Have a Nice Conflict : How to Find Success and Satisfaction in the Most Unlikely Places

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  • Edition: 1st
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Copyright: 2012-01-24
  • Publisher: Jossey-Bass

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This novel approach to conflict follows the journey of middle manager, John Doyle, as he fights to save his relationships and rescue his sinking career. Based on the research of pioneering psychologist, clinical therapist, and educator Dr. Elias H. Porter (1914 - 1987), the book and learning experience reveal practical conflict management techniques that consistently lead to better results, stronger relationships, and a reinforced sense of self-worth for all involved. HAVE A NICE CONFLICT includes: Specific techniques and a practical approach to prevent and manage conflicts. A relational approach to conflict that gets tangible results while enhancing relationships. Ways to identify conflict triggers in ourselves and others. The Five Keys to Having a Nice Conflict The Five Keys to Having a Nice Conflict are: Anticipate: Anticipating conflict starts with knowing who you're dealing with and then asking yourself how other people might view the same situation differently. When two or more people see things differently, there is the potential for conflict. If you can figure that out, you have a good shot at steering clear of it. Prevent: Preventing conflict requires the deliberate, appropriate use of behavior in your relationships. A well-chosen behavior on your part can prevent conflict with another person. But you need to prevent conflict in yourself sometimes too, and that might have more to do with choosing your perceptions than choosing your behaviors. Identify: There are three basic approaches in conflict: rising to the challenge (assert), cautiously withdrawing (analyze), or wanting to keep the peace (accommodate). When you can identify these approaches in yourself and others, you are empowered to handle conflict situations more productively. Manage: Managing conflict has two components: managing yourself and managing the relationship. Managing conflict is about creating the conditions and empowering others to manage themselves. Resolve: To create movement toward resolution, we need to show the other person a path back to feeling good about themselves. When they feel good about themselves, they are less likely to feel threatened and are free to move toward a resolution.

Author Biography

Tim Scudder, CPA, is the chief executive officer of Personal Strengths USA and has consulted with the organizational development, training, and human resources departments of many corporate, government, education, and not-for-profit organizations. He is also the author of several experiential training programs.

Michael Patterson, Ed.D., is the vice president of business development at Personal Strengths USA and an adjunct professor in the doctoral program at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology. He began his career as a U.S. Army officer and then spent twenty years in a variety of sales, marketing, and training roles in the pharmaceutical industry.

Kent Mitchell is the vice president of communications for Personal Strengths USA. He is also an award-winning playwright and copywriter, and for nearly ten years, ran an advertising design agency in the Los Angeles area.

Table of Contents



Introduction 1

The Fable 3

Letter from John 199

John’s Notebook 203

A summary of learning

Dr.Mac’s Statement of Philosophy 219

A philosophical approach to learning as written from the perspective of Dr. MacWilson

Character Assessment Results 227

SDI assessment results for the characters featured in John’s story

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