It's Not Fair, Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay up All Night!

by Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.

• ISBN13: 9780374291976
• ISBN10: 0374291977
• Format: Nonspecific Binding
• Copyright: 1996-04-30
• Publisher: Macmillan Trade

Summary

Anthony Wolf' s groundbreaking book focuses on the most difficult challenges of parenting post-infant to pre-teen children setting limits and making demands. Dr. Wolf covers all the class parenting problem areas: family disputes, including who' s in charge (Mom or Dad), sibling fights, and divorce; day-to-day issues such as bedtime, grumpiness, and public tantrums; and problems that might not be problems after all, like aggression, lying, and spoiling. Positive, loving, and, above all, effective, this guide offers parents what they want most: more time to enjoy their children.

Table of Contents

Introduction	p. 3
Nurturing and the Baby Self
A Potbellied Stove	p. 9
Love Attachment	p. 10
The Move Toward Independence	p. 12
The Baby Self and the Mature Self	p. 13
The Secret Behind Fussing	p. 16
The Baby Self's Other Path	p. 19
Boys and Girls	p. 21
The Mature Self	p. 22
Who Gets the Baby Self?	p. 26
Maturing: How They Become Civilized	p. 29
What Good Is the Baby Self?	p. 34
The Problem and What to Do about It	p. 36
The Wonderful Deal	p. 37
Questionable Controls
Being Reasonable and Listening	p. 39
Trying to Be Fair	p. 42
Power Struggles - The Battle of Wills	p. 44
The Baby Self Inside Parents	p. 48
The Perils of Teaching	p. 52
Rewarding	p. 56
Harsh Punishment	p. 56
Lesser Punishment	p. 58
What You Can Do
A Different Kind of Tough	p. 60
How It's Done	p. 62
Making Your Decisions Stand	p. 71
Your Own Self-Restraint	p. 101
Day In and Day Out
Whining, Sulking, and Temper Tantrums	p. 111
When Children Are Angry at Their Parents	p. 121
Bedtime	p. 125
Getting Up and Out in the Morning	p. 130
"I'll Do It Later"	p. 133
Mealtime	p. 134
Acting Up in Public	p. 138
Coming to You with Problems	p. 145
Family Disputes
Fathers and Mothers - Who's in Charge	p. 153
Playing One Parent against the Other	p. 157
Parental Arguments	p. 159
Sibling Fighting	p. 160
Divorce	p. 175
Problems That May Not Be Problems
Spoiled Children	p. 195
Lying	p. 197
Talking Back	p. 206
Getting in the Last Word	p. 207
Aggressive Behavior	p. 208
More Difficult Problems
Accepting Too Well	p. 217
Painful Problems in Their Lives	p. 221
Sensitive Children	p. 223
Children Who Worry	p. 225
Bad Experience in Early Childhood - Trauma	p. 229
Difficult Children	p. 230
The Awesome Task of Parenting
Conclusion: Having a Childhood	p. 237
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