Healing Your Emotional Self A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame

by Engel, Beverly

• ISBN13: 9780470127780
• ISBN10: 0470127783
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2007-05-25
• Publisher: Wiley

Summary

Healing Your Emotional Self "Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child." --Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents "In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives." --Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy The Emotionally Abusive Relationship "Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse." --Marti Tamm Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse Loving Him without Losing You "A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read." --Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Are You the One for Me?

Author Biography

Beverly Engel is an internationally recognized expert in emotional and sexual abuse. She is the author of several other self-help books, including the highly successful The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, Loving Him without Losing You, and The Emotionally Abused Woman. Engel conducts workshops and professional training programs and has appeared on many national television shows, including Oprah, Starting Over, Donahue, and Ricki Lake.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Introduction	p. 1
How Your Parents Shape Your Self-Esteem, Self-Image, and Body Image
Our Parents as Mirrors	p. 9
The Seven Types of Negative Parental Mirrors	p. 29
Your Body as a Mirror	p. 63
How Mirror Therapy Works	p. 77
Shattering Your Distorted Parental Mirror
Rejecting Your Parents' Negative Reflection	p. 87
Emotionally Separating from Your Parents	p. 104
Quieting and Countering Your Inner Critic	p. 117
Creating a New Mirror
Looking Deeper into the Mirror: Discovering the Real You	p. 139
Providing for Yourself What You Missed as a Child	p. 156
Learning to Love Your Body	p. 175
Specialized Help
If You Were Neglected, Rejected, or Abandoned: Healing the "I Am Unlovable" and "I Am Worthless" Mirrors	p. 187
If You Were Overprotected or Emotionally Smothered: Healing the "I Am Nothing without My Parent" Mirror	p. 204
If You Were Overly Controlled or Tyrannized: Healing the "I Am Powerless" Mirror	p. 212
If You Had Overly Critical, Shaming, or Perfectionistic Parents: Healing the "I Am Bad," "I Am Unacceptable," and "I Am Not Good Enough" Mirrors	p. 220
If You Had a Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic Parent: Healing the "I Don't Matter" Mirror	p. 229
Continuing to Heal	p. 238
Recommended Therapies	p. 243
References	p. 249
Recommended Reading	p. 251
Index	p. 255
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