Have Sex Like You Just Met

by Linder, Joselin

• ISBN13: 9781605506647
• ISBN10: 1605506648
• Edition: Original
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2009-12-18
• Publisher: Adams Media Corp

Summary

He remembers the names of all five of your college roommates and you know what he's going to order before he even opens the menu. But do you miss the early days when you couldn't keep your hands off each other? You wouldn't settle outside of the bedroom, so why do you when it comes to your sex life?

Author Biography

Joselin Linder is a writer, filmmaker, and coauthor of The Good Girl's Guide to Living in Sin and The Purity Test. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her boyfriend and their dog. Elena Donovan Mauer is a writer and editor specializing in relationships. She's written for Self magazine, Modern Bride, and YourTango.com. She coauthored The Good Girl's Guide to Living in Sin and lives with her husband of six years in New Jersey.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. v
Introduction: Love, Fidelity, and Happiness	p. xv
The Sexification and Desexification of Relationships	p. 1
Losing Our Collective Virginity	p. 2
One-Night Stands	p. 5
Why Dating Is Fun	p. 7
The Days Before You Could Pick the Smell of His Farts Out of a Lineup	p. 10
Finding Compatibility With Him-In and Out of Bed	p. 15
The Good-on-Paper Guy	p. 16
Cultivating Chemistry	p. 19
Great Expectations	p. 21
Out of the Box	p. 23
Myths and Truths about Saving Yourself	p. 29
For Those of You Who Have Done Dallas	p. 31
Staying Monogamous ... and Trusting Him To	p. 35
Pookie vs. Snookums	p. 36
Making a Man(tain) out of a Mole(hill)	p. 38
The Importance of Being Honest	p. 40
When Harry Met Sally	p. 42
Fantasies and Crushes	p. 46
Setting the Rules	p. 48
Road Maps Back from Betrayal-Land	p. 51
Close the Open Book (If You Want Him to Write in It)	p. 53
Teaching Him ... and Letting Him Teach You	p. 57
Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask Before Assisting Other Passengers	p. 58
Getting Serious	p. 65
Why It's Harder to Enjoy Yourself Now Than It Was in the Beginning	p. 67
The Elusive Orgasm	p. 69
Sexy Teacher Outfits ... on the TV Screen	p. 71
When the Day-to-Day Gets in the Way	p. 77
Your Own Private Island	p. 78
Fold Laundry, Do It, Write Dissertation, Walk Snuggles	p. 80
The Flirtation Situation	p. 91
The Art of the Arousal	p. 96
The Blue Lagoon	p. 98
Birth Control and Other Smart Decisions	p. 101
HIV Test + The Pill = Commitment?	p. 102
The Battle Between Pills and Rubbers-Who Will Reign Supreme?	p. 106
A Birth Control Refresher Course	p. 108
What's Up, Doc?	p. 119
Helping Condoms to Take Back the Power	p. 121
Saying No	p. 125
Identifying Problems-and Solving Them For Good	p. 129
Spicing It Up	p. 130
It's Not You; It's Me	p. 131
It's Not You; It's Him	p. 135
When It's Both of You	p. 138
The Last First Kiss	p. 142
Trying New Things: Games, Toys, Lingerie, and Fantasies	p. 145
It's all Fun and Games Until Somebody Loses a Dildo	p. 146
The Stuff You Wear Just to Take Off	p. 148
Much, Much Better than Parcheesi	p. 155
What That Lockable Drawer in Your Nightstand Is For	p. 159
"We Tried It!"	p. 163
Fantasizing about Things Other Than Shoes and Your Boss's Decapitation	p. 165
How to Feel Safe Trying Things Out	p. 171
Utilizing Tricks of the Trade-The World's Oldest Trade	p. 175
Creating a Sexual Identity	p. 176
Superhero Sex	p. 178
The Rebel Romance	p. 179
The Damsel in Distress and the Knight in Shining Armor	p. 180
The Teacher and the Naughty Student	p. 181
Is Anal Sex the New Black?	p. 183
Turning Your Man from Vanilla to Super Sexy	p. 187
Taking the Dirty Back	p. 188
Keeping it Healthy and Fun	p. 193
I'll See Your Two Weeks of Lawn Mowing and Raise You a Hand Job	p. 194
Why Am I Not in the Mood?	p. 197
Sex Gone Wrong	p. 199
Fixing Things	p. 205
The Long Haul	p. 207
Fluctuating Trajectories and Other, Smaller Words	p. 208
There's No "I" in Team	p. 211
Playing the Part	p. 214
Sexual Healing and Feeling	p. 215
The Physiology of Love	p. 218
Resources	p. 221
Index	p. 223
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