It's Never Too Late to Be Happy! : Reparenting Yourself for Happiness

by Unknown

• ISBN13: 9781884956263
• ISBN10: 1884956262
• Edition: Revised
• Format: Trade Paper
• Copyright: 2002-03-01
• Publisher: Quill Driver Books

Summary

Internationally-known speaker, marriage and family counselor, therapist, and author/coauthor of 19 books, including the 4.2-million-copy best-sellerBorn to Win, Muriel James continues to offer her insights, warmth, and support withIt's Never Too Late to Be Happy, a step-by-step guide that shows the reader how to be a better self-parent in order to find true happiness at any age.

Table of Contents

An Action Plan for Happiness	1	(28)
A Look Ahead	1	(1)
Defining the Word	2	(2)
Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness	4	(1)
In the Beginning	5	(3)
Personality Perspectives	8	(1)
A Theory for Understanding Personality	9	(4)
Imagining a New Life	13	(1)
Complying, Rebelling, and Withdrawing Responses	14	(2)
The Essence of Self-Reparenting	16	(1)
The Importance of Teachers, Mentors, and Coaches	17	(1)
Praise for Being You	18	(1)
Motivating Oneself for Self-Reparenting	19	(2)
Previewing the Action Plan	21	(2)
Getting Started	23	(1)
Discovery Tools	24	(5)
Expanding Your Options	29	(20)
A Look Ahead	29	(1)
Longing for Something More	30	(1)
The Value of Dissatisfaction	31	(1)
The Desire for Liberty	32	(2)
Expanding Your Expectations for Success	34	(2)
More or Less at Home	36	(2)
Typical Parenting Styles	38	(4)
The Issue of Control	42	(1)
Discovery Tools	43	(6)
Recognizing the Need for Self-Reparenting	49	(24)
A Look Ahead	49	(1)
Change Is a Process	50	(1)
Life as a Drama	51	(3)
Family Loyalty	54	(1)
The Internalized Parents	55	(2)
Parental Injunctions	57	(5)
Escaping from Injunctions	62	(1)
When Cultures Act as Parents	63	(2)
New Power for Change	65	(1)
Discovery Tools	66	(7)
Learning to Be Happy	73	(28)
A Look Ahead	74	(1)
Creativity and Logical Thinking	74	(2)
Fieldwork on Parenting	76	(2)
The Three Ps in Parent Education	78	(2)
Teachers as Parents	80	(2)
A Curriculum for Parenting	82	(2)
Education in Feeling	84	(2)
Mad, Sad, Scared, or Happy?	86	(4)
Tough Love/Tender Love	90	(1)
Learning Something New	91	(1)
Discovery Tools	92	(9)
Listening to Yourself with Love	101	(24)
A Look Ahead	101	(1)
Born to Love	102	(1)
How Needs and Wants Are Adapted	103	(3)
``Nobody Loves Me''	106	(1)
The Importance of Touch	107	(2)
Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child	109	(1)
Listening to Self-Talk	110	(1)
When There Are No Words	111	(1)
When Dialogue is Only Monologue	112	(1)
Needs and Wants Are Not the Same	113	(1)
Love Is Action	114	(3)
Listen with Love	117	(1)
Discovery Tools	118	(7)
Discovering Your Powers	125	(28)
A Look Ahead	126	(1)
Happiness by Legislation	126	(1)
Steps to Personal Power	127	(2)
The Power of Hope	129	(2)
The Power of Will	131	(2)
The Power of Purpose	133	(1)
The Power of Competence	134	(2)
The Power of Fidelity	136	(1)
The Power of Love	137	(3)
The Power of Caring	140	(1)
The Power of Wisdom	141	(2)
Positive Values with the Loss of Power	143	(2)
Discovery Tools	145	(8)
Self-Contracting for Happiness	153	(24)
Trusting Yourself	154	(2)
Problems of Inconsistency	156	(1)
Planning for Change	157	(1)
Contracting Theory	158	(1)
Goal Setting for Success	159	(2)
Designing Specific Goals	161	(1)
Time as a Basic Requirement	162	(1)
Energy and Motivation	163	(1)
The Need to Change Habits	164	(1)
The Cost of Change	165	(1)
The Possibility of Sabotage	166	(2)
Success Shows	168	(1)
When Others Judge	169	(1)
A First-Aid Kit for Emergencies	170	(1)
Discovery Tools	171	(6)
Celebrating Your Success	177	(16)
A Look Ahead	177	(1)
Life as a Movable Feast	178	(1)
Celebration Takes Many Forms	179	(1)
Losing the Energy to Celebrate	180	(3)
Deciding to Forgive	183	(2)
Laughter: The Medicine That Heals	185	(1)
Messages From Your New Parent, Coach, or Mentor	186	(1)
Discovery Tools	187	(6)
Selected Bibliography	193	(2)
Index	195	(103)
About the Author	298