being Chosen

Better Information = Better Choices

Relationship Roadblocks

Roadblock 1: High Expectations

Roadblock 2: This Should Be Easy

Roadblock 3: Fear of Failure

Roadblock 4: If I Just Relax, a Good Relationship Will Find Me

Roadblock 5: Weighed Down by Baggage

Roadblock 6: It’s Got to Happen Now!

Roadblock 7: Giving Up Too Much Just to Have a Dating

Relationship

Roadblock 8: Looking Over Someone’s Shoulder

Stage 1: Is There a Relationship Gold Mine Out There? Prospecting

and Being a Prospect

Seeing and Being Seen

Not Being Seen: Prospecting Online

Being Attracted to a Prospect

Strategies for Gaining Information

Stage 2: Engaging the Prospect—Conversations

Digging In and Discovering More

The Art and Skill of Flirting

Stage 3: Developing the Claim and Establishing the Relationship

Opening a New Vein: Intimacy and Self-Disclosure

The Big “E”: Empathy

Are You Listening?

Those All-Important Nonverbal Communication Skills

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

PART IV: THE CONTE TS FOR OUR RELATIONSHIPS:

PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS IN ACTION

CHAPTER 6

Gender Communication “Just Among Friends”

Hot Topics

Case Study: When “Friend” Became a Verb

A Single Soul in Two Bodies

Learning to Be Friends

Communication in Same-Sex Friendships: From Butch and Sundance

to Thelma and Louise

Male-Male Friendship: Functions and Characteristics

Female-Female Friendship: Functions and Characteristics

Cross-Sex Friendship: Is It Possible to Be “Just Friends”?

What Gets in the Way of Cross-Sex Friendships?

What Enhances Cross-Sex Friendships?

The Future for Cross-Sex Friendship

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 7

Beyond Friendship: Gender Communication in Romantic Relationships

Hot Topics

Case Study: Persistent Traditions in the Realm of Romance

Ah, Love and Romance (and Gender)

The Language of Romance

The Pressure to Partner

Stereotypical Notions of Romance

Tensions within Romantic Relationships

Talking about Communication, or Communicating about Talking

Conflict: The Inevitable in a Relationship

Ending a Relationship

Gender Issues Surrounding Sexual Activity

Sexual Activity: Attitudes and Options

Women, Men, Communication, and Se

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 8

Power Abuses in Human Relationships

Not-So-Hot Topics

A Non-Case Study

At the Center of Abusive Situations: Communicating Power

Personal Rights and Sexuality

Power at the Core

Changing Language as We Learn More

An Evening Out with Annie and Kris

Underestimates of an Underreported Problem

Who Are the Rapists?

Communication and the Abuse of Power in Sexual Assault

Parting Considerations about Sexual Assault and Rape

Partner Violence

Living Happily Ever After

The Language of Violence

An “Epidemic”

Common Myths about Battering

Abused Partners: How Do They Stand It? Why Do They Stay?

Parting Considerations about Partner Violence

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 9

Women and Men in the Workplace: The Challenges of Talking Shop

Hot Topics

Case Study: How Does 50/50 Sound?

Women and Men Working Together: Walking on Eggshells?

Getting That All-Important Job

Vestiges of Affirmative Action

Gender Issues and the Job Interview

On the Job and Moving Up

Advancement within an Organization

Women and Men in Leadership Positions

Attention? Complimenting? Flirting? Sexual Harassment?

The Basics of Sexual Harassment

Initial Reactions to Sexual Harassment

After the Deed’s Been Done: Responding to Harassment

The Downside of Secrecy

Going a Step Further: Reporting Sexual Harassment

A Proactive Approach to the Problem of Workplace Sexual

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

CHAPTER 10

A “Class Act”: Gender Communication in Educational Settings

Hot Topics

Case Study: Two College Experiences

Children’s Literature and Early Lessons about Gender

Fairy Tales, Nursery Rhymes, and Gender

Gender Depiction in Textbooks and Children’s Literature

Educational Expectations and Gender Bias in the Classroom

Expectations about Academic Achievement: The Early Years

Expectations about Academic Achievement: The College Years

Gender Communication and the College Classroom

The “Chill” in Higher Education: Classroom Communication

Sexual Harassment in the Hallowed Halls

Peer Sexual Harassment: Classmates Will Be Classmates?

Paying It Upward: When Students Harass Faculty

Conclusion

Discussion Starters

References

Author Index

Subject Index

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