How We Love Workbook

by YERKOVICH, MILANYERKOVICH, KAY

• ISBN13: 9781400073009
• ISBN10: 1400073006
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 2006-10-10
• Publisher: WaterBrook

Summary

Practical Help for Building a Stronger, More Passionate Marriage Every adult bears an "imprint of intimacy"an inner sense of how much emotional vulnerability they can risk based on childhood lessons about handling their feelings and needs. Those past experiences shape your behavior, beliefs, and expectations of all current relationships, especially marriage. This powerful companion guidebookperfect for use on your own or in a group settingwill help you apply the principles fromHow We Love and break free of the harmful imprints of the past. Inside you'll find practical, solution-focused tools for building a stronger, more passionate marriage, including... specific questions to help you and your spouse pinpoint barriers to intimacy an assessment tool for identifying your intimacy imprint strategic guidance in applying the principles for increasing intimacy effective techniques to kickstart the process of lasting change a plan for developing clear, personalized goals for your marriage relationship Let relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich guide you through a process of discovery that has transformed countless relationships, taking your marriage to a whole new level of intimacy as you learn to changeHow We Love.

Author Biography

Milan Yerkovich is a weekly talk show host on the New Life Live! radio program. An ordained pastor with a master’s degree in biblical studies, he has been helping couples and families build healthier relationships for more than twenty-five years. Previously a pastoral counselor for The Center for Individual and Family Therapy, Milan now teaches seminars on relationships and intimacy and is cofounder of Relationship 180°, a non-profit ministry for Christian leaders and laity.

Kay Yerkovich is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a master’s degree in counseling. She has been using attachment theory in her professional counseling of couples and families for more than thirteen years.

The Yerkoviches have been married thirty-three years and are the parents of four adult children. They make their home in Southern California.

Table of Contents

How to Get the Most out of This Workbook	p. 1
What Determines How You Love
Why Every Marriage Gets Stuck	p. 7
The Revealing Question You Need to Answer	p. 13
Imprints of Intimacy from Our First Lessons in Love	p. 19
Ideal Love Lessons: The Secure Connector	p. 26
Styles That Impair How We Love
The Avoider Love Style	p. 35
The Pleaser Love Style	p. 44
The Vacillator Love Style	p. 54
The Chaotic (Controller and Victim) Love Styles	p. 64
Identifying Your Love Style	p. 77
Duets That Damage How We Love
The Vacillator Marries the Avoider	p. 83
The Pleaser Marries the Vacillator	p. 87
The Controller Marries the Victim	p. 92
The Avoider Marries the Pleaser	p. 97
Other Challenging Combinations	p. 102
Changing How We Love
The Comfort Circle	p. 109
Seek Awareness	p. 119
Engage	p. 126
Explore	p. 134
Resolve	p. 140
Seeing into Your Spouse's Soul	p. 147
Soul Words	p. 151
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