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Preface
Acknowledgments
CHAPTER 1. What the Facilitator Needs To Know About Providing Gender-Responsive Services
New Approaches to Men’s Treatment [A head]
What We Have Learned [B head]
Men, Addiction, and Crime
Implementing This Program in a Custodial Setting
Safety
Trauma-Informed Responses and Criminal Justice Interventions
Fundamentals of Gender-Responsive Services
Gender Differences
Theoretical Framework
Addiction Theory: How Addiction and Recovery Work
A New Focus on Men’s Psychological Development
Relational-Cultural Theory
Trauma Theory
Trauma-Informed and Trauma-Responsive Services
Triggers
A Man’s Reluctance to Acknowledge Trauma
The Value of Twelve Step Programs and Other Mutual-Help Groups
CHAPTER 2. Facilitating the Program
This Revised Edition [A]
Structure and Content of the Program
Four Issues: Self, Relationships, Sexuality, and Spirituality [B]
A Man’s Workbook
The Sessions
Principles of an Effective Treatment Program
A Supportive Environment
Open Groups
Admitting a New Group Member
Session Three: The Man Rules
Scheduling New Group Members
Modifying Sessions
Graduating Group Members
Building Trust and Loss of Leadership
Using a Psychoeducational Model: Three Levels of Intervention
A Strength-Based Model
Readiness for Change
Cultural Context and Gender
Cultural Humility and Responsiveness
Dealing with Current Trauma
Treatment Program Design
Therapeutic Communities and Step Programs
Facilitation
Facilitators and Therapeutic Style
Qualities of an Effective Facilitator
Preparation for Conducting the Program
Special Considerations for Criminal Justice Settings
The Role of the Facilitator
Self-Care
Training Facilitators
The Facilitator’s Journey
Materials Needed for the Sessions
Opening Session: Introduction to the Program
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue [Components of each session (see below) must be included.]
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Facilitator Introduction
Group Introductions
Overview of the Program and Session Format
Group Agreements
Lecture: What Is Addiction?
Lecture: What Is Trauma?
Lecture: The Spiral of Addiction and Recovery
Activity: Breathing and Exhaling
Activity: Focusing on the Here and Now
Lecture: Feeling Chart
Discussion: Reactions
Between-Sessions Activities
Grounding Activity
Closing
Module A. Self
Goals of Module A
Background and Rationale
Complementary with Twelve Step Programs
The Sessions
Session Content
Session 2: Defining Self
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Selected Meditation
Overview of Module A
Session Goals
Feeling Okay: Grounding and Relaxation Activities
Feelings and Body Check-in
Discussion: What Do You Want To Get out of This Group?
Lecture: Self-Identity and the Role of Feelings
Activity: Who Am I?
Debrief Activity
Lecture: The Water
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 3: Men in Recovery
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture: The Water, Part 2
Activity: The Man Rules
Lecture: The Man Rules
Activity: The Man Rules and the Principles of Recovery
Subgroup Discussions
Activity: Breathing
RRecovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 4: A Sense of Self
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator’s Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture: Looking at Our Lives as Journeys
Activity: Looking Back: Our Journeys
Activity: Returning to the Present
Activity: Sharing Our Stories
Activity: What Is a Life Journey?
Activity: Breathing
RRecovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 5: Men, Inside and Out
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture: Inside and Out
Activity: My House, Outside and Inside
Lecture: The Challenge of Vulnerability
Activity: The Emotions Game
Activity: Breathing
RRecovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 6: Men and Feelings
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture and Discussion: Relationships and Feelings
Lecture: The Anger Funnel
Activity: Communication and Feelings
Activity: Breathing
Lecture: What We Have Covered So Far
RRecovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Module B. Relationships
Goals of Module B
Background and Rationale
Complementary with Twelve Step Programs
The Sessions
Session Content
Facilitating the Sessions
Additional Resources
Session 7: Family of Origin
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Overview of Module B
Session Goals
Activity: Family Sculpture
Discussion: Family Sculpture
Discussions: Family Roles
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 8: Barriers to Healthy Relationships
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Interactive Lecture: Abuse and Trauma
Discussion: Abuse
Activity: A Place of Peace Visualization
Lecture: The Power and Control Wheel
Lecture: Interpersonal Violence
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 9: Fathers
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture: Our Fathers as Individual Men
Discussion: Our Fathers’ Lives
Discussion: Fathers and Children
Activity: Breathing and Visualization
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 10: Mothers
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Reading Letters to Fathers
Discussion: Letters to Fathers
Discussion: On Being a Father
Lecture: Our Mothers as Individual Women
Discussion: Mothers and Children
Activity: Breathing and Visualization
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 11: Creating Healthy Relationships and Support Systems
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Reading Letters to Mothers
Discussion: Letters to Mothers
Activity: Grounding
Activity: What Does Support Feel Like?
Lecture: What Is a Supportive, Growth-Fostering Relationship?
Lecture: Defining Boundaries
Activity: Relationship Maps
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 12: Effective Communication
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Completing and Sharing Relationship Maps
Activity: Secret Identity
Lecture: Communication and Conflict
Activity: Communication and Conflict
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 13: Creating and Maintaining Intimacy
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Lecture: Intimacy and Connection
Interactive Lecture: The Man Rules and Intimacy
Discussion: Intimacy
Activity: Talking Format/COTE
Discussion: COTE
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Module C. Sexuality
Goals of Module C
Background and Rationale
The Sessions
Facilitating the Sessions
Themes
Session 14: Sexuality and Addiction
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Overview of Module C
Session Goals
Activity: Creating Lists About Sex and Feelings
Lecture: Introduction to Human Sexuality
Discussions: Basic Issues in Sex and Sexuality
Debrief Discussion
Lecture: Introducing the Sexual-Chemical Lifeline
Recovery Check-out
The Question Box
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 15: Sexual Identity
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Session Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
The Question Box
Discussions: Social Messages About Sexuality and Gender
Debrief Discussions
Interactive Lecture: Heterosexism, Sexual Prejudice, and Misogyny
Lecture: Body Image
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 16: Barriers to Sexual Health
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
The Question Box
Interactive Lecture: Sex While Under the Influence and Consent
Lecture: Masturbation, Pornography, and Paying for Sex
Activity: Grounding
Discussions: Sexual Triggers and Relapse
Debrief Discussions
Lecture: Sober Sex
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 17: Healthy Sexuality
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
The Question Box
Activity: Sharing Sexual-Chemical Lifelines
Activity: Collage of Healthy Sexuality
Activity: Sharing Collages
Discussion: A Sexual Health Model
Lecture: Love, Sex, and Intimacy
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Module D. Spirituality
Goals of Module D
Background and Rationale
The Sessions
Session 18: What Is Spirituality?
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Overview of Module D
Session Goals
Activity: Yoga Pose #1
Lecture: Spirituality, Religion, and Addiction
Discussion: Religion and Spirituality
Interactive Lecture: Behaviors that Promote the Spiritual Journey
Lecture: To Be of Service
Activity: Creative Expression Project
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activities and Closing
Session 19: Power and Privilege
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activities
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Yoga Pose #2
Lecture: Power
Discussion: Power, Privilege, and Behavior
Activity: True Identity
Debrief Activity
Lecture: Meditation and Silence
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 20: Building Resilience
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Yoga Pose #3
Lecture: Addiction, Trauma, and Spirituality
Lecture: Grief
Discussions: Grief and Loss
Debrief Discussions
Activity: Building Resilience
Interactive Lecture: A New Definition of Masculinity
Activity: Breathing
Recovery Check-out
Between-Sessions Activity and Closing
Session 21: Creating a Vision
Session Overview
Participant Goals
Topic Sequence and Recommended Timing
Materials Needed
Information About Facilitating This Session
Facilitator’s Notes and Dialogue
Welcome and Quiet Time/Settling In
Review of Previous Session/Between-Sessions Activity
Feelings/Body Check-in
Activity: Breathing
Activity: Grounding
Selected Meditation
Session Goals
Activity: Share Creative Expression Projects
Activity: The Ritual of Returning to the Community
Lecture: “Promises of Recovery” and Gratitude
Activity: Prospective Journey
Activity: Honoring Our Time Together
Feedback Form and Closing
Appendices [In separate file.]
Appendix 1. The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
Appendix 2. Recovery Programs
Appendix 3. Online Recovery Meetings
Appendix 4. Redefining Gender
Appendix 5. Emotional Sobriety
Appendix 6. Five Senses Cards
References
Feedback Form
About the Authors
Praise for Helping Men Recover
Responses to the Helping Men Recover Feedback Form
Index
