Will I Ever Fit In? : The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Adult Dyssemia

by Jr., Stephen Nowicki; Marshall Duke

• ISBN13: 9780743202596
• ISBN10: 0743202597
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2002-03-05
• Publisher: Free Press

Summary

Do you ever feel just a little off socially? Like you are the only one in the room not getting the jokes -- or maybe the only one to laugh when you tell one? Although you can't quite put your finger on it, something isn't quite right when people are always moving away from you instead of moving closer to hear what you have to say. Whether or not your feelings of unease have to do with the situation you're in now at work or whether "not fitting in" has been your mantra your whole life, Will I Ever Fit In? provides a groundbreaking and comprehensive program to identify and address the pervasive yet poorly recognized syndrome called dyssemia that you may suffer from. People who have some form of dyssemia -- a group reported to include as many as 25 million Americans -- cannot readily understand nonverbal messages, much as dyslexics do not readily process written language. Yet nonverbal communication plays an essential role in our communication with others, and people who don't pick up the signals others send often face painful social rejection. Stephen Nowicki, Jr. and Marshall Duke,experts in the field of nonverbal communication and seasoned clinical psychologists, offer a practical plan to improve your relationships and social skills -- skills you may not have known you even needed. Will I Ever Fit In? includes the first diagnostic self-test for adult dyssemia, and it helps you understand nonverbal communication -- shows you how to read it -- through a combination of imitation and mentoring. Gentle and easy, the step-by-step approach guides you through the study of nonverbal behavior by observing others walking, eating, and talking; by making a dictionary of gestures and postures portraying different emotions from magazine photos; and by finding out what emotions you convey by taking snapshots of yourself and working with a friend -- or coach -- whom you can trust. What's more, it also offers guidelines for choosing professional help if you should need it. This valuable book offers you the tools you need to build successful relationships, to capitalize on your interpersonal strengths, and to pave the way to your future happiness.

Author Biography

Stephen Nowicki, Jr., Ph.D., is the Charles Howard Candler Professor of Psychotherapy at Emory University. Dr. Nowicki has served as their director of clinical training. In addition to his university teaching, he consults for public school programs and maintains an active clinical practice.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	xi
Introduction	1	(24)
Are You Dyssemic?	25	(21)
The Four Stages of Interpersonal Relationships	46	(17)
Channels of Nonverbal Behavior: Rhythm, Time, and Space	63	(31)
Channels of Nonverbal Behavior: Faces and Voices	94	(21)
Channels of Nonverbal Behavior: Touch, Postures, Gestures, and Fashion	115	(25)
Working with Your Coach	140	(35)
The Remediation Tool Kit	175	(20)
Developing Your Remediation Plan	195	(28)
Appendices	223	(8)
Bibliography	231	(4)
Index	235