How Long Does It Hurt? A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families

by Mather, Cynthia L.; Debye, Kristina E.; Wood, Judy; Gil, Eliana

• ISBN13: 9780787975692
• ISBN10: 0787975699
• Edition: 2nd
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2014-10-27
• Publisher: Jossey-Bass

Summary

How Long Does It Hurt? is the revised and updated edition of the best-selling book written by an incest survivor for future survivors. This step-by-step guide speaks directly to victims of sexual abuse¾to help them come to grips with what is happening to them and overcome their feelings of isolation, confusion, and self-doubt.

Author Biography

<b>Cynthia L. Mather</b> is a survivor of sexual abuse and incest, and speaks at schools, colleges, and churches across the country about child and teenage sexual abuse treatment and prevention. <p> <b>Kristina E. Debye</b>, L.C.S.W.-C., A.C.S.W., D.C.S.W., is coordinator of the nationally acclaimed Baltimore County Sexual Abuse Treatment Program and maintains a private practice in Maryland.

Table of Contents

Thank You	xi
Foreword	xiii
Preface to the First Edition	xv
Preface to the Revised Edition	xvii
PART ONE The Hurting Begins
1. You're Not Alone	3	(10)
2. Is What Happened Really Abuse?	13	(10)
3. Internet Sex Crimes	23	(18)
PART TWO Blowing the Whistle
4. Telling	41	(18)
5. What Will People Say?	59	(7)
6. What's Happening to Me?	66	(12)
7. Living with Your Family After You Tell	78	(23)
8. Going to Court	101	(24)
PART THREE Forward Motion
9. Healing Is a Choice	125	(13)
10. Respecting How You Survived	138	(16)
11. Making Way for Your Future	154	(17)
12. Forgiving: Will You or Won't You?	171	(9)
13. Sex: What It Is, What It Isn't	180	(21)
PART FOUR Things to Know
14. What You Should Know About Offenders	201	(17)
15. What Friends of Victims Should Know	218	(16)
16. What Some Survivors Would Like You to Know	234	(15)
Notes	249	(2)
Bibliography	251	(4)
Index	255	(12)
The Authors	267