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"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children." -Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well
"For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, How to Raise an Adult is the right book at the right time." -Daniel H. Pink, author of the New York Times bestsellers Drive and A Whole New MindA provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood
In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.
Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens-this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.
Introduction 1Part 1: What We're Doing Now 1. Keeping Them Safe and Sound 11 2. Providing Opportunity 29 3. Being There for Them 43 4. Succumbing to the College Admissions Arms Race 55 5. To What End? 72
Part 2: Why We Must Stop Overparenting 6. Our Kids Lack Basic Life Skills 77 7. They've Been Psychologically Harmed 87 8. They're Becoming "Study Drug" Addicts 102 9. We're Hurting Their Job Prospects 109 10. Overparenting Stresses Us Out, Too 119 11. The College Admission Process Is Broken 128
Part 3: Another Way 12. The Case for Another Way 143 13. Give Them Unstructured Time 150 14. Teach Life Skills 162 15. Teach Them How to Think 176 16. Prepare Them for Hard Work 195 17. Let Them Chart Their Own Path 211 18. Normalize Struggle 228 19. Have a Wider Mind-set About Colleges 243 20. Listen to Them 262
Part 4: Daring to Parent Differently 21. Reclaim Your Self 275 22. Be the Parent You Want to Be 286
Conclusion 302 Appendix A 307 Appendix B 310
Notes 311 Bibliography 329 Acknowledgments 340 Index 343
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