How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You

by GRIGSBY, CONNIECOBB, NANCY

• ISBN13: 9781590527276
• ISBN10: 1590527275
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 2006-09-15
• Publisher: Multnomah

Summary

Speaketh the Language of Him A man comes home and says to his wife, "I had a horrible day at work today." She says, "Tell me about it." "I just did," he replies. Men and women communicate differently - and, all too often, not at all! This book is a sort of "linguistics" school that will teach you to speak your husband's language: male . You'll discover simple ways to cultivate a sense of humor about your male and female differences, open conversations with him - and keep them going, frame what you're saying with masculine interest areas, respond proactively to what your husband shares, and develop thicker skin (this alone is worth the price of the book). Change up your language, spice up your marriage! It'll be your husband's favorite thing you've ever done...well, almost!

Author Biography

Connie Grigsby

Connie Grigsby has worn a variety of hats, including teacher, speaker, columnist, and radio guest. She and her husband of twenty-five years, Wesley, have three daughters and make their home in Omaha, Nebraska.

Nancy Cobb

Nancy Cobb, who also lives in Omaha, is a popular speaker at women’s retreats and is the director of women’s ministries at Christ Community Church . She and her husband, Ray, have four children. Together, Connie and Nancy speak regularly on a local weekly radio program and have coauthored several books.

Table of Contents

Foreword	11	(1)
Acknowledgments	12	(1)
Introduction	13	(6)
part one: About Him
Why Can't He Be More Like Me?
1. Men Express Love by Doing	19	(3)
2. Men Don't Worry Fret, or Fuss	22	(2)
3. His Personality Is Different from Yours	24	(4)
4. Men Love Solutions	28	(3)
5. You Speak Diverse Love Languages	31	(4)
6. Men Don't Listen the Way Women Do	35	(4)
7. He Needs Processing Time	39	(3)
8. What's Obvious to You Isn't Obvious to Him	42	(3)
9. Men Stick to Single Tasks	45	(2)
10. He Isn't Like You Spiritually or Emotionally	47	(2)
11. Men Don't Use Details the Way Women Do	49	(3)
12. Men Go through Seasons	52	(2)
13. You Married a Warrior	54	(2)
14. Nothin' Says Lovin' Like Somethin' from the Oven	56	(5)
part TWO: More about Him
Different Strokes for Different Folks
15. Spell R-e-s-p-e-c-t His Way	61	(3)
16. Accept Him	64	(3)
17. Embrace the Power of Appreciation	67	(3)
18. Begin to Say "Thank You"	70	(3)
19. Men Love to Be Admired	73	(3)
20. Smile!	76	(2)
21. Put the Wind Back in His Sails	78	(3)
22. Your Husband Needs to Be Needed	81	(2)
23. Silence the Marriage Silencer	83	(2)
24. Choose to Forgive	85	(3)
25. Keep the Past in the Past	88	(2)
26. Be Loyal	90	(3)
27. Become His Cheerleader	93	(6)
part Three: About YOU
I Didn't Know That!
28. Tend the Garden	99	(4)
29. Come-Ons—Eighteen Tips Your Husband Will Love	103	(2)
30. Refresh You- Lovemaking	105	(3)
31. Housekeeping	108	(2)
32. Get a Grip on Your Hormones	110	(5)
33. Your Unhappiness Affects Your Mate	115	(2)
34. What Do I Do with These Feelings?	117	(3)
35. Recognize Familial Patter	120	(3)
36. Don't Play the Semantics Game	123	(2)
37. Control the Urge to Control	125	(2)
38. Stop Mothering Him	127	(2)
39. Get Your Priorities Right	129	(5)
40. Quit Feeding the Monkeys	134	(2)
41. Introduce Mystique	136	(5)
part four: About the TWO of YOU
Lighting the Coals of Communication
42. Learn the ABC's of Listening	141	(4)
43. Avoid Listening Pitfalls	145	(2)
44. Develop Great Responses	147	(2)
45. Listen to His Silence	149	(3)
46. Lighten His Load	152	(2)
47. Use Mars Protocol	154	(4)
48. Don't Expect Him to Read Your Mind	158	(3)
49. How to Ask for Help	161	(3)
50. "If I Have to Ask, It Doesn't Count"	164	(3)
51. If at First You Don't Succeed	167	(2)
52. Frame Your Words	169	(3)
53. Paint Your Words	172	(2)
54. "Am I Still Your Darling?"	174	(2)
55. Announcements Don't Work	176	(3)
56. Don't Go On and On	179	(3)
57. Develop Thicker Skin	182	(4)
58. Stop Punishing His Honesty	186	(5)
part five: About the Relationship
Keeping the Fire Going
59. Let Go of His Half	191	(4)
60. Depart and Reunite	195	(3)
61. Conduct a Hugging Class	198	(2)
62. Take Out the Garbage	200	(3)
63. Discern His Pet Peeves	203	(2)
64. Avoid Arguments and Assumptions	205	(4)
65. Discover His Passions	209	(4)
66. Abolish the Cold Treatment	213	(2)
67. Quit Keeping Score	215	(2)
68. Don't Go There!	217	(4)
69. The Skinny on Nagging	221	(2)
70. Don't Embarrass Your Husband	223	(2)
71. When Your Warrior Is Tired	225	(2)
72. Learn to Navigate Stormy Waters	227	(5)
73. Making It to the Other Side	232	(3)
74. Don't Make Him a "Project"	235	(3)
75. Don't Expect Him to Meet All Your Needs	238	(3)
76. Laugh!	241	(5)
77. Humility? Are You Kidding?	246	(3)
78. Consider Becoming a Servant	249	(3)
Epilogue	252	(5)
Notes	257	(6)
Study Questions	263