Joy of Sex : Fully Revised and Completely Updated for the 21st Century

by COMFORT, ALEX

• ISBN13: 9781400046140
• ISBN10: 1400046149
• Edition: Revised
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2002-10-01
• Publisher: Crown

Summary

Nothing compares toThe Joy of Sex Since 1972, more than 8 million people have come to this wise, witty, and uninhibited bestselling guide to lovemaking and found all they wanted to know about achieving greater sexual satisfaction. They have discovered how sex can be playful and imaginative, erotic and passionate, pleasurable and exhilarating. Now, with this fully revised 30th anniversary edition,The Joy of Sexpromises to captivate an entirely new generation of readers. Beautifully designed and lavishly illustrated,The Joy of Sexprovides a fresh view of sexuality in the 21st century. Filled with provocative illustrations and 16 pages of new full-color photography, the updated text continues to discuss a wide range of subjects in practical detail while still maintaining Dr. Alex Comfort's no-nonsense yet fun approach to matters of the libido.The Joy of Sexremains the most comprehensive sex manual on the market. From current concerns about health and practicing responsible sex to the risks presented by AIDS and other venereal diseases, Dr. Comfort contends with every aspect of our sexual territory. Above all, this remarkable book emphasizes the importance of a happy and relaxed sexuality in our lives. Now more than ever,The Joy of Sexis for people who want to make their lovemaking richer and more exciting. Complete with elegant photographs and superb drawings that capture in full, frank detail the intimacy of the act of love, it is undoubtedly a contemporary classic.

Author Biography

DR. ALEX COMFORT was one of the world’s leading experts in the field of human sexuality and one of the most versatile authors of the 20th century. He was known throughout the world for his frank and funny writings on love and sex, and was, essentially, the inventor of the modern sex manual. A pioneer in the study of old age, cofounder of the Campaign for Nuclear Disarmament, social commentator, novelist, and poet, he wrote more than 50 books but is best known for The Joy of Sex series. In the course of his distinguished and varied career, Dr. Comfort worked as a head of research on gerontology at University College London, a lecturer at the Department of Psychiatry at Stanford University, and an adjunct professor at the Neuropsychiatric Institute at the University of California, Los Angeles. He was also a member of the Royal Society of Medicine and an associate member of the American Psychiatric Association. He died in March 2000 at the age of 80.

Table of Contents

Preface	6	(2)
Alex Comfort
On Advanced Lovemaking	8	(10)
Ingredients	18	(40)
love
fidelity
safe sex
tenderness
women (by her for him)
men (by him for her)
nakedness
exhibitionism
cassolette
deodorant
vulva
mons pubis
breasts
buttocks
penis
foreskin
scrotum
semen
size
skin
lubrication
earlobes
navel
armpit
feet
big toe
hair
public hair
Appetizers	58	(28)
real sex
food
dancing
exercises
clothed intercourse
femoral intercourse
kisses
handwork
pattes d'araignee
friction rub
feathers
tongue bath
blowing
bites
fighting
Main Courses	86	(50)
postures
mouth music
variety
matrimonial
missionary position
upper hands
frontal
inversion
flanquette
x position
standing positions
rear entry
postillionage
negresse
croupade
cuissade
florentine
saxonus
pompoir
birdsong at morning
little death
come again
relaxation
waking
Sauces	136	(46)
playtime
chinese style
indian style
japanese style
turkish style
south slav style
substitutes
karezza
horse
goldfish
viennese oyster
clothes
stockings
g-string
chastity belt
shoes
boots
corsets
leather
rubber
ice
wet look
masks
equipment
mirrors
voyeurs
pornography
gadgets and gimmicks
slow masturbation
bondage
harness
chains
vibrators
discipline
foursomes and moresomes
Venues	182	(16)
beds
quickies
bathing
showerbath
jokes and follies
open air
swings
rocking chair
railways
motorcars
motorcycle
horseback
remote control
Health and Other Issues	198	(40)
AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases
health and doctors
bidet
naked apes
virginity
frigidity
children
normality
frequency
excesses
importence
priapism
hairtrigger trouble
menopause
age
obesity
bisexuality
hazards
prostitution
anal intercourse
pain
fetishes
transvestism
perversion
birth control
infertility
termination
Index	238

Excerpts

On Gourmet Lovemaking
All of us, barring any physical limitations, are able to dance and sing — after a fashion. This, if you think about it, summarizes the justification for learning to make love. Love, in the same way as singing, is something to be taken spontaneously. On the other hand, the difference between Pavlova and the Palais de Danse, or opera and barbershop singing, is much less than the difference between sex as our recent ancestors came to accept it and sex as it can be.
At least we recognize this now (so that instead of worrying if sex is sinful, most people now worry whether they are “getting satisfaction” — one can worry about anything, given the determination). And there are now enough books about the basics; we are largely past the point of people worrying about the nor­mality, possibility, and variety of sexual experience. This book is slightly differ­ent, in that there are now enough people who have those basics and want more depth of understanding, solid ideas, and inspiration.
To draw a parallel, chef-grade cooking doesn’t happen naturally: it starts at the point where people know how to prepare and enjoy food, are curious about it and willing to take trouble preparing it, read recipe hints, and find they are helped by one or two techniques. It’s hard to make mayonnaise by trial and error, for instance. Gourmet sex, as we define it, is the same — the extra one can get from comparing notes, using some imagination, trying way-out or new experi­ences, when one already is making satisfying love and wants to go on from there.
This book will likely attract four sorts of readers. First, there are those who don’t fancy it, find it disturbing, and would rather stay the way they are — these should put it down, accept our apologies, and stay the way they are. Second, there are those who are with the idea, but don’t like our choice of techniques — remember, it’s a menu, not a rulebook.
Third, most people will use our notes as a personal one-couple notebook from which they might get ideas. In this respect we have tried to stay wide open. One of the original aims of this book was to cure the notion, born of non-discussion, that common sex needs are odd or weird; the whole joy of sex-with­love is that there are no rules, so long as you enjoy, and the choice is practically unlimited. We have, however, left out long discussion of very specialized sexual preferences; people who like these know already what they want to try.
The final group of readers are the hardy experimentalists, bent on trying absolutely everything. They too will do best to read this exactly like a cookbook — except that sex is safer in this respect, between lovers, in that you can’t get obese or atherosclerotic on it, or give yourself ulcers. The worst you can get, given sensible safety precautions, is sore, anxious, or disappointed. However, one needs a steady basic diet of quiet, loving, night-and-morning intercourse to stand this experimentation on, simply because, contrary to popular ideas, the more regular sex a couple has, the higher the deliberately contrived peaks — just as the more you cook routinely, the better and the more reliable banquets you can stage.
One specific group of readers deserves special note. If you are disabled in any way, don’t stop reading. A physical disability is not an obstacle to fulfilling sex. In counseling disabled people, one repeatedly finds that the real disability isn’t a mechanical problem but a mistaken idea that there is only one “right” — or enjoyable — way to have sex. The best approach is probably to go through the book with your partner, marking off the things you can do. Then pick some­thing appealing that you think you can’t quite do, and see if there is a strategy you can develop together. Talking to other couples where o

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