How to Raise Your Child's Emotional Intelligence : 101 Ways to Bring Out the Best in Your Children and Yourself

by Nagy, Allen; Nagy, Geraldine

• ISBN13: 9780966428704
• ISBN10: 0966428706
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 1999-07-01
• Publisher: Heartfelt Pubns

Summary

Children who are emotionally intelligent (have an high EQ) possess specific skills that allow them to manage their social and emotional lives in a healthy way. They experience more harmonious relationships because they are loving, responsible and happy. They grow to be thriving, self-disciplined and productive adults with a strong sense of integrity. They are successful in every personal sense of the word.

Author Biography

Drs. Allen and Geraldine Nagy are experts in the fields of holistic health, psycho-spirituality, and emotional intelligence. They have forty years of experience promoting the well-being of people from all walks of life. They have been married for thirty years, and are the parents of a 21-year-old son.

Table of Contents

Introduction
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Matters More Than IQ	p. 1
Emotional Intelligence (EQ): What Is It?	p. 2
Who This Book Is For!	p. 4
The Test	p. 5
Test Questions	p. 7
What Lies Ahead	p. 8
101 Ways To Bring Out The Best In Your Children And Yourself
Make A Commitment To Increase The Number Of Emotionally Intelligent People On The Planet	p. 9
Choose Love Over Conflict In Your Relationship With Your Children And Your Spouse	p. 11
Never Pass Up An Opportunity To Touch, Hold, Or Hug Your Children	p. 12
Tell Your Children You Love Them And Nurture Their Spirits	p. 14
Set Aside A Certain Period Everyday For Being With Each Of Your Children	p. 15
Keep Your Promises	p. 16
Show Care And Concern For All Living Things	p. 18
Tell Your Children They Are Fundamentally Kind, Loving, And Loveable People	p. 19
Persistence And Determination Lie At The Heart Of EQ	p. 21
Give Attention To Your Child's Positive Behaviors	p. 22
The Most Wondrous Of Gifts	p. 24
Treat Your Children With Kindness	p. 25
Cleaning Up Our Mistakes	p. 26
Complete Your Relationship With Your Children On A Regular Basis	p. 27
Convey The Importance Of The Moment To Your Children	p. 28
Speak From Your Heart, Not Your Head	p. 30
Make Love Primary, Standards Secondary	p. 31
Give Your Children A Spiritual Basis From Which To Grow	p. 33
Teach Your Children That "Having" Does Not Equal "Happy"	p. 35
Teach Your Children That There Is A Difference Between Pleasure And Happiness	p. 37
Let Your Children Know That Everyone Has An "Inner Critic"	p. 38
Teach Your Children The Difference Between Guilt And Conscience	p. 40
We Must Be Self-Forgiving And Forgiveness-Seeking	p. 42
Teach Your Children That The Universe Is A Safe Place	p. 43
Teach Learned Optimism And Beware Of Learned Helplessness	p. 45
Our Enemy Is The Position Of Helplessness	p. 47
Model A Life Of Service And Find Happiness	p. 49
Your Children Are Here For The Benefit Of Humankind's Sake	p. 50
Life Is A Journey That Is To Be Enjoyed	p. 52
Listen To Your Children	p. 54
Allow Your Children The Experience Of Power	p. 55
Help Your Children Become Internally Oriented And Not Externally Oriented	p. 57
Don't Go To Bed At Night Without Telling Your Children You Love Them	p. 59
We Have A Choice Between Peace And Conflict, Between Love And Fear	p. 60
When Making Choices, Choose The Option Involving The Greater Degree Of Love	p. 61
Help Your Children Distinguish Between Ego-Esteem And Self-Esteem	p. 62
Let Your Children Know That We Are All In This Thing Called Life Together	p. 63
Teach Your Children To Focus On The Big Picture	p. 64
Teach Your Children That They Make A Difference In Our World	p. 66
Assume The Role Of A Contributor To Your Children And To The World	p. 69
Let Your Children Know That The Universe Has A Grain To It	p. 70
The Enemy Is Within, Not Without	p. 71
Become A Responsible Friend To Your Child	p. 72
Trust That Your Children Will Eventually Become Like You	p. 75
Avoid Fear And Punishment Based Approaches To Behavioral Control	p. 78
Demonstrate A Balance In All Of Life For Your Children	p. 81
Raise Your Children To Be Giraffes	p. 82
Develop A Self-Awareness Of Your Body	p. 85
Children Must Understand That Love Is A Choice	p. 87
Avoid The Tendency To Compare	p. 88
Create A Calm And Serene Atmosphere	p. 91
Teach Your Children To Bring Forth That Which Is Inside Of Them	p. 93
The Lack Of Humor In The Average Household In No Laughing Matter	p. 94
We Are All In This Together	p. 96
Let Your Children Know That Things Are Not Always The Way They Appear To Be	p. 98
Teach Your Children How To Pray	p. 100
Beware Of Your Children Becoming Adults	p. 102
Teach Your Children The Basics Of Life	p. 104
Let Your Children Know They Are The Perfect Vessel That Holds It All	p. 106
Help Your Children Take Life Lightly	p. 108
Keep Things Simple	p. 109
Teach Your Children The Importance Of Intentions	p. 111
Honesty--A Real Dilemma	p. 113
Never Make Your Child Or Anyone Else Wrong	p. 115
The Importance Of Nonverbal Communication	p. 117
Let Your Children Know There Is A Power Even Greater Than Mom And Dad	p. 119
Teach Your Children About Resentments And How They Can Erode One's Physical, Mental, And Spiritual Well-being	p. 121
Good Parents Are Rewarded With Nose Prints On The Glass	p. 123
Your Children Have Three Primary Emotional Needs--Meet Them	p. 125
Each Month Make A List Of Everything You Are Grateful For Regarding Your Children And Your Life	p. 126
Save Yourself The Headache Of Trying To Force Your Kids To Eat Fruits, Vegetables, Liver And Tofu	p. 127
Magnificent Consequences	p. 128
High EQ People Are Aware Of Their Acts--Make Your Children Aware Of Theirs	p. 129
Teach Your Children To Get Value From All Of Life's Experiences	p. 132
Arguments	p. 134
Let Your Children Know They Will Not Be Punished For Their Transgressions	p. 136
It's Not Our Mistakes That Cause Us Problems--It's The Resistance To Admitting Them	p. 138
Let Your Children Know Why God Made Them	p. 140
If I Could Do It All Again	p. 141
Take Temperament Into Consideration	p. 143
Depression In Pre-Teens And Teenagers	p. 145
Returning The Gift--We Must Give Back To Receive Again	p. 147
What We Don't Pass On To Our Children Is Vital To Them	p. 148
Why Did You Become A Parent?	p. 150
How Would You Have Liked To Have Been Treated As A Child?	p. 152
Teach Your Children To Watch Their Minds	p. 154
Parenting Provides The Optimum Opportunity To Grow Spiritually	p. 156
Teach Your Children How To Deal With Change	p. 158
Time Is Love To Children	p. 160
When Serious Problems Do Arise	p. 162
Parenting Will Bring With It A Whole New Meaning To The Word Love--And A Whole New Meaning To The Word Worry	p. 164
Beware Of Laziness	p. 165
Paradoxically, We Can Only Recognize That We Are Somebody Special, When We Know That We Are Not	p. 167
A Parent's Job	p. 168
Teach The Miracle	p. 170
Avoid Tap Dancing	p. 171
Children As Teachers	p. 172
Teach Your Children How To Solve Problems	p. 174
Teach Your Children To Use Leisure Time Effectively	p. 176
Help Your Children Live Purposely	p. 179
Begin It Now	p. 182
Suggested Books For Further Reading	p. 184
About The Authors	p. 185
How To Reach Us	p. 186
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