How to Talk to Your Kids About School Violence

by Druck, Ken; Kaplowitz, Matthew; Blanchard, Kenneth H.

• ISBN13: 9780972234207
• ISBN10: 0972234209
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2003-08-01
• Publisher: Onomatopoeia Inc

Summary

Bestselling author and school violence expert, Dr. Ken Druck, trains parents and teachers to tune into their children's worlds, manage their anger, teach them how to deal with potentially violent situations, handle a bully, and what to do if they see a gu

Table of Contents

Foreword	p. 1
Introduction	p. 3
Getting Started	p. 5
Building Bridges: The First 10 Steps
Getting Past Communication Roadblocks
10 More Tips for Getting Started
Conversation Stoppers
Being a Role Model	p. 15
Stocking Your Child's Toolbox
Show Compassion and Respect
Perform Acts of Kindness
Develop Strength of Character
Control Your Own Anger
Let Them See You Cope
Relax Naturally
Lighten Up and Have Fun
Take Responsibility for Your Mistakes
Give Second Chances
"Fight Peacefully"
Handle Family Conflicts Constructively
Pick Your Battles
Discuss Discrimination and Hatred
Broaden Their World
Connect to Your Community
Listening and Talking	p. 27
Listen First
How to Use Open-Ended Questions
Talking: What to Say
Show Empathy
Bite Your Tongue
Seize the Moment
Keep Your Cool
Pick Up Distress Signals
Tune In to Your Child
"Helllooo?"
The Best (And Worst) Times to Talk
One Good Talk Leads to Another
Raising Confident Children
The Anatomy of Violence	p. 41
How Hurt Becomes Anger
Root Causes of Violence
High-Risk Factors
Access to Guns
Self-Destructive and Suicidal Behavior
The Family Computer
Nobody Cares
Spiritual Emptiness
The Process of Violence Prevention
The Parent's Violence-Prevention Toolbox	p. 57
Ten Essential Tools to Protect Your Child
Healthy Controversy
Act Now
Your Child's Violence-Prevention Toolbox	p. 67
The Awareness Tool
The "Just Say No" Tool
The Anger-Management Tool
10 Tools to Protect Against Bullies
How Not to Become a Victim
Getting Along with Others
Parenthood ... The Ultimate Balancing Act
When Children Bring Weapons to School	p. 81
If Your Child Encounters Weapons in School
If Your Child Must Escape a Dangerous Situation
If Your Child Tells You About a Weapon
The Parent/School/Community Safety Connection
Have the "Weapons Talk"
If Violence Happens	p. 89
Are Our Children's Schools Prepared?
Are Our Children Prepared?
What to Expect If Violence Happens
The Three Phases of Coping
What Should Parents Do to Cope?
Be There for Your Child
Pay Your Respects
Handling the Press and Onlookers
After the Cameras Are Gone
Talking to Your Kids About School Violence	p. 103
When Violence Strikes Elsewhere
When Violence Hits Home
When Parents Blame Themselves
How Much Information Does a Child Need?
Should I Force My Child to Talk?
Coping in the Aftermath
What's Being Done to Create Safe Schools?	p. 113
School Safety and Security Programs
Establish Ties to the Police
Bully-Free School Bus Programs
School Activities that Keep Kids Safe
After-School Programs
National Programs
Community Programs
"At-Risk" Kids: Who They Are and How We Can Help Them
10 Ways Our Children Can Make Safer Schools
Afterword: Coping in our Violent World	p. 126
About the Authors	p. 128
Acknowledgements	p. 129
Statistics Abbreviation Key	p. 130
Online Resource Directory	p. 132
Index	p. 133
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