How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk

by Van Epp, John

• ISBN13: 9780071548427
• ISBN10: 0071548424
• Edition: 1st
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2008-03-19
• Publisher: McGraw Hill

Summary

"Insightful, eye-opening, practical and highly readable, [this book] is for anyone who's tired of dating and wants to finally find -~the one'." --John Gray, author ofMen Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Drawing on clinical research on love, attachment, and intimacy,How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerkreveals how you can make smarter choices of your romantic partners and avoid heartbreak later. Based on Dr. John Van Epp's nationally renowned "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk" workshops, this book presents his trademarked Relationship Attachment Model (RAM), which breaks down the five dynamic bonding forces that influence a relationship. Van Epp helps you simply and succinctly identify--and break-- destructive dating patterns. Most important, he shows you how to recognize "The Right One" when he or she comes along.

Author Biography

John Van Epp, Ph.D., conducts seminars and workshops worldwide on marriage and relationships. His popular video program, “How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk,” is being taught by certified instructors internationally in thousands of churches, singles organizations, educational and agency settings, and throughout the military. Visit his website at www.johnvanepp.com.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	p. ix
Your Heart Matters, but So Does Your Head	p. 1
Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind	p. 3
The RAM Plan	p. 17
Healthy People Make Healthy Choices	p. 31
Use Your Head...	p. 51
Hello, I Love You, Won't You Tell Me Your Name?: RAM Dynamic 1: Do I Really Know You?	p. 53
Find Your Soul Mate: Step One: Getting to Know Your Compatibility Potential	p. 75
Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say: Step Two: Getting to Know the Skills for Building and Maintaining Relationships	p. 109
"And My Third Wife Was a...": Step Three: Getting to Know the Patterns from Other Relationships	p. 129
You Can't Marry Jethro Without Gettin' the Clampetts: Step Four: Getting to Know the Patterns of a Family Background	p. 161
Find Your Mate's Soul: Step Five: Getting to Know the Patterns of the Conscience	p. 185
... While Following Your Heart	p. 213
Sketching the Date-Mate Profile: RAM Dynamic 2: Should I Trust You?	p. 215
If I Scratch Your Back, Will You Scratch Mine?: RAM Dynamic 3: Will You Meet My Needs?	p. 241
My Word Is My Bond-Maybe: RAM Dynamic 4: Can You Keep a Commitment?	p. 263
How to Have Great Sex: RAM Dynamic 5: Should We Have Sex?	p. 287
Conclusion: What the World Needs Now Is Pacemakers and Trendsetters	p. 309
Notes	p. 313
Index	p. 321
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