If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

by PAGE, SUSAN

• ISBN13: 9780609809099
• ISBN10: 0609809091
• Edition: Revised
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 2002-03-26
• Publisher: Harmony

Summary

Susan Page’s bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page’s famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book’s down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.

"Behold a wonder–a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise." –Kirkus Reviews

Author Biography

Susan Page, who holds a Master’s of Divinity degree, founded and directed the first university-based human sexuality program at the University of California at Berkeley. Since 1980 she has devoted herself full-time to writing about relationships and working with both couples and singles. She is the author of three other books, including the recently published follow-up If We’re So In Love, Why Aren’t We Happy? Susan Page lives in Berkeley, California.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments	xi
Preface	xv
Part I POWERFUL BUT OVERLOOKED ATTITUDES TO SET THE STAGE FOR LOVE
Introduction The Great Emotional Depression
Finding Love in an Unloving World	3	(13)
The First Strategy: Examine Your Hidden Ambivalence	16	(21)
The second strategy: Ignore the dread statistics	37	(6)
The third strategy : abandon the Myth that there are no good ways to meet people	43	(31)
The fourth strategy : Keep Your standards high	74	(137)
Part II GUIDELINES FOR KISSING FROGS
The Fifth Strategy : Don't Get Stuck in the Swamp
Learning to Say No	95	(24)
The Sixth Strategy: Watch for Frogs in Royal Clothing
Distinguishing Between Pseudo-Intimacy and the Real Thing	119	(17)
The Seventh Strategy: Beware of the Temporary Prince or Princess
Avoiding Commitmentphobes	136	(18)
The Eighth Strategy: Don't Try to Make the Prince or Princess Love You
How to Handle an Intimacy Gap	154	(13)
The Ninth Strategy: What to Do When You Find Your Prince or Princess, But You're Afraid of the Castle
Learning to Say Yes	167	(44)
Part III KEEPING IT ALL TOGETHER WHILE YOU LOOK
The Tenth Strategy: Increasing Your Self-Awareness and Self-Esteem	211	(44)
Special Challenges of Involuntary Singlehood: Loneliness, Balance, and Aids	255	(20)
Part IV MAKING IT HAPPEN: HOW TO PUT THE STRATEGIES TO WORK
Summing Up: Why are you Still Single, and What do You Plan to do About It?	275	(34)
Appendix Guidelines for Forming a ``Making It Happen'' Self-Help Support Group	309	(10)
Notes	319	(4)
Suggested Reading	323