Goodbye to Shy 85 Shybusters That Work!

by Lowndes, Leil

• ISBN13: 9780071456425
• ISBN10: 0071456422
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2006-07-12
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education

Summary

Say hello to new friends, new business opportunities, new love, and new confidenceOkay, so you're shy. Here are 85 proven techniques to help you conquer your shyness and change your life for good. No psychobabble. No nonsense. These tested "ShyBusters" prepare you for that upcoming party, work function, interview, date, and the rest of your life.As someone who overcame debilitating shyness herself, professional speaker Leil Lowndes used this method to become a confident woman who has been interviewed on hundreds of TV and radio shows and has spoken to crowds of 10,000. You'll soon be making "fearless conversation" with people who used to intimidate you. You'll learn how to win the love you deserve and ask for whatever you want. You will overcome embarrassing stammering, sweating, clamming up, and wishing you were invisible.Good-Bye to Shywill show you how to: Make a stronger impression at work, at parties, inanysituation Feel more relaxed around people, make eye contact, and spark conversations Boost your career, jump-start your social life, and open your heart to new possibilitiesSayGood-Bye to Shy--and hello to the happy, loving, confident person who's been hiding inside you.

Author Biography

Leil Lowndes is a bestselling author who speaks internationally on social anxiety and relationship issues.

Table of Contents

Preface	xi
How to Deal with People Now Until Your Shyness Is Gone	1	(18)
Should I Tell People I'm Shy?	3	(4)
How Savvy Shys Get Out of a Situation They Can't Face . . . Yet!	7	(3)
How to Battle the Blushing, Sweating, and Other Shy Signs	10	(2)
How to Talk to Yourself About Your Shyness	12	(3)
When the Going Gets Tough	15	(4)
What People Really Think of You	19	(24)
Can People Tell I'm Shy?	21	(4)
Take Off Your Mud-Colored Glasses	25	(3)
Slay the Memory Monsters	28	(5)
Avoid Toxic People	33	(3)
Smart Shys Don't Play Stupid Games	36	(2)
The Movie Called ``Me''	38	(3)
How to Handle a Past Bummer	41	(2)
Your Three-Step Game Plan	43	(18)
Hooked on Hide-and-Seek	45	(4)
Shave Years Off Your Suffering	49	(9)
The Waeky Confidence Warm-Up	58	(3)
The Seven Best Beginner's ShyBusters	61	(32)
It's Show Time!	63	(3)
So Who's the Boss Here, Your Mind or Your Body?	66	(4)
Eye Contact Made Easy	70	(5)
The Clinically Proven Cure for ``No Eye Contact''	75	(5)
A Quick Smile and a Slow Jet Get You Nowhere Fast	80	(4)
Snobs Don't Smile	84	(5)
If at First You Don't Succeed, Swear!	89	(4)
Four Rare ShyBusters That Work Wonders!	93	(14)
The Masked Shy	95	(3)
How Can I Help You? . . . Help Me	98	(2)
The Out-of-Town Caper	100	(3)
Dress as Your Fantasy Person	103	(4)
For Big-Time Sufferers: Get a (New) Life	107	(8)
Just Something to Consider	109	(6)
Parties and Other Places in Hell	115	(18)
Building Up to Big Bashes	117	(5)
Don't Growl at the Guests	122	(2)
Personality Is Catching	124	(4)
Shys and Booze Don't Mix	128	(5)
Fearless Conversation	133	(30)
Terrified to Be Trite?	135	(3)
What If I Have Nothing to Say?	138	(1)
Your Enthralling Answer to a Cliched Query	139	(2)
Voice Quality Counts, Too	141	(2)
So, What Do I Say Next?	143	(3)
Using Their Name Says a Lot About You	146	(2)
It's All Sooo Predictable	148	(2)
Your Turn for the Kick-Off	150	(3)
The Final Conversational ``Gotta Do''	153	(2)
Some of the Best Conversationalists Never Open Their Mouths!	155	(4)
How to Forget Being Shy	159	(4)
Eight Advanced, Sure-Fire Shy Extinguishers	163	(22)
A Dare a Day Drives Shyness Away	165	(3)
Take a Bite Out of Shyness for Lunch	168	(2)
Shop 'til You . . . Stamp Out Shyness	170	(2)
Let Man's Best Friend Lend You a Paw	172	(2)
Blooper Therapy	174	(4)
The Confidence ``Stage''	178	(4)
Fast Audiotrack to Confidence	182	(3)
Sex and the Single Shy	185	(34)
The Lovin' Is Easy---It's the Gettin' There That's Hard	187	(6)
No Lookin', No Lovin'	193	(6)
Relationship Rehearsals	199	(4)
Computer Dating: A Shy's Opportunity---or Trap?	203	(3)
Find People Who Share Your Passion	206	(4)
Two Sexy Little ShyBusters for ``Almost Sures''	210	(3)
Enticing Attire for Shys	213	(3)
Don't Mistake Sex for Love	216	(3)
For Parents and Shys Who Want to Know Why (and How to Prevent It!)	219	(22)
Born Shy?	221	(6)
Inherited Shyness?	227	(2)
Are You a Closet Extrovert or ``Situational Shy''?	229	(2)
Bullies in Bygone Days?	231	(4)
Mom's and Dad's Overprotection?	235	(6)
Getting to Know Yourself and Love Yourself and Becoming a ``Certified Sure''	241	(10)
Five Minutes a Day for a Priceless Gift	243	(4)
Graduation Day	247	(4)
Appendix A: Cheryl's Full Letter	251	(2)
Appendix B: 100 Self-Knowledge Questions	253	(4)
Acknowledgments	257	(4)
References	261	(4)
Recommended Reading	265	(2)
Index	267