Hidden Messages What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children

by Pantley, Elizabeth

• ISBN13: 9780809297702
• ISBN10: 0809297701
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2000-09-22
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education

Summary

What are you really telling your children? Elizabeth Pantley, the creator of the bestselling No-Cry parenting books, shows you how to improve the hidden messages behind your words and deeds. She shares with you other parents' stories that demonstrate how they unknowingly sent their kids negative messages through their words and actions. After each story she provides a gentle lesson by showing the child's perspective on the same scenario and offers suggestions for a positive outcome.

Author Biography

Elizabeth Pantley is a parent and educator with a nationwide following and a strong on-line presence. She is the author of two successful parenting guides and a nationally distributed newsletter.

Table of Contents

Foreword	xi
William Sears
Acknowledgments	xv
Introduction	xvii
How to Use This Book	xix
Messages of Responsibility and Independence	1	(24)
Hamburger	3	(6)
Mr. Fish Stick	9	(5)
Fair Work for Fair Pay?	14	(4)
Gimme!	18	(7)
Messages of Thoughtfulness and Kindness	25	(20)
Casual Remarks	27	(4)
Where Are Your Manners?	31	(4)
Danny the Disrespectful Kid	35	(5)
The Dentist	40	(5)
Messages of Annoyance and Anger	45	(20)
Yelling or Hugging?	47	(4)
You Two!	51	(5)
Chinese Water Torture---Child Style	56	(4)
The Annoying New Neighbor	60	(5)
Messages About Relationships	65	(34)
The Referee Effect	67	(6)
The New Baby	73	(7)
Father and Son	80	(5)
A Parent's Work Is Never Done	85	(8)
Superwoman	93	(6)
Messages About Discipline and Behavior	99	(22)
Matt the Brat	101	(6)
Balance of Power	107	(5)
Preschool Instructions	112	(4)
Monsters Under the Bed	116	(5)
Messages About Listening and Caring and Love	121	(26)
Empty Your Hands, Open Your Heart	123	(6)
The Shoebox	129	(6)
Baby Love	135	(7)
The Baseball Star	142	(5)
Messages About Time and Priorities	147	(22)
Daddy, Play with Me!	149	(6)
Zoo Day	155	(7)
Peaceful Saturday?	162	(7)
Messages About Parenting Styles	169	(28)
When You Wish upon a Star	171	(4)
My Kid, the Lawyer Wannabe	175	(5)
Dog Doo To-Do	180	(4)
Perfect Kids	184	(4)
Perfect Kids, Part 2	188	(4)
Hey, Guys, I'm Working in Here!	192	(5)
Index	197