Interpersonal Edge : Breakthrough Tools for Talking to Anyone, Anywhere, about Anything

by Skube, Daneen

• ISBN13: 9781401908799
• ISBN10: 1401908799
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2006-02-15
• Publisher: Hay House Inc

Summary

Up till now, the cutting-edge tools in this book have only been available to management teams, high-level executives, and select clients. You've no doubt picked it up because you want to be the CEO ofyour ownlifewith a greater sense of empowerment and confidence. Written byDr. Daneen Skube, Ph.D., syndicated columnist, sought-after executive coach, and innovative therapist, this practical and humorous work provides simple tools you can use today to generate influence, get immediate results, and turn the lemons of life into opportunities. Readers of Dr. Skube's wildly popular column have been clamoring for a decade for a book of this kind, which offers an in-depth look at her advice and methods. Whether you're dealing with a backstabbing co-worker, trying to get a promotion, or want to rekindle a romance, you'll do it all better with aninterpersonal edge.The keys to the life you've longed for are within these pagesjust addyouand stir.

Author Biography

Daneen Skube, Ph.D., has a doctorate in human development from the Fielding Institute in Santa Barbara, California, and is the director of Interpersonal Edge, a firm specializing in helping individuals and companies achieve peak performance through strategic communication skills. Her lively and entertaining training and speaking engagements have helped Fortune 500 companies, health-care organizations, government agencies, and small businesses improve productivity and harmony in the workplace. Her executive coaching and therapy practice has helped hundreds of individuals identify and achieve their dreams. Her column, “Interpersonal Edge,” has been assisting readers with workplace issues for a decade and is internationally syndicated through The Tribune Media. Daneen has been working as a therapist, trainer, and speaker for more than 25 years. This is her first book.

Table of Contents

Author's Note	xi
Preface: Why I Wrote This Book	xiii
Introduction: Creating a Life You Absolutely Love!	xvii
PART I: IMPROVING EFFECTIVENESS IN YOURSELF
Pattern Busting	3	(16)
Getting Off Automatic Pilot
Finding the Lost Self
Training the Heart
Banishing Family ``Ghosts''	19	(14)
Making Lemonade Out of Lemons
Creating Extraordinary Effectiveness
Through ``Mystical Abnormality''
Truth or Telepathy?
Invoking Self-Reflection
The Divine Body	33	(16)
Power and Breathing
Listening to Body Talk
Building Rapport from Head to Toe
When Your Walk Doesn't Talk
The Voice of Authority
The Heart of the Moment	49	(12)
Who's Running Your Life?
The Rainbow Soul: Naming Emotions
The Fickle Bluebird of Happiness
The Infection of Perfection
Feeling as a Foreign Language
Your Inner CEO	61	(14)
Running Your Life Like You're the Boss
The Body as a Soul Compass
Sex, Lies, and Power
The Enlightenment Snooze Button
PART II: IMPROVING EFFECTIVENESS WITH OTHERS
Everyone Is Your Customer, So Listen	75	(14)
The Business of Listening
Basic Ears: Paraphrasing
Advanced Ears: Emotions and Hidden Agendas
Getting People to Listen to You	89	(8)
Lord, Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood
Shifting Perceptions
Avoiding Arguments about Truth
Men, Passion, and Listening
Influencing People	97	(14)
Breaking the Family Spell
Understanding Your Tribe
Inner Peace
The Price of Being Comfortably Numb
Negotiating Tribal Differences
Word Wizardry	111	(12)
Tele-visioning
The Enchantment of Saying ``I''
Exploring Inner Space
Impossible People	123	(16)
Dangerous Liaisons
What if Somebody Threw a Power Struggle and Nobody Came?
Scripting: How to Ask for Money, Love, or Results
The Inner Predator
Games Vampires Play	139	(18)
Vampire Power Plays
Power Play #1: It's Your Problem if You Feel Bad When I Hit You
Power Play #2: Petty Tyrants
Power Play #3: The Sniper
Power Play #4: The Expert
Power Play #5: I'm the Only One Who Matters (Narcissists)
Power Play #6: I Need You; I Hate You (Borderlines)
Vampire Enablers
Creating Cooperation	157	(12)
And They Lived Happily Ever After...
Connecting in the Heat of Battle
Four Rituals That Create Cooperation
The Art of Dumb Questions
Know Your Bottom Line	169	(12)
Anger as Ally
Hexes and Consequences
Profit or Loss: Let People Choose
PART III: IMPROVING EFFECTIVENESS IN THE WORLD
Intuitive Moments	181	(14)
What Are You Longing For?
Introduction to Intuition: Whispers of Wisdom
Introduction to Dreams: Soul Letters
Investing in Bliss	195	(8)
Yoga: The Enchantment of the Body
Meditation: Entering the Sanctuary
Becoming One with a Very Dusty World
Cosmic Moments	203	(10)
The Universal ``Help'' Menu
Changing Patterns Through Relationships
Feeling Good All the Time?
Taking Back Your Power
A Business Plan for the Soul	213	(12)
Finding Your Insides Outside
Self-Esteem Is Not a Democracy
What Your Shadow Knows
My Shadow Made Me Do It?
Waking Up	225	(12)
Making Your Own Map
Ending the Blame Drain
How to Gain from the Pain
The Zen of Relationships
Afterword	237	(2)
Acknowledgments	239	(4)
About the Author	243