Law of Connection The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships

by Losier, Michael J.

• ISBN13: 9780446545044
• ISBN10: 044654504X
• Format: Hardcover
• Copyright: 2009-06-01
• Publisher: Grand Central Life & Style

Summary

Married couples...dating couples...parents and children...teachers and students...office workers...management and staff...business to business... There is a simple solution to improving your communication and building better, healthier relationships. It's called Law of Connection. Make it work for you! Are there certain people you cannot seem to communicate with-- at home, at work, or in your community? You say one thing, they hear something different. You simply do not understand one another, and you cannot explain why. The only thing you are certain of is that the lack of connection leads to disappointment, frustration, and conflict. Now in LAW OF CONNECTION, Michael J. Losier gives you the key to successful communication. Using the principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), you will soon master the few simple skills needed to create better understanding with people in every aspect of your life. With tips, tools, exercises, and scripts to guide you, you will discover: --the three conditions for connecting --techniques for calibrating your conversations --four easy methods for effective communication --tips for creating positive rapport in all kinds of situations --a special section for teachers, trainers, and anyone who makes group presentations. Bring LAW OF CONNECTION home to your family and introduce it into your workplace. Watch and listen as communication improves wherever you are, and your relationships become fuller, richer, and free of conflict.

Author Biography

Michael J. Losier was introduced to the subject of Law of Attraction in 1995 and became a certified NLP practitioner. A faculty member of the Law of Attraction Training Center, he grew up in a blue-collar community in New Brunswick, Canada, and now makes his home in Victoria, B.C., Canada.

Table of Contents

Why I Wrote This Book	p. vii
How This Book Will Improve Your Relationships	p. ix
How to Use This Book	p. xi
Why Is the Law of Connection a Law?	p. xiii
The 3 Conditions for Connecting
Rapport-Condition 1	p. 3
Calibrating-Condition 2	p. 4
Understanding Communication Styles-Condition 3	p. 7
NLP Communication Style Self-Assessment
The Self-Assessment Questionnaire	p. 11
Your Self-Assessment Summary Worksheet	p. 14
Your Communication Processing Style Score Sheet	p. 15
Understanding Your Score Results	p. 16
Understanding Your Relationships with Others	p. 17
Once You Know Your Scores, Then What?	p. 18
The 4 NLP Communication Styles
Why Recognizing Your Own and Other People's Communication Styles Matters	p. 21
The Visual Communicator	p. 24
The Auditory Communicator	p. 33
The Kinesthetic Communicator	p. 43
The Digital Communicator	p. 53
Calibrating Your Conversations
Calibrate in Order to Connect	p. 65
Visual Vicky Wants to Make a Sale	p. 66
Auditory Allan Breaks Rapport with His Girlfriend	p. 70
Kinesthetic Kelly Connects with a Coworker	p. 74
Digital Dan Helps His Child with Her Homework	p. 78
The 4 Easy Methods You Can Use to Make Better Connections
Reframing, Future Pacing, Installing, and Positive Presupposition	p. 85
Reframing	p. 86
Future Pacing	p. 88
Installing	p. 90
Positive Presupposition	p. 92
Making Connections in Every Aspect of Your Life
Creating Positive Connections	p. 97
Spouses and Partners	p. 99
Parents and Children	p. 102
Coaches, Counselors, and Their Clients	p. 106
Teachers and Their Students	p. 110
Supervisors and Staff	p. 114
Salespeople and Customers	p. 118
Website Owners and Their Visitors	p. 121
Ten Special Techniques Teachers and Trainers Can Use to Connect and Accelerate Learning
The Techniques and What They Do	p. 127
Asking Enrolling Questions	p. 128
Getting Quick Answers Out Loud	p. 130
Insisting on an Answer	p. 132
"Repeat after Me . . ."	p. 133
Getting Students to Fill In the Blanks	p. 135
"This Is Important-Write It Down"	p. 137
Changing the Energy in the Room	p. 138
Sharing with a Neighbor	p. 139
Sharing in Small Groups	p. 141
Group Recap	p. 143
Applying This Book to Your Life	p. 145
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