How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work: Seven Languages for Transformation

by Kegan, Robert; Lahey, Lisa Laskow

• ISBN13: 9780787955359
• ISBN10: 0787955353
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2000-11-01
• Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc

Summary

Why is the gap so great between our hopes, our intentions, even our decisions-and what we are actually able to bring about? Even when we are able to make important changes-in our own lives or the groups we lead at work-why are the changes are so frequently short-lived and we are soon back to business as usual? What can we do to transform this troubling reality? In this intensely practical book, Harvard psychologists Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey take us on a carefully guided journey designed to help us answer these very questions. And not just generally, or in the abstract. They help each of us arrive at our own particular answers that can solve the puzzling gap between what we intend and what we are able to accomplish. How the Way We Talk Can Change the Way We Work provides you with the tools to create a powerful new build-it-yourself mental technology.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	ix
Introduction: What Do You Really Want ... and What Will You Do to Keep from Getting It?	1	(10)
Part One: The Internal Languages: Building the New Machine	11	(78)
From the Language of Complaint to the Language of Commitment	13	(20)
From the Language of Blame to the Language of Personal Responsibility	33	(14)
From the Language of New Year's Resolutions to the Language of Competing Commitments: Diagnosing the Immunity to Change	47	(20)
From the Language of Big Assumptions That Hold Us to the Language of Assumptions We Hold: Disturbing the Immunity to Change	67	(22)
Part Two: The Social Languages: Maintaining and Upgrading the Machine	89	(58)
From the Language of Prizes and Praising to the Language of Ongoing Regard	91	(12)
From the Language of Rules and Policies to the Language of Public Agreement	103	(18)
From the Language of Constructive Criticism to the Language of Deconstructive Criticism	121	(26)
Part Three: Carrying on the Work	147	(82)
Running the Internal Languages	149	(38)
Running the Social Languages	187	(42)
Epilogue: Toward the Transformation Highway: Transcending the Limits of the Information Age	229	(6)
The Authors	235	(2)
Index	237